Calling Wang Huiwen a "loser" is really disrespectful, after all, he founded as co-founder of Meituan, is a model of success in China and even the world, his own wealth, certainly also into the top five hundred rich people in China ...... but you also know, this The two days of screen news, is the old king due to depression temporarily parted from the post.

In fact, I know more than one or two entrepreneurs around me, who are openly or hidden depressed, just to different degrees, the serious ones have gone to the edge of suicide. Those who say "not serious" have actually entered a very bad state: the mind is constantly attacking itself, not enjoying life at all, and even every day is like a torment.

In terms of "financial success", these people have long been in the top one percent or even one in 10,000 successful people. But in terms of "life success", these people at least "temporarily" lost to the sweaty, 38-degree heat running around, but at least emotionally healthy and positive Mission boy who just helped me deliver.

Someone must be worried that I'm going to chicken soup ...... to say something about money not being able to buy happiness blah blah blah. So I first light up my core point of view it:

This heart is full, is satisfied with the basic wealth security, the only thing that should be pursued throughout life.

So you see the carving master said this very art ah, "basic wealth security", in fact, has been difficult for a large part of the people ...... so, students, first to learn to make money! In Maslow's framework, the two most basic: physiological needs and security needs, must be achieved with money, hungry, it is difficult to imagine the heart can be filled up, or now in Ukraine, at every turn, missiles flying overhead, they and their families do not have the luxury of security to meet before talking about anything else.

But the problem is that the upper three layers of Maslow's needs: social needs, the need to be respected, the need for self-actualization - seems to have little to do with money, and it can even be said that these three higher needs are essentially subjective states of the heart. Too much money is sometimes "noise," for example, the famous quote, "I never make friends based on whether or not they have money, they don't have as much as I do anyway." --If this criterion is established, recently Wanda business management can not be listed, there are 30 billion bets do not see on, his family is likely to have little money, is not Sicong he will no longer have friends?

If you are looking for a friend, if you focus on the other party "has no money", I'm afraid it's a sign of lack of heart. If you have a girlfriend who changes in a month or two, or as often as ten years, it may be a sign of inner deprivation, just like eating two meals a day or three meals a day is normal, but if someone eats eight meals a day, then we certainly do not think it is because the person is rich or has a good appetite - the essence of bulimia is always The essence of bulimia is that it is always full of deprivation and never feels "full".

My perception is that every entrepreneur should practice two kinds of martial arts from the beginning, one is the martial art of making money, accounting for 95% of the time to practice are OK; but still should squeeze out 5% of the time to practice the second set of martial arts: the martial art of making this heart full. (Wang Yangming's last words on his death are, this heart is full, also what to say ...... Oh, although he said the light, but in fact, the meaning is not very different la.)

Although it only takes 5%, or even less time, but the benefits, is a healthier body, and family, friends closer, more calm, less anxiety, a sense of light happiness always follow. The overall happiness index exceeds that of more than 90% of the people around you.

The most critical thing is: to achieve success in business, wealth level win around 90% of entrepreneurs, in fact, quite difficult, just rely on talent, effort are not enough, after all, there must also be a luck component with, and the general environment allows ...... Oh, speaking of the word general environment, I am worried about a lot of small partners heart, anxiety level directly soared ten percentage points ...... but "this heart full" thing, hardly rely on luck with or without cooperation, more and the environment has nothing to do with, as long as you decide to do, I bet you will soon improve, to get a stable and lasting sense of happiness is too much to grasp!

The old fan may suspect me, how carved master suddenly began to chicken soup? I must make it clear: I am not a chicken soup, chicken soup is to drink a good taste, in fact, there is no protein, minerals and other effective nutrients. What I'm about to say is actually my quiet research for more than ten years of hard work! reveal a privacy - I actually used to wander in the edge of depression, after all, I have also encountered many times in the dilemma of entrepreneurship, and I am a more or less like the literary people, the inner more sensitive than most people, very easy on the self into the emotional "downward spiral "The appearance is not visible, but in fact people have begun to self-doubt, self-attack, strong to pretend to be calm, but the heart has been depressed and dark, not willing to eat, even the basic deep sleep have been unable to do.

The good news is that I was exposed to the Carnegie books when I was an adolescent, and in my opinion, that was the earliest form of positive psychology. After thinking about having this straw, I spent a lot of time and energy doing all kinds of homework, including Harvard University's positive psychology open class, and even took the initiative to meet a lot of psychology gurus, and even physically go to class - oh, of course, some classes are purely flimsy, or hold the outdated and old-fashioned, almost abandoned by the international mainstream psychology community junk theory ......

