Can two people who feel wronged in their emotions live well in marriage?

There is a hot post for help:

I’ve been with my girlfriend for nearly two years and I’ve always had a good relationship. Last night, I suddenly said that I wanted to increase the bride price to 200000 because I wanted to work harder.

I usually do the housework at home. 200000 is really stressful for me.

I didn’t dare to tell my parents about this. They must disagree. I don’t know how to face her now. What should I do?

Seeing this request for help, I couldn’t help humming coldly. Some women love money as much as they love money, but they also like to use the name of love. The reason is:

I hope you work harder. That’s why you need so many betrothal gifts.

Can the man ask you to send more dowry? The reason is: I hope you love me more?

If it were me, even if the other party was a fairy, I would decisively choose to break up.

Maybe many girls will say that breaking up so simply is because they don’t love enough. If they love enough, they will agree to any request.

I can only say that on this issue, the test is not whether a man loves or not, but the difference between maturity and childishness.

However, most mature and rational men will choose to break up.

Because everything is not isolated. The so-called maturity and wisdom is that you can see each other’s person, family and even the future life through one thing.

Why would I choose to break up if it were me?

The reason why I chose to break up is not because of the extra 80000 betrothal gifts, but from 120000 to 200000. There are too many things to see.

Can I have the bride price? Of course, it’s OK to have more points. After all, there is no standard for bride price gifts.

If the two are discussing the amount of the bride price at the moment, the man wants 120000 and the woman wants 200000, there is no problem. After all, it is still in the bargaining stage.

But now 120000 have been negotiated, which is like a contract between the two.

Then why did it suddenly increase from 120000 to 200000?

The reasons are nothing more than the following:

1. Parents think 120000 is too little and want 200000. The girl didn’t want to betray her parents, so she said she wanted to work harder;
2. 2. Seeing that there are more betrothal gifts from friends around you than yourself, it is unbalanced in an instant. I feel that I must have more points to show my face;
3. 3. I want more betrothal gifts to give me more protection, so I increased from 120000 to 200000.
4. If it is the first case, it means that the girl has no principles and doesn’t know how to refuse her parents’ unreasonable demands.
5. With such parents-in-law, the day of chicken feathers after marriage must be wonderful.
6. If it is the second case, it shows that the girl is very vain and has a strong sense of comparison.
7. The number one killer in marriage is comparison. Even if you drive a Rolls Royce, she still envies the helicopter. Can you guarantee that you are the first in the world?
8. Therefore, a wife with a heavy heart of comparison is a disaster for any man.
9. If it is the third case, it shows that the girl is not high-level and has no confidence in her ability. She only knows to ask a man for more money.
10. For those girls who really respect themselves, several will ask for a temporary increase after the bride price. Can they manage for a lifetime?
11. A temporary bride price is like suddenly tearing up a contract.
12. However, most families will be upset when they hear that the woman wants to add betrothal gifts, but they will not simply break up, but enter the next round of negotiations and finally clinch a deal with 160000.
13. But I will never enter the next round of negotiations. I will directly announce game over and leave the table.
14. This is really not a question of whether to love or not, but a person tearing up the contract. It is impossible to do it only once in a lifetime. There will be many troublesome things in the future!
15. Especially when she succeeded in her first proposal, she would feel that everything was ok as long as she made requirements, even if the requirements were not fully met, at least partially met.
16. Newly married people are on their honeymoon. Most men will also choose to be satisfied, but the price of each satisfaction is to consume patience.
17. More often, there are quarrels and the cold war.
18. To tell the truth, a warm and stable family is very important for a man.
19. If a man wants to have a foothold in this world and make a career, he can’t do without a warm family and a reasonable wife. Only in this way can a man give full play to his talents and lay a foundation for his wife and children.
20. But if the family is either quarrelling or cold war, can men not be distracted? Can you still work hard at your career?
21. Therefore, mature men understand this. Small emotions are harmless, but there must be no principled problems.
22. Even, we can think that the bride price from 120000 to 200000 is a test of the bottom line. If the boys agree this time, the drama of temporary overweight will be staged at any time in the future.
23. Tell you a little story!
24. A girl about to get married asked her boyfriend to pay all her wages after marriage.
25. My boyfriend agreed and said that my salary can be given to you, but I need to know the general orientation of funds.
26. The girl flew into a rage and said that you don’t believe me. If you don’t even trust me, what are you going to get married?
27. The boy asked everyone, can we get married in this situation?
28. Then, someone found a marriage lawyer for him and wanted the lawyer to give him some professional advice. The lawyer said: don’t introduce me to him. I guarantee that he can’t afford to pay the lawyer’s fees in the future divorce.
29. Is it heartbreaking?
30. Because the lawyer has seen his future life from this matter.
31. But many men are not so straightforward, otherwise they won’t go online for help.
32. Most of them still want to get married. After all, people are emotional animals. Feelings don’t mean nothing.
33. So, we need to talk about how to get married.
34. First of all, you can’t add a penny to the bride price. This is the principle. If you agree to add the bride price, there will be endless trouble.
35. Let me take shopping as an example!
36. When you see a beautiful dress, you bargain and finally make a deal with 200 yuan, but when you pay, you say 200 is too expensive, 160 is OK?
37. If the other party doesn’t want to lose the business agreement, you will think: she made me a lot of money and promised 160. I knew I should pay 120 back. Maybe she would agree.
38. So, as long as you see this dress, you feel that you have lost money.
39. But if the other party doesn’t let it go, you won’t sell it to you for a penny less