Micro-dosing loss for resilience

Let's fall in love too easily with new ideas, people, causes, communities, songs, memes, trends or hobbies. Then let go of them.

Maximizing reach of goodness

This does not mean romantic love, it just means that this new object of obsession is going to be on my mind for the next foreseeable future. I'll get lost in it to the point of having to consciously bring myself back to reality and my original self. It's a beautiful thing to support something with all your heart even for a short while.

I feel like if more of us embraced these short spurs of caring this much about things and one another, things would be much different.

Some might say that short attention spans, changing opinions and not being there for the long run with something is faulty behavior. I say it's a beautiful way of supporting many many different things and having an effect/ a touch on others’ lives, is a way of maximizing reach of goodness.

Collective losses

I fell in love with the idea of eco-purpose DAOs for a phase in the bull market between 2021 and 2022. After all, I am a veterinarian with a past startup to produce fresh produce in the most eco-friendly way possible, this topic is close to my heart. I did all the things. I was active, vocal, joined all the Discords, participating, buying NFTs, tokens and whatnot. After a while some of these turned out to be scams, or extremely unsustainable and still somehow mega capitalistic structures. I lost the ‘it’ factor for them. Became disillusioned, disinterested. Now these efforts are merely remnants in some of my twitter posts, crypto assets I still have and memories I made with others during this time.

Placed so much of my passion, effort, time and funds into this. I know this is a shared experience as there were an uncountable amount of trust breaches this past two years. In mega operations we named ‘protocols’ and smaller things we named ‘ communities with utility’. We trusted that these will have a future and elevate our collective experience. Even sold the idea to our parents and friends, helping get on this train of possible greatness.

It usually doesn't take such a big L like rugging thousands of people to get me out of the obsession zone and lose interest though. Sometimes the leading factor for losing it is simply time. Which is true for most of us, in most contexts about most things.

Be ‘chaotic’, subdue change

Our culture rewards being ahead of the curve, creativity, being different, being adaptive. We are without a doubt incentivized to get over things. The quicker the better. Lean into this. Do so.

This might be a chaotic take, but I encourage you to fall hard for things. Lose yourself in your new passions and obsessions. Engulf some of it into your personality, imprint on others as much as you can. Be ever-changing, grow with the things, then become disinterested. Move on. It's fine. There are too many things in the world to worry about. Don't get hung up on things that don't matter in the large scheme of things, it's not that serious.

Micro-dose loss

Disinterest in something that you used to be obsessed with is a form of loss, at least like a solid breakup in some cases. I believe if you “micro-dose” loss in your life, practice letting go and moving on with small things like: stopping to listen to a song you had on repeat, leaving a community, fully dropping a hobby or losing a smaller personality trait, you'll be much more resilient in the face of loss that is not voluntary and possibly bigger in magnitude.

Cue the big metaphor of holding a butterfly in your hand, always being ready to let it go…

Be elusive, be everywhere at once and nowhere at the same time. Pick your battles in what you actually value and care about and stick with them. Be ready to let go of the rest. You'll grow much quicker as a human who is following their passion. In this process you'll acquire other-wordly resilience to support you with the things that actually matter.

Hugs, Reka.