I have heard a very interesting metaphor: “a happy marriage is concluded between a blind woman and a deaf man.”

It looks like a joke, but it makes sense to think about it.

In a family, if two people are serious, life is too tired and marriage will not last long.

And most of those who have a successful marriage have learned to pretend to be stupid.

Playing silly is not pandering, but respecting

There is a blogger who tells her parents’ marriage story on the Internet. It’s very interesting.

Her parents have been envious of her happiness for 25 years.

Her mother is a beauty lover and often buys new clothes without telling her father.

When you buy new clothes, you won’t wear them immediately. Instead, you cut out the tag of new clothes and secretly put it in the cabinet for several days before you take it out and wear it.

When my father asked, did you buy new clothes?

The mother replied, no, I have bought it for a long time.

Father smiled and didn’t care, but he knew in his heart that this was the new dress his mother bought.

Sometimes on weekends, my father would shut the door and secretly play games on the pretext of working overtime in the study.

Mother didn’t say anything. Sometimes she washed the fruit and sent it in.

When she was a child, she never understood why her parents knew each other was lying, but they didn’t reveal it?

She didn’t understand until she got married.

The two are married together, not in prison.

You can’t get everything straight out and clear.

Be silly and respect each other. If you care too much and calculate too much, your life will be boring.

As Professor Zeng Shiqiang said:

Before marriage, keep your eyes wide open. After marriage, keep one eye open and one eye closed.

In this way, everyone can live a good life. It is definitely not to deceive themselves, but to respect both sides.

No one can stand being picky. As long as you are picky, there must be something wrong with the other party.

If a person makes a careful choice, you should not be picky and picky.

It’s not easy to choose a person. If you can’t live with him every day, you can’t live with yourself.

Since she and her husband learned the secret of their parents’ happy marriage, they found that life could be so beautiful.

Playing silly in marriage is not hypocrisy and catering to each other, but mutual respect.

Yes, marriage is like a double spring. Only when we pretend to be stupid together can we have endless fun.

Those little hobbies and things that do not violate the principle and bottom line.

Take a step back from each other and solve the trivial things in life by pretending to be silly, so that life can be swaying and blooming.

Playing silly is not about reason, but about love

There is a topic on the Internet:

“What happened to those men who like to reason with their wives?”

Here is a highly praised answer:

“Most of the men who like to reason with their wives have become ex husbands. If you are reasonable, please go to court. Home is a place for love.”

One remark reveals the truth of marital happiness:

Home is a place of love, not a place of reason.

There are too many things in life, ranging from what to eat for dinner today to what kindergarten children go to and whether to report for extracurricular classes.

Teeth and tongue will fight and collide, not to mention two people living together.

Many things are never right or wrong, and there is no need to argue about right or wrong.

It’s not cost-effective to win the truth and lose the feelings.

Chen Ming once talked about one of his personal experiences.

Once, he went shopping with his wife.

His wife took a fancy to a bag and wanted to buy it.

When his wife looked at the bag, he glanced at the label next to it. The price of the bag was more expensive.

Chen Ming pulled his wife aside behind the back of the shopping guide, saying that diligence and thrift are virtues, the economic situation of his family, the benefits of supporting domestic goods and so on.

He thought he had persuaded his wife, but the wife blinked and asked him whether his reasons were important or whether she was more important?

What can Chen Ming do?

I had to swipe my bank card and bought the expensive bag that my wife liked.

Chen Ming is the champion of wonderful works. He speaks eloquently in the debate. Is he really unable to argue with his wife?

The ancients said that the way of saints is not to fight for.

This is especially true of marriage.

When two people get along in marriage, if they care about everything and argue for right and wrong, no matter how good the relationship is, it will wear away.

In fact, not buying this bag is a better choice for them at present.

But Chen Ming is willing to pretend to be silly and argue with his wife. He buys this bag to make her happy.

It’s hard to buy a beloved wife. A wife is more important than truth.

As an online saying goes:

“No one is a fool. But sometimes we choose to pretend to be a fool to feel what is called happiness.”

Playing silly is not giving in, but loving

I was deeply impressed by the couple Lin Dawei and Wang Shengnan in the youth school.

Husband Lin Dawei is kind and honest, while his wife Wang Shengnan has a quick temper and explosive temper. He is a little clean and often nags his husband.

“The toothpaste has to be squeezed from the middle. I don’t change my pants after wearing them for several days. I don’t fold the quilt when I get up. I know how to chirp when I eat…”

For his wife’s accusations, Lin Dawei never answered back. He smiled and said, “you have a reason.”

Some people say that Lin Dawei is too spineless and succumbs to his wife. He has a posture of “bowing his head and saying his ears”. What his wife says is what she says.

In fact, this is a skill for him to deal with the contradictions in family life, pretending to be a fool.

I can’t hear your accusation against me. If you say I’m wrong, I’m wrong.

This kind of foolishness seems to be a kind of submission, which seems to have no position in the family. In fact, it is the love of the other half.

Because Lin Dawei understands that his wife takes care of the family’s life and has to go out to work and work hard. As a husband, his wife has a little temper. If she can bear it, she must bear it.

It’s not easy to understand your and be willing to tolerate your bad temper.

“The most difficult company in the world is the family; the most difficult relationship is husband and wife,” said Han Gotman in happy marriage

Marriage has never been a fairy tale, and there is no perfect partner.

The art of marriage is not to expect the husband to be a god wearing a halo and the wife to be a flying angel.

It is not to ask the other party to be perfect, but to cultivate toughness, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

Looking at those people who are happy in marriage, they will appropriately pretend to be stupid in marriage, so as to harvest its sweetness and beauty.

Read a sentence:

“Only a few people in the world can interpret love incisively and vividly, grow up in love, and combine their own life with their partner’s life until they die.

The secret of their life together is