In life, everyone hopes to make contributions: you don't have to make great contributions to the world, but at least you can leave behind the "three immortals" of speech, merit and virtue. Everyone hopes to make contributions to the society and the countryside. Unfortunately, many people seek contributions and benefits, which often backfires and is on the verge of success. So, who can't succeed? First, people who receive rewards without merit cannot succeed. If you want to get a reward without credit, it's like asking for fish from a tree on the edge. How can you get results without cause? When we see some people succeed, we should know that they all become famous after a lot of hard work. In life, as long as you can make meritorious contributions and deserve it, history or the public will not treat you badly if someone fails you; On the contrary, people who have received no merit, such as relatives in previous dynasties, cannot succeed even if they are enfranchised and others are unconvinced by nepotism. Second, people who are eager for success and profit cannot succeed. Making contributions is a matter of life, not a moment. Some people are impatient and hope to get lucky for a while, so they are eager for success and profit. In fact, the value of rapidly growing trees and flowers is limited. Third, people who are proud of their achievements cannot succeed. Some people originally established credit and were respected, but he was proud of his credit and was punished for it. For example, aobai, because of his pride, made Kangxi unbearable and was finally eradicated. People who are proud of their achievements should take this as a warning. Fourth, those who are greedy for success and provoke trouble cannot succeed. Some people are greedy for fame, create right and wrong, provoke trouble, and let others fight each other, so that they can benefit from it. This kind of person may get lucky and make profits, but in the long run, people will know his tricks and be cautious in dealing with each other. Even if he is successful for a while, but he is alone and has no friends, what fun is life? Fifth, those who ask for merit cannot succeed. Heroes of ancient and modern times hope to win awards after they have made contributions. Han Xin asked Han Gaozu to be appointed as the Deputy king of Qi. Han Gaozu was angry and refused. After Zhang Liang hinted, he had an idea and changed his words to say, "if you want to be sealed, you can seal it formally. Why do you want to be an agent!" Therefore, he was appointed king of Qi, but Han Xin was killed. Sixth, people who have wasted all their previous efforts cannot succeed. Some people make many contributions, but they can't keep them. It's a pity that all the previous contributions are wasted because of other reasons. As the saying goes, "when birds are exhausted, good bows are hidden; when cunning rabbits die, lackeys cook". Therefore, it is also an important lesson in life to be able to keep credit.

There is a saying: Today's you are the result of your past habits; Today's habits will be your destiny tomorrow. Change all the habit patterns that make you unhappy / unsuccessful, and your destiny will change, The larger the field of habits, the more free and energetic life will be, and the greater the achievements will be. Sometimes success is not as difficult as you think. If you form a good habit every day and stick to it, maybe success is just around the corner. It's easy to form a good habit every day, but the difficulty is to stick to it. This is a combination of faith and perseverance, so it is not surprising that there are so few successful people. "If a person wants to have great achievements, he must make some small achievements every day." The difference between the rich and the poor is not just about money. Here is a short story: a rich man gave a poor man a cow, and the poor man began to struggle with hope. But cattle have to eat grass and people have to eat. Life is hard. The poor sold the cattle, bought several sheep, ate one, and the rest was used to produce lambs. But the lamb didn't come out, and life was hard again. The poor sold their sheep and bought them into chickens. They wanted the chickens to lay eggs and earn money for a living, but the days did not change. Finally, the poor killed the chickens, and the poor's ideal completely collapsed. This is the habit of the poor. As for the rich, according to an investment expert, the secret of their success is: when you have no money, no matter how difficult it is, don't use investment and savings. Pressure will make you find new ways to make money and help you pay off your bills. This is a good habit. Character determines habits, and habits determine success. Some people say that one of the two fairest things God does to mankind is that everyone has only 24 hours a day. I remember when I was a child, I read the words "an inch of time is an inch of gold, and an inch of gold can't buy an inch of time". Although we don't know how long the so-called "an inch of time" is, since time is compared with gold, its value is expensive. So how to make good use of it. (famous quotes of celebrities in the workplace) it is very necessary for individuals or collectives to manage their time well for 24 hours every day in order to maximize their effectiveness. Hurum w.smith, the founder of Franklin quest company, proposed ten natural laws of successful time and life management in his masterpiece the 10 natural laws of successful time and life management:

