Fantasy - the giant of thought and the dwarf of action.
When people encounter setbacks or problems that are difficult to solve, they break away from reality, fantasize, put themselves into the imaginary world, and try to deal with setbacks in a fictional way to obtain satisfaction. Daydreaming is a kind of fantasy. If daydreaming replaces meaningful action, it will become a means to escape from reality, and may also become a symptom of psychological abnormality and develop into a fantasy. Fantasy is beautiful, reality is cruel. Fantasy is just a feeling. If you want to be successful in life, you should base yourself on reality. Especially when dealing with people, you should not be unrealistic. Otherwise, you will not be able to effectively solve problems and seek change and development.
Negative - retreat from reality.
Negative people often give people a false impression that they do not admire fame and wealth. In fact, their hearts are extremely empty and they are also negative about things. This kind of person does not think or do anything. Even if he has a strong ability, he will accomplish nothing in his life. The difference between negative and positive lies in the difference of view and understanding. Walking along a life path with too much information, too much desire and too much competition, we always have a few worries, how many hesitations, and often some helplessness. However, in order to achieve success in career and happiness in life, we must establish a positive attitude. Give yourself a hope every day, you will have a good mood, and your state of mind is often your real master.
Conceit - the self expansion of the ignorant.
There is no doubt that self-confidence is very important, but if "overconfidence" becomes "conceit". There is a degree between "self-confidence" and "conceit", but many people inflate themselves because of success, so that they fall into the trap of conceit. Conceit sometimes manifests itself as arrogance. It thinks it is omnipotent. It overestimates itself and looks down on the people around it. Therefore, conceited people often fall into a state of mania and eventually fail.
Haste is the root of failure.
This is often the case in life. Some people do not consider things when they encounter them, and regret after making a hasty decision, sometimes even resulting in an irreversible situation. However, there is no regret medicine in this world. We cannot predict tomorrow, so the success or failure of many things often depends on whether we are cautious or rash. The reason why some people fail may be that they are lack of thinking and preparation, and those rational people always take action after careful consideration, so they are the most likely to succeed.
Arrogance - dignity without support.
As the saying goes: "the sky does not speak of self-improvement, and the earth does not speak of self enrichment." Generally speaking, people who know more will be more modest, while those who know less and have less capacity will be more arrogant. Therefore, we can say that arrogance is a combination of vanity and a little knowledge. People who are too arrogant assume an attitude of "being arrogant and arrogant", which makes them often resented by others and makes them run into a wall everywhere.
Paranoia - the spiritual shackles created out of nothing.
As the old saying goes, "you know what you look like, but you don't doubt it." in fact, this sentence can be reversed. You can only know what you look like if you don't doubt it. But suspicion is one of the weaknesses of human nature and has always been the bane of harming others and ourselves. Paranoia will make people habitually think bad and negative about everything around them. Once a person falls into the trap of suspicion, he is easy to be nervous about everything and make others have doubts about himself. This is detrimental to normal interpersonal relations, and suspicion will eventually lead to tension and anxiety.
Extravagance - extravagance when you have money, starvation when you have no money.
Luxury is a kind of poison. Once it is contaminated, it will spread rapidly and widely. If one starts to pursue a luxurious life, the people around him will soon become extravagant. Waste is the greatest crime. If you waste time, you are wasting your life; If you waste money, you are on the road to destruction.
Self closing - painting the earth as a prison, shutting the world out.
If you close yourself up, you can avoid the wind and rain, but the sun can't come in. A person who can open his heart to the sunshine will never be autistic. If you have a sunny attitude, you will not lose yourself in depression and loss, and you will not lose your direction. It is a positive attitude to correctly assess your own value and continuously "add value", so that your life will not be spent in vain and you will feel that every day is meaningful.
Bigotry - self attachment.
It is undoubtedly a commendable good quality to have an independent opinion and a mind, not to go along with the world, but it should be premised on not being opinionated and extreme. Whether it is to be a person or to do things, the mind should have a dialectical point of view, cling to a corner, sit on the sidelines, take their own prejudices as the truth, and do not realize them until death. This is a great taboo in dealing with the world. If we fail to correct this attitude in time, we are likely to fall into the dead corner of life and fail to draw out our origins.
Eager for quick success and instant benefit - short sightedness without thinking about the long term.
