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Although EQ is an overused topic, I still want to talk about EQ today.
If IQ is the skeleton, EQ is the skin bag and a tool for dealing with people
So we often say that when we get along, we feel that he has high Eq.
How terrible are people with low EQ?
Yes, low EQ and low EQ are not the same concept. In terms of EQ, it is divided into high EQ, high EQ, low EQ and low Eq.
It doesn't matter whether EQ is very high or not. Some people are not good at using EQ naturally. You have to let people nail a mold, and it's impossible. Just as there are specialties in the art industry, many people are not sociable.
But low EQ is troublesome.
Because it's bad.
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The first time I knew that low EQ would be bad was when I was still an intern.
One day, a big brother lost a deal of more than 5 million.
The boss vomited blood in anger.
The specific process is that, in fact, it is almost at the stage of signing the contract. This big brother sends relevant information to the other customer. I didn't contact the other party after I sent it.
The other party came to urge the contract. Where's your contract?
The big brother said that he had faxed it to you. Go to the fax room and have a look.
The other party's supervisor said that he agreed to send it in person, but it's ok if he doesn't send it. But after you fax, at least give me a call. There are so many faxes in our company and the contract is so important that I have to get it at the first time.
The big brother said, I'm really busy today. You're not the only one. I have other things to do. Please understand.
Well, it's bad.
Just because I said, I'm really busy today. The implication is that the other party's customers are not important enough. And, no matter how much understanding you say, it's useless.
In the afternoon, the boss received a phone call from the other party, saying that cooperation would be suspended temporarily, because among customers, in addition to product cooperation, it is more important to get along well.
It was the first time I saw the boss try to hold back his anger and call the big brother into the office. But his face is blue.
My master told me that EQ is very important. You can eat at random, but you can't talk at random. Shopping malls are like battlefields. Without good armor, they are ready to die at any time.
Later, the eldest brother resigned. In fact, he was dismissed.
But the boss gave him a decent way to resign and gave him half a year's salary.
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I met the boss later at a dinner party. Several bosses exchange the recruitment of the new year.
They almost invariably mentioned: if you don't even have a minimum EQ, forget it.
1、 If you enter the company and encounter an inquiry, you won't even say "hello" or "excuse me", just pass.
2、 If you have a chance, have a meal when choosing the final candidate. The dining table is very personal. Of course, it is definitely not a test of alcohol consumption.
"If you, as a boss, you add water to them twice and he still doesn't know to take the initiative to add water to you, it shows that you have a very low understanding of Eq. it doesn't matter if you don't know how to learn when you just leave school.
If you always turn the turntable when eating, please note that it keeps turning, which means that this person may have poor teamwork and be self-centered.
If she always refutes and criticizes others, I will also vote against it. You can be honest, but it's not the right time. If you are too straight, you have low Eq.
In other words, it's also a habit problem. He said this in front of his boss with his new colleagues today. It's hard to ensure that he won't show up in front of customers next time. "
An old friend of mine said that high EQ may not be successful, but low EQ is bound to be bad.
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Some days ago, I asked the editor about the growth of women in the new media. Their official number is still in its infancy, because it was introduced by a friend, and I agreed.
I usually reply by email, so I tell him my email after communication.
Two days later, I received an email message. He didn't remind me. I don't mind.
After I received it, I immediately sent them a wechat: Thank you, hard work. Will reply in these two days.
No one paid any attention.
Half a day later, I replied and sent them a message: the email has been sent. If you have any questions, you can contact me.
Ten minutes later, I received their reply: Yes.
There is no "thank you", and of course there is no gratitude. I didn't want them to thank me, but I think the minimum politeness of "thank you" should always be.
I dare not go with my friend. I'm still a person who attaches great importance to face and don't want to embarrass my friend.
Later, my friend told me that the editor was out of the basket. The editor in chief fired him.
"What's his attitude towards you?"
I said realistically, "EQ is very general."
My friend said that the editor went to interview a female entrepreneur. When I got there, I rushed into her office without knocking or saying hello, let alone making an appointment by phone.
Barely finished, as a result, there was no thanks. He said, "OK", closed his notebook and left.
The female entrepreneur later told the editor in chief that although she accepted your interview, she still hoped not to report it, and told the editor in chief the situation at that time.
"Your EQ represents your own EQ and the EQ of a company. Therefore, those with low EQ in the workplace are destined to be eliminated slowly."
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Daniel Gorman has a book called EQ: why EQ is more important than IQ. Not everyone agrees with this statement.
But I want to say that low EQ may be more terrible than low IQ.
Because people with low IQ may be rejected at the beginning. People with low EQ are likely to fish in troubled waters.
There is a saying that a really good HR can roughly measure each other's EQ at the first sight.
And we should avoid being a low EQ, at least make complaints about the so-called "pit", courteous, less emotional, smiling and less Tucao. After all, sometimes you can't afford to pay the EQ tax, which may pull back your life for many years.