Hello, dear readers! Today I want to talk to you about a topic that is very close to my heart: passionate love. You know, the kind of love that makes you feel like you can't live without the other person, that makes your heart race and your palms sweat, that makes you do crazy things and take risks. The kind of love that is a quenchless thirst.

But what does it mean to have a quenchless thirst for someone? Is it healthy? Is it sustainable? Is it even real? Let's explore these questions together in this blog post.

First of all, what is passionate love? According to psychologists, passionate love is a state of intense longing and desire for another person, often accompanied by physiological arousal and emotional excitement. It is also known as romantic love, infatuation, or limerence. Passionate love is usually experienced in the early stages of a relationship, when the attraction and novelty are high and the uncertainty and insecurity are low. Passionate love is often associated with positive emotions such as joy, euphoria, and ecstasy, but also with negative emotions such as anxiety, jealousy, and fear of loss.

Passionate love is a quenchless thirst because it is never satisfied. No matter how much time you spend with your partner, how much affection you show them, how much intimacy you share with them, you always want more. You always crave their presence, their touch, their voice, their attention. You always feel like you need them to complete you, to fill the void in your soul, to make you happy. You always feel like you can't get enough of them.

But is this a good thing? Well, it depends. On one hand, passionate love can be a powerful motivator and a source of inspiration. It can make you feel alive and energized. It can make you more creative and adventurous. It can make you more compassionate and generous. It can make you more optimistic and hopeful. It can make you more grateful and appreciative.

On the other hand, passionate love can also be a dangerous trap and a source of frustration. It can make you feel obsessed and addicted. It can make you more irrational and impulsive. It can make you more possessive and controlling. It can make you more insecure and needy. It can make you more dependent and codependent. It can make you more unhappy and dissatisfied.

So how do we balance these two sides of passionate love? How do we enjoy the benefits without suffering the costs? How do we quench our thirst without drowning in it?

The answer is simple: we need to cultivate another kind of love: companionate love. Companionate love is a state of deep friendship and attachment for another person, often accompanied by mutual respect and understanding. It is also known as affectionate love, attachment love, or mature love. Companionate love is usually experienced in the later stages of a relationship, when the attraction and novelty are low and the certainty and security are high. Companionate love is often associated with positive emotions such as warmth, comfort, and peace, but also with negative emotions such as boredom, complacency, and resentment.

Companionate love is not a quenchless thirst because it is satisfied by the quality rather than the quantity of the relationship. It doesn't matter how much time you spend with your partner, how much affection you show them, how much intimacy you share with them, as long as it is meaningful and fulfilling. You don't crave their presence, their touch, their voice, their attention, because you know they are always there for you. You don't need them to complete you, to fill the void in your soul, to make you happy, because you are already whole and content by yourself. You don't feel like you can't get enough of them because you have enough of yourself.

But is this enough? Well, it depends. On one hand,
companionate love can be a stable foundation and a source of support. It can make you feel secure and relaxed. It can make you more rational and responsible. It can make you more cooperative and flexible. It can make you more loyal and faithful. It can make you more realistic and practical. It can make you more tolerant and forgiving.

On the other hand,
companionate love can also be a dull routine and a source of boredom. It can make you feel stagnant and lethargic. It can make you less creative and adventurous. It can make you less compassionate and generous. It can make you less optimistic and hopeful. It can make you less grateful and appreciative.

So how do we balance these two sides of companionate love? How do we enjoy the support without losing the excitement? How do we maintain our friendship without sacrificing our passion?

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