People who are eager for quick success and instant benefit are short-sighted. They can't see Mount Tai. As long as they smell sesame, they will forget the sweetness of watermelon. People can only see in front of their eyes. The so-called "headache cures the head, foot pain cures the foot" is the consistent behavior of people eager for quick success and instant benefit. In order to get rid of the present situation, these people can disregard the future interests and only seek temporary pleasure without long-term consideration. The result is often not worth the loss.
Greed - the poverty of the soul, the root of disaster.
In real life, it is impossible to live without desires. The desire for money makes many people greedy. It is true that money is the basic guarantee of people's life, but after solving the needs of life, we can't be greedy. As the old saying goes, "less is better than more." People's desire for money should have a degree. If they exceed the degree, they should find ways to stop themselves. Don't exchange excessive greed for regret.
Unprincipled - discarded morality.
Interests are often sought after in life. Some people even like to equate all their norms with interests. When you get along with your relatives, friends and others, you always put your own interests first. It is true that for many people, interest is very important. However, if interest is taken as the criterion for doing things, then in the future, those who do so can only lift a stone and hit themselves in the foot. Sometimes interest will become a trap for others to seduce themselves, and people who take interest as the criterion are much more likely to fall into the trap than to jump over.
Envy - slander others' achievements and expose your own incompetence.
Envy is a tumor of the heart. Envy can make beautiful people ugly, and can make passionate people cold as ice. Envy is a kind of hate emotion. People who are jealous will gnash their teeth when they see that others are better off and luckier than themselves; When you see that others are less fortunate than you and that you are not as good as yourself, you will be complacent. Such feelings will have an extremely adverse impact on interpersonal relationships. People should look at the world with an open-minded heart, because jealousy can only send people to the edge of madness and collapse, but will not let people get beauty and happiness.
Stubbornness - the root of ignorance in the mind.
Stubbornness is a psychological phenomenon that adheres to stereotypes and does not know how to change. People's cognition of things and the evaluation of the value of things should be completed through their own values, which itself has a very strong subjective color. If you have a wrong understanding of a thing, but are unwilling to accept the opinions of others for effective correction, you will make mistakes. Stubbornness is not a synonym for persistence. In fact, it is not difficult to open stubborn shackles. As long as you can correct your wrong views in time and effectively accept new things, you can easily open stubborn spiritual shackles.
Be credulous -- be credulous, and you will find it difficult.
Honesty is the foundation of our life. To be honest, the important thing is not to make promises easily. Only in this way can we avoid treachery. If he agrees to other people's demands without careful consideration and fails to do so afterwards, such a person will not gain the trust of others. Do what you promise others, and make a promise. Confucius said, "people cannot stand without faith." People's words and deeds should be based on honesty.
Publicity is the friend of the shallow.
People with an outspoken character are arrogant, domineering, and too sharp. Their words and deeds are easy to incur criticism and hurt others and themselves. Therefore, they should be cautious in their words and deeds. "Humility benefits, but complacency detracts." No matter when you are full of talent or ambitious, you should not be arrogant and arrogant. Instead, you should give full play to your talent and keep a low profile. Lao Tzu said, "if you don't see yourself, you will be clear; if you don't see yourself, you will be clear; if you don't fight yourself, you will be meritorious; if you don't feel proud, you will be long." Even when you are talented but unsuccessful, you don't need to be pessimistic or complain about the unfairness of life. You should take it lightly and be a low-profile person.
Vanity - all evil deeds revolve around vanity.
Vanity is the pursuit of personal glory and superficial aura, in order to win the appreciation and respect of others. People who love vanity have a strong inferiority complex. They don't know. People who are empty and ignorant in heart and bright in appearance are boring. Qi Shi, everyone will have some vanity more or less. Instead of expanding and upgrading it, we should see our own shortcomings and shortcomings through vanity, strengthen learning and improvement, constantly improve and motivate ourselves, and move forward bravely.
Worship money - put yourself in the shackles of gold.
There is no doubt that money plays an important role in people's life, but money is not the whole of life. Money is an extraneous thing. Don't be obsessed with money and your greed. It should be enough. Get rid of greed, so that you can be content and relax the shackles that bind people. Besides, don't be stingy. Being able to help others is also a kind of happiness. If you don't pay too much attention to money and learn to give it up, you can grasp the opportunities and destiny of life.
