My ex boyfriend J is the highest EQ person I have ever met.
No matter elders, friends, younger generation, or even children, they almost have zero negative comments on him. Good tutoring, polite, and good sense of propriety.
As long as he is at the friend party, everyone will be very comfortable. He will naturally become the center, and then distribute everyone's parts and highlights like a director.
Even strangers such as waiters, cleaning aunts and taxi drivers greet and greet with a smile, and make a joke at will.
He will remember every important person's birthday, and he will choose suitable gifts for his elders to visit before the holiday.
As long as any friend has emotional problems or falls into pessimism and sadness, as long as he chats with him, he will listen and enlighten patiently.
I always felt very lucky and happy to be his girlfriend at the beginning. He knows me better than I do. He plays with small sentiment and romance smoothly. People are always excited and bumpy. There is no need to say more. He has done it for you.
It is reasonable to say that such a person should live freely and happily. But when I became closer and closer to him, I gradually found that he didn't love the world.
Many of the answers here feel that people with high EQ should live happily, that the world is an amusement park, and that everything can be understood and solved.
But in fact, in his eyes, he felt that many people and things in the world were unreasonable.
When he chatted with me, he talked about other people's troubles. The most frequently said mantra is that if people like to ask for trouble, they will get what they want.
He felt that most people's pain and troubles were self inflicted. He could understand but could not sympathize.
The world in his eyes is more noisy, false, stupid, greedy and ugly.
The world he presents to others is simple, pure, gentle and beautiful.
Many times, I feel that he simply lives with a mask, and no one has really seen him under the mask, which is frightening.
This contrast makes me very unaccustomed. However, after slowly understanding it, I found that it is difficult for a person with high EQ like him to find friends who are true confidants and people who can be trusted.
People like him know how to take advantage of the weaknesses and defects of human nature and easily walk into the safe and comfortable area of others' hearts. But when he saw the poverty and ignorance of others, he would scoff and leave quietly.
He is young, has no background and no resources, but many people are willing to provide opportunities and take the initiative to help, so that he can get along with the wind and water and be young and talented. On the surface, he can do his kung fu very well and give people a sense of sincerity, but I know that at the bottom of his heart, he didn't let anyone really approach himself.
Once it appears, for example, I will gradually see the dark and cold side of his heart.
He has a good view of people and a thorough view of many things. When something happens in his circle of friends, he can see the clue in advance. Then he would say: the vast majority of people can never see themselves or others. So they cry in stupidity and destroy in desire. Hehe, you deserve it. It's always strange to hear such words too much.
He felt that in fact, he was happiest only when he was alone in the room, reading and meditating in a daze.
Really smart people have no friends. Because even if they meet the same kind, they will be sensitive to find and avoid.
His loneliness goes deep into the bone marrow. Anyone who wants to approach rashly will be pushed away mercilessly. It's just that it's more technical.
In fact, for people with high EQ, it's like a game master who keeps playing games with rookies, but pretends to be very interested and happy. Very tired.
He is very kind to me, but I am always afraid that I will be as capricious, stupid, selfish and greedy as others in his eyes.
Later, I took the initiative to leave him, and he didn't ask me to stay. Just smiled bitterly and said: it seems that I am still suitable for a person
I smile: maybe, living a little confused will make you happier.