It took a long time to understand and utilize meditation as a mom. I never thought I had time or space to meditate the way I used to before having children. Yes, I used to meditate before having children (crazy, huh).

Meditation Before Kids

Throughout most of my school years, I would go outside. My teen years were spent roaming around heavily wooded areas at my local park and developing neighborhoods a couple of streets down from my dad’s house. I felt free and connected to nature.

After having my first kid, I still did those things. Of course, I shared those little moments with my eldest daughter, hoping to have the picture-perfect moment I would see on TV and such. I stopped doing it when my folks would get on my hindquarters about taking a baby outside longer than 30 seconds during the summer and fall season.

Now that I’m a mom of four, I don’t have time to take them outside like I want to (and should). I see a lot of benefits for taking them. However, I have to push past these meditation myths so my family and I can enjoy the little things in life (inside and outside the house).

Meditation Myths I Kept Using for Nearly 10 Years

Like I mentioned earlier, it took a long time to let go of a lot of meditation myths. Here are some meditation myths I thought was true until my husband showed me it wasn’t. Now, I do it with ease…and with a hint of adult melatonin and “Mom Juice”.

“I Don’t Have the _____ to do That Yet”

As a child, my mom would say this to me A LOT! She would tell me she doesn’t have the money to put me in things or to get some special food. Sometimes she would have me ask my dad to see if he can help, which he would next payday, but it felt weird that the help was coming from him and not her.

Now, I see what she meant all those years.

Before meeting my husband, I was doing a lot on my own and supplying for my kids. Although I did food deliveries, I would save some of my tax money to buy things my kids need, like food, diapers, and some clothes. Then my life became very expensive when baby #3 and COVID-19 pandemic happened.

This stopped me for nearly 10 years!

Look, the best way I fixed this issue is by setting boundaries and changing the way I viewed my reality. Yes, we live paycheck to paycheck. Yes, I really want to pig out at five to six different restaurants without my waist trainer. However, that’s not going to happen yet if I keep a negative mindset.

This way of thinking also pairs well with mommy meditation. I have to set boundaries and work on reshaping how I think so I can grow my daily gratification as a parent. From there, I start telling myself and my kids when I am mentally available to make time for things and when I need time to slow down and embrace my changing environment.

Disclaimer: If it is an emergency, I am always available. I will always have time and space to hear my kids out, even if it takes a while to fix.

“I’m Not Good at Meditation”

So, I used to say this a lot. I never thought I was good or stable enough to meditate. It took some down time to realize that there’s no such thing as being “good” or “bad” at meditation. Oh, and lots of serious self-talk since I had to by my own hype man (or woman) throughout the process.

Final Thoughts?

Both myths I mentioned today stopped me from being at peace with myself. Yeah, I had some familial support along the way, but it didn’t feel right over time. I had to step outside of my comfort zone and push even harder with mommy meditation and mental blockage.

If you’re practicing meditation at all, don’t worry about what others are doing. Focus on yourself and do what you can. Also, you are your greatest hero and worst enemy. Sometimes the negative thing that comes out of your mouth can manifest in what you’re wanting to do in reality.