Yet another cancellation attempt

March 15th, 2024

What travels faster than light? Memes, culture, rumours…

(also the imagination, dreams, telepathy, quantum entanglement, astral plane, higher dimensions, wormholes, non-euclidean geometry)

Reputation matters to me
Situation is bizarre (on multiple levels)
I really wish I could simply “let it go”
But the rumours are spreading (small community)
Clearly not good for business

The Hero University pledge: https://draperuniversity.com/pledge

Instant lessons

Know the full story
Context matters
Show empathy

No mistakes, lessons in disguise. Remove mistakes = lessons with be removed too.

Factual record of what actually happened

Interaction 1

Hammocks. Night. Tight distance as not that many trees on the campsite. There is person A on hammock 1 and person B on hammock 2. From the context it is clear that both hammocks 1 and 2 are here to stay, so is the person A and B. Because the distance is tight, a small move on each side causes a ripple effect.

You can think of silent coordination game. Luckily both parties understand the rules and throught a series of collaborative moves an equilibrium is reached.

Everyone is able to sleep well.

Interaction 2

Morning. Sun. Good morning. Me waking up. Organising stuff around the tent. Stuff. Food. Water. Electrolytes. The usuals, standard operating procedure, getting ready for the day.

And since I had loads of items / stuff / gadgets that are practical and usand the other person was awake as well - sharing is caring. Including two books. I was told “these are my favourite subjects”

My intention was simple - reading a book is better for mental focus than doomscrolling.

Interaction 3

Socials. Doomscrolling aside, since it was early during the day, people alraedy asleep, signal strong anough to follow each other.

The actual wording in the bio:

Spread LOVE for FREE & with CONSENT🫶🏼

I’ve noticed that and we had a conversation about consent, consent is sexy.

BED = bureau of erotic discourse.

Interaction 4

I went into town. Outside of festival = internet much faster.

I was able to view the profile.

Previously in the night / hammock / morning setup = I didn’t even see the person fully.

Seeing the photos online = IMAGE WORTH THOUSAND OF WORDS

(not sharing not to abuse privacy)

Tried with AI objective assessment but I guess I’ll need to try a better prompt or a different model.

I guess it is highly subjective... Wish I could run some #DeSci experiment

I came back from town.

The conversation resumed at the consent level but this time around I already met the digital avatar (checking some online photos and finding them interesting). As we were having conversation on this level I mentioned a personal detail - truthful, playful, cheeky, authentic, vulnerable, genuine:

“to discharge my sexual energy a few days ago I masturbated in a tent”

That’s true.

Also true that I said it.

And there is science behind it… It helps with my sleep. I also use brain.fm binaural beats, eye mask… Wish I had melatonin. Every little thing helps. Sleep is my favourite substance, something money cannot buy (love, happiness, time is also in this theme).

Without context = not appropriate. In the context of multiple interactions and conversations we were having = it was likely referring to a hygienic procedure.

That should be end of story.

What I did not anticipate was unresolved trauma, trigger, freaking out, crying, OUCH

🤯 🤯 🤯

Something completely new, unexpected, something that never happened to me before.

I responded truthfully:

I spoke the truth. From the heart. Sorry. Not sorry.

That was a mistake. In my cultural circle people say “sorry” even when they are not sorry. Do you have tissue / chewing gum / fire / lighter / rolling papers / long rolling papers? Sorry… I’m not sorry, I simply don’t have the requested item. But in this particular context I should have expressed genuine apology. Expressing an apology is compatible with “the truth from the heart”.

Another (potential) mistake further down the line was avoiding eye contact and keeping distance. I thought the situation already resolved itself and I didn’t want to resurface the drama. I mention it as (potential) in brackets because it didn’t appear as a mistake at a time.

Security intervention (48-72 hours later)

That’s entirely separate rabbit hole.

They forcibly removed my tent and made me wait at the security HQ for around 1.5 - 2 hours and then… Boom. Done. Gone. Bye.

New shift arriving.

Noone spoke with me.

But even if they did - how to explain the energy flow of balancing hammocks?

I think it was game over from the start, especially given the fact that my wristbands entitling me to entry were forcibly removed to begin with.

#MeToo or #MenToo?

There is so much drama I don’t have energy to watch it… Literally after a few opening scenes I already have enough.

34 pages of drama: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depp_v.

Matter close to my heart (family law in the UK)

Having some experience with family law, I started exploring an opportunity of engaging in criminal justice - much better standards of the evidence, comes with loads of perks and benefits.

It is an infinite energy drain, that’s why I left the UK.

I’m not the victim of my circumstances, I’m the result of my circumstances.

To arrive to a new continent and start from accusations = that wasn’t on my bingo card for 2024.

Persona non grata (some people do not like me)

I replied to this comment saying “I agree with this sentiment”. I assumed that ?? punctuation indicates an emotion. I honestly thought the same, $20 per meal is a decent restaurant price, not volunteer run community effort.

Someone confirmed 1️⃣

Someone confirmed 2️⃣

(I wasn’t aware about the number of upsells, including premium VIP camping)

I am keen to go regardless.

But then I was told not to go, so I guess I will need to comply.

I wish the food was treated like a community ritual. It would be so much nicer for the vibe, as opposed to 1st 2nd 3rd class citizens.

I also made a point about “organic”. My assumption was that in Costa Rica there is growing season around the year, local produce, not many air miles, “organic” as marketing gimmick, I understand that agriculture requires additional input and I’m OK with non-organic whenever practical.

(in other words it’s totally fine with local even when non-organic)

EDIT / UPDATE: Actually I wasn’t aware of the extensive pesticide use.