The first steamed bun
A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that the farmer had nothing. He was moved to tears and couldn't get up on his knees. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help.
B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescuer went to the farmer's house and found that there were many delicious food in the farmer's house. Gratitude was quickly replaced by anger. He raised his sword and killed the farmer, because he found that the farmer had so much left to him.
Thinking 1: the same behavior will get the opposite result - you will be grateful for what you get; When you see what you don't get, you will hate.
Thinking 2: what saves people's lives is the steamed bread and water provided by farmers, which has nothing to do with what farmers own. But realistic education pays more attention to the generosity of farmers when they have nothing, which means more noble. This has not naturally changed the standards and expectations in people's minds. In fact, love exists at every point of life. It is so common that everyone can offer love instead of expecting a person like farmer a to appear. Everyone is his own savior. Everyone can help the people around him as much as he can.
Thinking 3: gratitude or hatred are often determined by some details rather than essence. In essence, in both cases a and B, the results should be grateful. But only normal and rational people can maintain the same gratitude mentality in both cases.
Thinking 4: can there be another mentality besides gratitude and hatred?
The second steamed bun
A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a wanted corrupt official. As a result, many people hated the farmer and thought that he helped the tyranny.
B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a kind man who had helped others many times. Therefore, many people praised the farmer for doing a great merit.
Thinking 1: when rescuing people in difficulty depends on their identity, everyone will decide who should be saved and who should not be saved according to their own standards. As a result, many people would rather do one thing more than one thing less, and they would not save anyone.
Thinking 2: if people can respect farmers in both cases, their love may thrive. On the contrary, under the influence of snobbery and wariness, love will be lost.
The third steamed bun
A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer pointed to another farmer's home and said, "look, that's the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him." The hungry man walked hard to the farmer's door. The farmer opened the door and said sorry, "I have nothing to eat." Therefore, the whole village hated the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others.
B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer pointed to another farmer's home and said, "look, that's the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him." The hungry man walked hard to the farmer's door. The farmer opened the door and said, "I only have half a steamed bun." Therefore, the whole village despised the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others.
Thinking 1: for those who are caring, people's standards will be raised involuntarily.
Thinking 2: for selfish people, people keep their expectations to a minimum, so they won't be disappointed.
Thinking 3: Super morality is a powerful force to expel love until all people close their doors when facing the hungry.
The fourth steamed bun
A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that there was nothing in the farmer's house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. At the same time, he did not ask good or evil for any behavior of the farmer, and fully supported him. The farmer lost his mirror and thought he was right. Later, he went bankrupt because of a big mistake.
B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that there was nothing in the farmer's house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. However, as for the behavior of farmers, they support their good and speak frankly about their mistakes. Farmers work hard and make continuous improvement, gradually prosper and show love.
Thinking 1: different ways of gratitude will lead to different results.
Thinking 2: normal thinking should be maintained at all times. Speaking frankly and criticizing is often a better way.
Thinking 3: actually, after eating steamed bread and drinking a bowl of water, turning around and leaving is also a kind of gratitude. Most of the time, people who help others are just doing it with a peaceful and grateful heart, and do not deliberately hope to be praised or rewarded.
The fifth steamed bun
A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Every time the villagers saw the farmer, they praised him and did a good deed. Later, even in the event of something beyond his ability, the farmer took the initiative to help.
B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Some people suspect the farmer to show off, and even suspect that the hungry man is played by the farmer himself. As a result, the farmer would hide away from those who asked for help, fearing that he would be vilified again.
Thinking 1: praise or slander will often affect the behavior of some people, and the behavior of some people who are not mature enough.
Thinking 2: if you pray for a consistent evaluation of a certain behavior, you will only get possessed.
Thinking 3: people who run away from slander can only be cowards forever.
Thinking 4: a farmer should quickly forget the steamed bread and the bowl of water, and forget what people say. He should calmly do his own things and be a happy farmer.