Help children adjust their learning pressure and study happily and effectively

Do children need pressure or not? Research shows that a completely stress-free environment can also make people anxious, depressed, idle, lack confidence and motivation, which is not as relaxed and pleasant as we think. And too much pressure will make children have psychological boredom and resistance, and even cause psychological and physiological disorders and diseases, which is contrary to our original intention of educating children. Children’s pressure mainly comes from the family and social environment. If parents do not understand their children’s psychological law, they will artificially create pressure and affect their children’s learning effectiveness.

Wrong educational methods will increase children’s psychological pressure

I am a primary school teacher. Parents have high expectations and requirements for teachers. However, in my work, I also found that different families have different educational methods and have different effects on children. I am also the parent of a 7-year-old child. Of course, sometimes I involuntarily treat my child with simple and rough methods, and even bring my bad emotions home. What impact will parents’ incorrect educational methods have on their children and how should they pay attention to overcome it?

A primary school teacher

In the past, it was often said that “a piece of white paper can draw the latest and most beautiful picture”. In fact, the psychological state of a child after birth is also like a piece of white paper. The psychological quality of parents, rearing methods and other factors determine the direction of children’s psychological development to a great extent. When some parents bring their children for consultation, they always tell their children that this is not good and that is not good. However, many problems are caused by parents’ morbid psychology.

The impact of parents’ psychological problems on their children

First, parents with strong competitive spirit and high vanity will put forward too high requirements for their children, so that their children’s body and mind will bear overload pressure, which will eventually lead to their children’s psychological disorders and even diseases. For example, one parent arranged all kinds of training courses for a 7-year-old child in his spare time, including piano, painting, English, calligraphy, chess, composition and so on. As a result, the child had mental disorder due to too much tension. Under the close supervision of their parents, some children seem to study the exam for their parents. They can study normally. They are very nervous when it comes to the exam. They have insomnia, anorexia, hysteria and so on. Some even have to give up near the exam.

Second, parents’ over pickiness and perfectionism will cause many psychological obstacles to children. For example, parents have a lot of requirements for their children’s homework, which leads to the repeated description, erasure and erasure of each stroke of their children’s writing. As a result, their actions are delayed, and sometimes they can’t finish the exam. In serious cases, they will have symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Third, parents’ tension and anxiety will be transmitted to their children. Some children are weak and sickly, and their parents are very worried. They often complain, fidgety and nagging, and pay too much attention to their children. As a result, their children become sensitive, suspicious, inferiority complex, retreat and neurotic.

Fourth, parents who always deny their children easily lose their self-confidence. Parents always want their children to perform as well as they did when they were young, or even better. If they have any shortcomings, they will criticize them and take beating and scolding as a routine. There was a 5-year-old child who often lost his temper and didn’t work often. He asked him why he did this. He said, “because he always does things badly, he gets told by his mother that he has to say it three times a day without praise, so he wants to lose his temper.”

There will always be problems in the process of children’s growth. Parents should tolerate their children’s shortcomings and wait patiently for their children to grow up. When you find your child’s problems, first reflect on your own problems, relax a little, solve your own problems, and your child’s problems will be solved easily. If you can’t solve it yourself, you can find a psychologist to help analyze and correct it.