I once wrote a sentence: follow bees, you can find flowers, follow flies, you can only find toilets.
The main meaning of this sentence is very simple: to be with people with positive energy, because people with negative energy are not only negative, but also mean to others. Being with them for a long time will make them full of negative energy.
A few days ago, a friend left a message to me. Do you have to be like a bee forever and grow into the sun in your workplace and study?
My answer is: there's nothing wrong with just entering the workplace and new fields and becoming a fly.
Biologists in the United States once did an experiment. They put two glass bottles under the sun and drilled a hole on them. They were small enough to get them out. Next, they put a fly and a bee in to see who flew out first.
We all know that bees are industrious, while flies are dirty and mindless. Therefore, bees should come out first. However, the final result was astonishing: when the bee was just put into the glass cover, it only flew towards the sun. After being blocked back by the glass, it still flew towards the light again and again until it was exhausted and finally died in the glass cover.
The fly is different. There is a word called headless fly. It can't be better described: when the fly is put into the glass cover, it begins to bump wildly without destination, and continues to bump after being dizzy. After some time, unexpectedly, most flies found the hole and flew out.
I read about this experiment in a book a few years ago. After reading this experiment, I feel like I was hit by something, because these two experiments are very similar to two types of people in our life: good students and poor students. Why do the good students in many schools fail to find the state after they first enter the work, while the "poor" students in many schools are like fish in water.
The reason is very simple: because many good students have been flying towards the sun. Even if the sun is dead, they don't want to take other ways. And many "poor" students will be flexible. If one road doesn't work, they will immediately think of another way.
Once I chatted with the boss of a start-up company. He told me a story: he said he recruited a famous college student and was ready to train him from the grass-roots level. First, let him start from answering the customer's phone and experience the front-line war situation.
Unexpectedly, every time a customer makes a slightly more complicated request, he replies: sorry, I'm not responsible for this; Or throw it directly to the leader and let the leader make a decision. But leaders have more important things to do every day. Many times they have to put down their work to answer the phone, which makes the efficiency of the whole company very low.
Later, the leader asked him, why can't you explain yourself? He said, first, I am not responsible; Second, during the training, no one told me how to answer this situation. I'm afraid I'll be blamed for making a mistake.
The boss took a deep breath when he said this, and then continued: later, I changed a boy to do it, and told him the example of the last intern. Later, as long as the customer calls, he can have his own explanation, and there is more than one set. He has a very strong ability to adapt to changes.
I asked quickly. Did he know this from the beginning?
The boss said, no, he didn't answer indiscriminately at the beginning, which made the department leaders scold bloody. Later, he thought about how to speak, which could calm the anger of customers, solve problems and reduce the trouble of the Department. Now he's doing well and we're ready to promote him.
I didn't have a chance to see this boy, but I know that he just entered the workplace. He was a fly. He didn't have a direction. He bumped his head and finally hit a blood path. He made many mistakes and was scolded many times, but he found his own direction. Now he can fly in this direction like a bee.
Someone asked, will you die if you hit it like this? Don't worry, you can't die. You'll die if you hit it blindly in one direction.
Anyone who enters a new field will know nothing in the first year. Fortunately, this is the best learning period.
In the first year of entering every new field, I will bump around like a fly without direction, but I can often hit a blood path, although I am injured all over. Some people say I'm lucky, but it's not. It's just that we took many wrong roads and found that we didn't succeed and didn't continue. But in the next year, once this road is determined, I will become a bee and fly in this direction in the next few years.
However, when you have no direction, you must have the spirit of flies, even if you are despised, even if you are aimless, even if you have nothing, even if you are black and blue.
Everyone who has just entered a new field will encounter the trouble of insufficient resources, insufficient contacts and unclear direction. Everyone is the same.
However, a smart person will not go one way to the dark, nor will he always go to the light. He will change his way at any time like a fly, which is not suitable for finding the next way immediately. After entering the workplace and society, people will understand that the knowledge in books and what the teacher has said can not be the light to guide you forward. Only the road that he can walk through is the light.
And this road was bumped out without fear. There is no good luck in this world. Good luck is the result of trying. The worst plan is to succeed late. However, all the wrong roads have been passed, and all the rest must be right.