Not to sell off, the following will be my ten years of precipitation of the "six swords of filling" to share ...... but the problem of space, today first share two simple, although simple, and even you listen to may say "ah? That's it?" But I can assure you, so simple two moves, as long as you insist, after a week you will come back to me message thanks, after all, these moves are not invented by me, but the positive psychology of this serious discipline, the essence of the last two or three decades to precipitate. (The dregs of the various schools, we have also dabbled, I directly for everyone to step on the mines to demolish it!)

The first move: gratitude meditation - 5 minutes a day is enough, relaxed state, listening to some music, a random posture is not easy to fall asleep, think about why they are a lucky bastard? There are still a lot of people in the world who don't get enough to eat, don't get clean water, and even endure wars, while you, yourself, are currently in good health, your family is healthy, most of you have people who love you, and you have people who love you, blah blah blah go ahead and take stock, and then, start giving thanks to fate for being so good to you! And then, pray that everyone around you can live a happy life ......

If you even find this difficult ...... Well, I'll give you a more simplified version: open a notepad on your phone before you go to bed, just for a minute, and write a "gratitude diary", in fact, just write three things. What makes you happy today, maybe listening to a good song, then thank the guy who wrote the song, or maybe a surprisingly good dish in the cafeteria today, then thank the chef ...... myself a few days ago has been grateful to an unknown guy, because I bought a large bag of pine nuts, peeled, divided into many small bags, keep fresh quite well, and no bad seeds! Eating with glee, if I had not managed to lose 28 pounds, body fat rate 17% need to be maintained, I would like to eat more bags every day, I am so damn grateful to the guy who invented this kind of pine nuts directly without shelling.

That makes it infinitely easier, right? One minute before bed, write down three little things that made you happy and thankful today.

Considering the vast majority of my readers are highly qualified, perhaps I must say how it works, otherwise it wouldn't be good to look like a godfather ...... The principle is: the brain can't tell reality from imagination! As soon as you start doing gratitude exercises, your brain will resurface the little things that make you happy, and the different little blessings will start your dopamine or endorphin or serotonin production. ...... A minute is short, but after the gratitude meditation or gratitude journal is over, those brain chemicals will still be there, will still be there for a while! It's a good idea!

In fact, this is the reverse of how depression works. The depression of depression is something that either happened in the past and you can't get it back, or it may happen in the future, but what does it matter tonight? But you just keep thinking about these bad things, the brain can not distinguish these things did not happen in the present, but the norepinephrine began to spike, sympathetic nerves began to replace the parasympathetic nerves to hold the big picture, your anxiety began to spiral up the dance ......

The theory of brain plasticity tells us that the thinking pattern of the brain, like the "river", can be repeatedly "flushed" to form a new "brain circuit", depression is also so Depression is also flushed out, as long as you play the role of a "victim" every day to think about those bad things, depression is just around the corner; and "fullness" can also be flushed out - any small thing that makes you Any little thing that makes you happy, even a bag of pine nuts, can help the brain to form a circuit - the circuit is, I'm a lucky bastard, I'm so fucking lucky, I'm lucky to meet several happy things every day - since there is no way to have both happiness and depression in the brain at the same time, the next step is Since there is no way to be happy and depressed at the same time in the brain, the next step is the east wind over the west wind, or the west wind over the east wind - and the practice of gratitude every day is to exercise the brain's "positive emotions" a kind of "optimistic neural circuit "The next step is for the east wind to overwhelm the west wind, or the west wind to overwhelm the east wind.

Second trick: more hugs.

This is even simpler, hugs can directly make serotonin secretion, simple, powerful and rapid. Of course, it is recommended that you start with your parents and family, rather than beautiful female colleagues ...... hahahaha. I still haven't expanded the range of hugs to female colleagues, after all, we Asians are too formal in this regard, but family and good friends, is very easy.

The even better point about hugging is that the gift of a rose is a double benefit, as both people's serotonin will spike.

The remaining four tricks will be discussed later, but the principle is similar: strictly in accordance with modern medical research, and effective on a large scale, not immediately miraculous results - but the pursuit of when you are not seriously depressed, early to run their own state of happiness at a higher level, in case something happens to make you depressed, you can also recover more quickly, rather than You will not fall head over heels and never recover.

It's like working out. You shouldn't wait until you're sick to remember to boost your immune system. Rather, when you are not sick, actively exercise to improve immunity to a high level of operation, after all, we will sooner or later encounter disease - the same way, we will sooner or later encounter bad or bad things, so early exercise "brain immunity", on becomes the "second set of martial arts" for entrepreneurs.

I have written many business articles, but I hope that this one will be more solid than all the previous content to help people who start their own business, after all, life is only once and there is no room for failure. Health is the basis of all happiness, and only health belongs to you, once the problem, even if the deposit of tens of billions, as usual, is someone else's money ......

How's that? Tonight, you can start meditating on gratitude!