Some people say that where you stand after the age of 30 is already doomed.
In this case, I still agree.
We often label someone as a "potential stock" and look forward to his future; It is often impolite to assert that someone will be like this in his life.
The reason why there is such a judgment is to look at the person's current state and whether he is going up or down.
If a person is constantly going up, even if he is in a relatively poor situation, the result is often gratifying.
So how to judge whether a person is going up?
There are three main signs!
one
Quietly work hard and enjoy solitude
As long as you go up, it's always hard and always needs to work hard.
At first glance, there seems to be no shortage of hard-working people in the world. Everyone is busy, but there are still great differences.
Some people are "aboveboard" efforts. After reading for a while and adding a class, the whole world will know; If you set a lofty ambition, you will make it known to the world.
Some people are "sneaky" efforts, quietly read dozens of books, reported for a foreign language training class after work in the evening, and silently got several certificates.
To put it bluntly, people who like to work hard are often not hard-working people. People who like to make up their mind are often people without ambition.
People who really work hard are usually silent.
Why do you have such a strong ability to host, Wang Han?
Wang Han's answer is as follows:
"Many people think I became like this out of thin air. In fact, I'm not. I'm a very hard-working person behind my back.
Since about ten or twenty years ago, I have never entered the practice room or soaked in it. I hide at home and read books every day.
I will chew the best sentences I think, or some thoughts that move me the most, constantly in my heart. Sometimes I even repeat those things in front of the mirror, just to be more natural when I say them. "
If a person is quietly trying to reduce low-quality social interaction and enjoy high-quality solitude more and more, it can be concluded that he is going uphill.
two
Feel anxious and have a sense of crisis
Many times, what is a more terrible state than being in danger?
I don't know I'm in danger.
Many people don't walk uphill because they think it's good to stay on the flat ground, so there's no need to walk up.
This has also directly caused many people to be in a "suicidal" state of eating and waiting for death, and muddle along with peace of mind.
Readers often ask me, uncle ha, I'm very anxious now. What should I do?
I don't think anxiety is entirely a bad thing. It may be a big sign that a person is getting better.
Really good people, or those who will get better and better in the future, often live with a sense of anxiety.
Two days ago, I chatted with a friend who opened a store. He said he was worried recently. The business in the store has declined for two consecutive months.
In fact, the business of his store is very good. The profit of 50000 or 60000 yuan a month is stable, but it has decreased a little in the past two months.
The reason why some people can always earn money and keep going up is often because they have a sense of crisis.
The stronger a person's sense of crisis and desire for survival, the stronger the executive power and the easier it is to jump out of the comfort circle.
three
Be grateful to your parents, be considerate of your lover, and understand responsibility and responsibility
I am an ordinary person, so my perspective is also very ordinary.
I have mentioned a point in my article many times: for ordinary people, taking good care of their family is a great success.
The reason why many people spend all day and don't work hard is that they have no responsibility and responsibility for their families.
Therefore, some people are still gnawing at the age of 30 or 40, while others just eat and drink, be natural and happy, and completely ignore their lovers and children.
To put it bluntly, such people are more selfish, and it is conceivable that they do not work hard enough, and the road will be narrower and narrower.
In my view of choosing friends, if a person is not good to his parents, harsh to his lover and irresponsible to his family, he is not worth communicating with.
Because such people often have no principles and no bottom line.
On the contrary, those prodigal children who wake up and turn back in time often change their mind because they finally understand the responsibility and responsibility after reading thousands of sails and seeing the vicissitudes of life.
This is also one of the signs that a person really gets better and starts to go uphill.
The upward road is always difficult, but it is worth our best efforts, because once we step on it, every step counts and will not be in vain.
May the road under your feet incline upward for the rest of your life!