Although I'm used to being alone, and I don't have a friend in the city where I live, after all, living in this complex society, I don't jump out of a stone. Even if I jump out of a stone, there will be endless concerns of monkeys and grandchildren. Therefore, far away are familiar strangers who powder each other on Weibo, friends who haven't talked in QQ for a long time, and near are neighbors, property security guards and occasional visiting relatives.
In my own eyes, I am not usually the same person as in their eyes.
In the eyes of my friends on the Internet, I am almost a 24-hour robot without any entertainment or interest. I can play boxing before going to bed and play chess when I encounter a bottleneck.
In the eyes of the security guard, I am a Shopaholic. I receive express delivery all day and buy everything in a mess. Basically, I don't go shopping. Going out is also going to the supermarket. Every time I enter the supermarket, I have to buy a full cart. They don't like people like me. They think that if I don't do anything every day, I can't spend all my money, and they are tired and can't earn anything.
In the eyes of relatives and friends, I am a stubborn person who never listens to advice. I stubbornly give up my home business and do an invisible business. Although he has made some money, he is not a black sheep, but he is definitely not a wise man. Wise people should do business like them.
In my own eyes, I can only be divided into me before the age of 25 and me after the age of 25. The key words of life before the age of 25 are love, dream, family, health and career. After the age of 25, the dream was directly removed and turned into career, health, family and love.
You're right. In addition to the dream of being shaved off, love has changed from the first to the last in my life. I'm afraid one day it will be shaved off like a dream.
No matter before or after the age of 25, there is no connection between myself in my eyes and me in others' eyes. Everyone's concerns are completely different. Everything I care about is insignificant in their view.
This is life. I believe most people's life is like this. They can only live in their own vision and live by themselves. If you put yourself down and listen to the advice of anyone around you, you will be farther and farther away from the real you. No matter what you gain in the end, you will not be happy.
However, there are some people who care about other people's eyes very much and want to live the kind of life in other people's eyes, so they do things they are not good at and don't like. The only safe thing to do is to get sympathy if you fail, because you don't stick to your own course.
But what is the value of compassion? It is only a placebo for losers. If you accept sympathy, you will admit your failure. After others give sympathy in front of you, they can't help laughing at you in front of others.
I recall that all the decisions I made in my life did not refer to other people's opinions and suggestions. Although those opinions were in good faith, the consequences always had to be borne by me, so the key was to think for myself.
In all the big and small decisions I have made, the wrong ones always lead me to detours. For example, choose a girl who is unreliable and criticized by others, and choose a job that you are not good at but looks cool. Fortunately, I finally bear the consequences of those troubles alone, never complaining about fate, nor blaming the people around me for not helping. Even in some cases, I am grateful for the consequences of these detours and troubles. It's like tasting bitter things first, and then eating sweets will feel extra sweet. After taking a detour, walking on the straight road will be particularly comfortable.
Therefore, the most important thing in life is choice. What is more important than choice is the responsibility after the results appear. No one can guarantee that your choice is right, but it doesn't matter if you're wrong. Just bear it bravely.
God especially likes those who dare to take responsibility. After taking responsibility, you will find that the result is not as bad as you think. Most people who cross over and fail rely too much on others when choosing. After the result, they are frightened by their own imagination and then avoid taking responsibility.
Although the emergence of the network world has destroyed many traditional things, it still brings countless convenient existence. For example, for the same thing, you can see more than 1000 different views on the Internet. This will give people countless reasons to interpret success and failure. Even if they are rich like Wang Sicong and successful like Ma Yun, many people still don't buy it and feel that each other's life is not perfect. Therefore, in our daily life, we can completely ignore the views of others, as long as we do not infringe on the legitimate interests of others and play as much as we want within our ability. If you cultivate this free and easy attitude, life will be more enjoyable and less difficult and tortuous.