The most wonderful and final speech of the great British Prime Minister Churchill was at a graduation ceremony at Cambridge University. At that time, there were tens of thousands of students sitting in the whole venue, all of whom were looking forward to the arrival of the great Churchill. Accompanied by his entourage, the respected Mr. Churchill arrived at the meeting on time and walked to the podium. Standing on the podium, Churchill took off his coat and handed it to his entourage. Then he took off his hat and silently stared at the audience. After a minute, he said, "never give up!" (never give up) Churchill put on his hat and coat and left the meeting. This made the whole venue silent, and a minute later, applause thundered. Never give up, never give up, never give up! Churchill made great contributions to British peace in his life. These great achievements are the result of Churchill's unremitting efforts and the best portrayal of his "never give up" spirit. Another classic example of "never give up" in the world is a new speech by Joe Gillard, the world's greatest salesman. When he was about to end his marketing career, he was invited by all walks of life to give a speech about the secret of becoming a marketing king. The scene was also full that day, and people were waiting eagerly and anxiously. When the curtain on the stage slowly opened, people were surprised to find a huge iron ball hanging in the center of the stage. Just wondering, I saw an old man walking to the iron ball in the warm cheers of the people. People looked at him in surprise, not knowing what he was going to do. At this moment, two staff members came up, carrying a big hammer and placing it on the stage. The old man said, "please come to the stage with two strong young people." Many strong men stood up, and two of them had already run on the stage quickly. The old man asked them to use the big hammer to hit the hanging iron ball until it shook. A young man didn't think about it. He couldn't wait to pull out his posture, swing a hammer, and try his best to hit the hanging iron ball. There was only a harsh noise, but the iron ball hung there motionless. The refueling sound under the stage was loud, and he continued to smash one after another. The iron ball did not move, but he was panting, so he had to admit defeat. Another young man looked unconvinced, took the big hammer and smashed the iron ball loudly, but soon he was also defeated, shook his head and walked off the stage. The cries under the stage gradually disappeared, and people decided that the iron ball could not be shaken. At this time, without saying a word, the old man took out a small hammer from his coat pocket, and then seriously knocked on the huge iron ball, then paused, and then continued to knock with a small hammer. People's eyes widened, and they didn't know what the famous salesman wanted to do, but the old man repeatedly did this action, where he kept hitting the iron ball. In this way, ten minutes passed, and twenty minutes passed. The audience slowly lost patience and began to stir up. Some even began to curse Joe Gillard for delaying everyone's time. Joe Gillard didn't pay attention, and still worked hammer by hammer. He didn't seem to hear people complaining at all. In this way, the audience left angrily. The remaining people seemed to be tired, and the venue gradually quieted down. Just as Joe Gillard was about 40 minutes old, a woman sitting in the front row suddenly screamed, "look, the ball is moving!" The venue was suddenly silent, and people were absorbed in looking at the iron ball. Sure enough, the huge iron ball began to shake with a small amplitude. The old man was not affected and continued to stand there hammering. In this way, the big iron ball finally swung higher and higher with the efforts of the old man. It drove the iron chain to make a "bang bang" sound, and its great power strongly shook everyone present. Bursts of warm applause burst out at the venue. In the applause, the old man put the hammer into his coat pocket, turned around and said to everyone, "on the way to growth, you don't have the patience to wait for success, so you have to face failure with lifelong patience." History and countless cases tell us that as long as we can persevere towards our goals and dreams, we will finally get the joy of success. Those who give up halfway can only taste impetuous confusion. How to never give up? It was suggested that there are two principles of never giving up. The first principle is: never give up! The second principle is that when you want to give up, look back at the first principle: never give up! The width of a person determines the height

If you feel hard at this time, tell yourself: what is easy to go is downhill. Hold on, because you are going uphill. Go over it, and you will make progress. If you are complaining that fate doesn't care, enlighten yourself: life is an excuse for losers; Luck is the modest word of success. Fate is always in your own hands. Complaining is just a sign of cowardice; Hard work is the attitude of life. Know your way back, and the world is wide There are eight bitters in life, and all sentient beings live in the world in order to taste all the bitterness and get a sweet taste. Prosperous 3000, but finally the dust settled, like the night took off the day's Pink decoration, quiet and peaceful. Time flashed by, and the gains and losses that I cared about and the success or failure that I cared about in those years all passed away. At any time, the other side is only one step away, and the world is wide. happy Escape is not necessarily the most difficult, loneliness is not necessarily unhappy, gain is not necessarily long, loss is not necessarily no longer there, and turning around is not necessarily the weakest. Don't rush to say that you have no choice. There are still roads around the dead end. If you can find a reason to be sad, you will find a reason to be happy. You can be happy to succeed, not happy after success. Those who know how to let go find ease, and those who know how to let go find freedom. Source of pain People who live a full life are easy to be happy. Happiness comes from feeling good every day. They are always worried about the risks of tomorrow and can't erase the shadow of yesterday. How can today's life be satisfactory? Always compare those that cannot be compared, always fantasize about those that cannot be achieved, how can today's mood be quiet? Anything unrealistic is the source of pain. Pain comes from not being full, and living a full life will not lead to wishful thinking. Try to live every day well, and our life will naturally be full of sunshine. Life is paradise everywhere If you are thirsty, water is heaven; If you are tired, the bed is heaven; If you fail, success is heaven; If you suffer, happiness is heaven. In fact, the heaven of life is not far away. If the desire is satisfied, it is heaven, and if it is not satisfied, it is hell; Take care of your desires. Life is paradise everywhere. pursuit Some people always wear a pair of big shoes that don't fit their feet and are tired of walking. A friend asked her why, and she said, "all shoes are the same price, why don't you buy big ones?"