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A cousin's daughter, who is in her third year of high school, has always been obedient and sensible, but at a critical moment, she frequently skips classes. I heard that she has close contact with a boy outside the school. This makes my cousin very worried. She asked me to talk to my niece and persuade her. Focus on your studies.
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After I called her, I talked to her all over the world, and finally I asked quietly, if there is a boy I like in my heart, do you agree on which university to go to? There was silence for a while, and he said, again, to convince the education, you are the fifth. I said, no, absolutely not. Sister, I'm here to teach you my experience. People don't go crazy and waste their youth. If you don't do something good to match your youth, you will feel regretful after thinking about it.
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After relaxing her psychological defense, she revealed the truth: skipping classes was deliberately told by the head teacher to tell her mother, and there were no boys outside of school at all. It was just a way of her resistance to being arranged for life. From childhood to adulthood, she had had enough. This time in the college entrance examination, she did not want to accept being arranged again: go to an art school and come back to be a music teacher after graduation. That is her mother dream, not hers.
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Everyone knows the life they want best, and no one should make a decision about it, even parents, in the name of loving their children, decide everything for them. because. A's honey, B's arsenic.
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A few days ago, a friend drove his newly bought car and took his wife and children to the movies. After parking the car at the entrance of the studio, the family of three happily entered the screening hall.
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When they walked out of the studio after watching the movie, the smiles quickly froze on their faces. The car was so densely parked with other people's cars that it was impossible to drive out. After a family of three waited helplessly for a while in the warm and cold spring breeze, the child fell asleep due to sleepiness.
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After more than an hour, a car owner walked out from a nearby hotel and drove away.
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The next day, a friend called me and told me that he was going to sell the car. I said that the resale is the price of a used car, what a loss!
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He said that if you don’t sell it, you will lose money. The purpose of buying a car is to facilitate travel and improve the quality of life, not to add congestion. Not only is it difficult to park, but the time spent on the road is not blocked for a long time. The small town is not big, and it is not as good as electric cars. Convenience and eco-friendly bikes.
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At that moment, my friend's decision gave me a lot of shock. Between gain and loss, in many cases, loss is gain.

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At noon today, I heard such a story between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law from the dinner.
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My mother-in-law retired at home. She likes to study food, and strives to take good care of her family. Especially after the daughter-in-law is pregnant, three meals a day, even four or five meals, the meals are delicious and not heavy.
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On weekends, my daughter-in-law likes to sleep in late. Usually, her mother-in-law stays at home and doesn't go anywhere, in case her daughter-in-law gets up at any time and can quickly put a hot meal on the table. Occasionally, when something happened and I had to go out, my mother-in-law would write a note and put it into my daughter-in-law's room through the crack of the door. can eat.
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After three years of marriage, the daughter-in-law does not know the prices of washing powder, toothpaste, including vegetables and fruits. The mother-in-law never asked her daughter-in-law to buy a green onion, wash the bowl once, and drag the ground once. In their eyes, the daughter-in-law lived like a princess of an ancient imperial family, living a life of reaching out for her clothes and opening her mouth with food.
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But the daughter-in-law fights with her husband every day, arguing that she wants to live separately from her mother-in-law. For this reason, her husband was puzzled, and her relatives and friends couldn't understand it.
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She said that she just wanted to live her own life, no matter how hard or tired she was. She eats what the mother-in-law buys, and she uses what she buys. She never has the right not to eat or not to use it. In this home that can make people feel physically and mentally relaxed, other people decide what to eat, drink, and serve. This is not for enjoyment, but Suffering - the pain of being deprived of the joy of life.
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So many times, your kindness may not necessarily be fulfillment for others.