In daily communication, we often hear words such as "friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" and "don't spend a gentleman's belly with a villain's heart". What is a gentleman? What is a villain? How to distinguish a gentleman from a villain? In the Analects of Confucius, "Virtue" is the biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain.
Look at your mind
A gentleman is open, but a villain is sad.
A gentleman has a flat and broad mind, and a villain is often worried and uneasy.
Whether the mind is broad or not is one of the symbols to distinguish gentleman and villain, and whether the mind is broad or not is not congenital, which needs to rely on the cultivation of the day after tomorrow and their own efforts. Confucius said: benevolent people are not worried, wise people are not confused, and brave people are not afraid. A gentleman is broad-minded, tolerant and has no hatred. Villains often have ghosts in their hearts and are always nervous.
Watch and make friends
A gentleman is more circumspect than a villain.
Gentlemen unite but do not collude, villains collude but do not unite.
No matter who a gentleman contacts, he can treat everyone with a fair heart and do not form gangs; Villains always like to form small circles with people close to them, repel dissidents and form parties for personal gain.
Look at benefits:
The gentleman knows what is right; the mean person keeps his mind only on gains.
A gentleman values morality, while a villain values interests.
When facing problems or choices, a gentleman will first measure them by moral standards; The villain's first thought is how to make a profit, which is the biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain when thinking or making a choice.
Look at right and wrong
The gentleman helps others to achieve their moral perfection but not their evil conduct. Villains are.
A gentleman accomplishes others' good deeds without contributing to others' evil. Villains are the opposite.
A gentleman of high moral character has a heart of benevolence. If other people's things are in line with morality, a gentleman is not only happy to see their success, but also willing to help others achieve good goals within his ability. But if it is immoral, a gentleman will not do anything for the tiger.
Look at words and deeds
A gentleman is harmonious but different, and a villain is the same but not the same.
In daily life, it is common for people to hold different views on a certain problem. A gentleman can tolerate different ideas and opinions, and will not hide his different views, and treat others sincerely. However, villains are not like this. They either hide their thoughts or don't have their own thoughts at all. They are used to catering to others' psychology and echoing others' remarks in their views on problems, but they don't have a harmonious and friendly attitude in their hearts.
Look at temperament
A gentleman is proud but not proud, and a villain is proud but not proud.
More than 2000 years ago, Confucius taught us to "mainly look at temperament". A gentleman is calm and has no sense of pride; Villains are arrogant, arrogant, aggressive and full of arrogance. People are in a good mood when they have a happy event, and people are in a low mood when they have a bad event. This is human nature, but we should also pay attention to "do not rejoice in things, do not grieve for ourselves".
See ambition
A gentleman goes up and down, but a villain orders.
A gentleman is upward, understanding benevolence and righteousness; Villains go down and pursue fame and wealth. Upward is to be good, constantly correct mistakes and pursue morality; Downward means that they don't know how to improve themselves and cultivate their self-cultivation. They are becoming decadent day by day. It is always difficult to follow the good and collapse the evil. It takes a lot of efforts to move forward; It's easy to go down, but the result is to destroy yourself.
See pursuit
A gentleman cherishes virtue, a villain cherishes earth; A gentleman carries punishment and a villain benefits.
Gentlemen have noble morality. They are broad-minded and have a broad vision. They consider the affairs of the country and society, while villains only think about the local land and small benefits, and only consider the livelihood of individuals and families. Gentlemen and villains think and worry about different things, so their actions are naturally different, and the final results are very different.
Look at character
A gentleman asks for himself and a villain asks for others.
A gentleman asks for himself, while a villain asks for others. A gentleman has the characteristics of self reflection, self-reliance and self-improvement, looking for his own shortcomings, so as to correct his shortcomings and make continuous progress. The villain will never review himself, always shift his mistakes and responsibilities to others, and he will never make progress.
Look at the choice
A gentleman is poor, a villain is poor, and a man is poor.
When a gentleman is desperate, he still adheres to the principle; If it's a villain, it's just fooling around. Whether we can still adhere to the principle and bottom line when we are poor is not only the difference between a gentleman and a villain, but also the difference between a true gentleman and a hypocrite.