Impulse - trapped in a vortex of remorse and remorse.
In daily life, there are indeed many things that make us angry and helpless, but no matter how impulsive our emotions are, we can not lose our reason, let alone recklessly take drastic actions. "If things are slow, they will be successful." the solution of any matter is the result of reason and fairness. Impulsive behavior will not help, but will often lead to consequences that are difficult for us to bear. Therefore, it is a wise choice to control your behavior with reason when encountering difficulties.
Blind obedience - a poor man who has lost himself.
Many people will blindly pursue the public trend, which is a psychological feature of many people, and it is also a very dangerous mental trap. Because everyone's outlook on life, values and morality are different, so everyone should choose a different direction. Because of blind obedience, we often lose ourselves, lose our personality, lose our self judgment and self-confidence.
Self limiting - kill your potential ability.
God only saves those who can save themselves. Success belongs to those who are willing to succeed. Narrow mindedness is an obstacle to people's progress. Most of the time, a person's failure is not affected by the objective environment, but the self limiting psychology has been doomed to failure. The narrow-minded mentality of self limiting makes one's mind not broad, one's horizon not broad, one's vision short, and even leads to serious narcissistic complex. People with this mentality are difficult to get along with him, and are easy to hurt others. Such people are born losers. Because of self isolation and self limitation, they fall into spiritual barrenness and panic.
Vengeful heart - a chicken's stomach and intestines, and vengeance will be rewarded.
Revenge is a bottomless black hole, which originates from the anger of hatred. If you can't control the retaliation psychology in time and let the retaliation devour yourself, you will lose your reason and make reckless and even regret things. People with a strong sense of revenge tend to be impulsive. Once they are in a hurry, they often just vent their emotions and don't listen to others' advice. They are unable to face setbacks calmly and will not forgive others. They often hurt others and themselves for the sake of instant gratification. As a result, they not only lost popularity, but also pushed themselves into a troublesome trap.
Luck - indulgence of self deception.
Fluke psychology is a very unhealthy psychology, which blinds people's thoughts and makes them unable to make correct judgments, or even lose their way. Over time, people's thoughts will change unconsciously. In fact, serious consequences are accumulated by little things, so we should start from small things. A fluke once in a while may lead to achievements or some benefits, but one day you will fall down. At any time, we should discard the lucky heart, improve our moral cultivation, and realize our ideals step by step. It should be noted that "BaoJianFeng comes from sharpening, and plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold." only by being practical and diligent can we embark on the road of success.
Striving for perfection -- a freak with low self-esteem and self-confidence.
There is an old Chinese saying: gold is not pure gold, and no man is perfect. The famous Russian philosopher Chernychevsky said, "since there are black spots on the sun, it is even more impossible for things in the world to be flawless." There is no perfect leaf in the world, but in real life, there are always people who pursue perfection. They not only have strict requirements for themselves, but also have the same attitude towards the people and things around them. Because of the excessive pursuit of perfection, they lost a lot of happy lives, even their own lives.
Losing the goal - losing the fighting spirit.
Failure does not need a plan, but success requires a careful plan and practice it step by step. At all times and in all over the world, those who have made achievements in their career have two points: one is that they have clear career goals; Second, keep striving towards the goal. A man without a goal is like a ship sailing blindly. For him, the wind in any direction is against the wind; If a person has a goal and moves firmly towards it, the whole world will make way for it. Therefore, if you want to succeed, you must start bit by bit, set a clear, long-term and specific goal for yourself, make full use of time, take the goal on the road, and you will reach your destination.
Midlife crisis - an emotional storm under heavy pressure.
The life curve of people falls from the peak, while the burden curve of work and family rises. The intersection of these two parabola is middle age. In middle age, people will be dissatisfied with their work and career, and think that there is no challenge at hand worth going all out. They will become lifeless, moody, pessimistic and negative; In middle age, people will encounter the double pressure of career and family, and there are signs of decline in their heart and body, which will aggravate the middle-aged crisis and confusion. People who fall into the mental trap of middle-aged crisis will have a series of negative emotions, which will cause psychological problems, accompanied by physical reactions. Only by setting up a positive attitude and coping with it with a confident attitude can middle-aged people get through this period smoothly.
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