? In fact, in life, we often see such people who constantly pursue greatness. Driven by their inner greed, they completely do not measure up to their abilities, and as a result, they make themselves very tired. In fact, no matter what shoes you buy, fitting is the most important; No matter what you pursue, it must be enough. life There are always too many expectations in life, but always disappointed; There are always too many dreams, but they have always failed; There are always too many grievances, but there is nothing to do; There are always too many words, but no one can tell; Always want to escape, but have been fettered by reality. In life, there are few things that belong to us. We can't retain what we should go, and remember what we should forget. No one can take away what belongs to us. Learn to save, learn to delete, learn to clean up memory garbage regularly, and live a happy life. Read yourself Only those who understand themselves can truly understand the great book of life, because the author of this book is himself, and the reader is himself. Those who read only others and don't read themselves are doomed to succeed and are somewhat far away from themselves. Even if you are willing to read yourself occasionally, it may not be accurate. The living and real you, hiding behind success and failure, can only calm down and touch the collision with your heart!

If you read this article and read only half of it, you will say you have no time, which means you are already a "confused" person. If you finish reading this article, you feel that this article is only about the general truth, which shows that your life experience is not enough. You need to treasure this article, go out and touch the wall for a few years, come back after you have broken your head and blood, and read it again, you will lament your youth and ignorance. If you have read it and find it very reasonable, then put it on the shelf, continue to walk into the crowded subway, and still think about your future with your yesterday's concept, your life will continue to repeat yesterday's situation. What are we going to work for? If you finish reading it, you think it is an article of advice written by an elder in his lifetime, which shows that you have a similar life experience. As long as you continue to work hard, it is not difficult to achieve great achievements. The difficult thing is whether you can share your life experience with others? Experience determines depth, and knowledge determines breadth. What is your life? 1、 About work and life I have an interesting observation. Most foreign companies are white-collar workers aged 25-35. There are few employees over 40. Foreign employees in their twenties and thirties are energetic, but managers around the age of 40 in foreign companies are very embarrassed. Most of the managers of foreign enterprises around the age of 40 I have seen have been job hopping, and most of them have finally jumped to private enterprises. The success of foreign employees is largely the success of the company, not the success of individuals. Siemens is indeed bigger than Gome, but it does not mean that Siemens' Chinese managers are better than Gome's bosses, or even far worse. However, those who enter foreign enterprises often do not understand this very early and attribute 90% of their success to their own ability. In fact, changing the general manager of a foreign enterprise in China will not have any great impact on their performance. Well, here's the question. When these managers are in their 40s, their salary requirements become very high, but their talents are not so outstanding. As the boss of a foreign company, how would you choose? Some are energetic young people who want to stand out as long as they don't get a high salary. Some are. Why use you? From the above example, we can actually see our work track. In our twenties and thirties, the pressure of life is relatively small, our health is relatively good, the parents above are in good health, and there are no children below, so we don't have to pay the mortgage, and no children want to go to college. Being a small white-collar worker in a foreign enterprise is still very bright, and it's not enough to earn much. But people will eventually get married and have children. They will eventually grow old. At the age of 40, when their parents are old, they need to see a doctor, take medicine, have someone to take care of them, pay off their mortgage, live a basically decent life, and raise children... How much money they need to earn to spend at that time is important. Therefore, when we look at our work, we should take a long view. It doesn't mean that who is high and who is low at the moment. From this point of view, I don't agree to pay too much attention to the salary of the first job, and there is no need to compare the salary of the first job, which is very common among students who just leave the campus. A normal person has to work for about 35 years, which is like a marathon race. Unlike a real marathon race, there are no professional athletes in this race, and everyone has only one chance. You know, there are many people who can't even reach the finish line. Most people finally reach the finish line, and only a few people run across the finish line. Therefore, it doesn't make much sense to grab the leading position at the beginning. If you enter the top 500 companies when you first enter the society, you can probably get 3k-6k/ month salary. Some talents with special skills may get 8k/ month. The question is, how much will you get in five years? It is estimated that 5k-10k is great. Although the starting point is high, the growth rate is limited, and the young people behind are under increasing pressure to catch up. I asked one of my salesmen the other day. A newcomer has learned all these things in two years, but the salary required by the newcomer is only half of yours. What will you do then? Career is like a sports game, including preliminary, semi-final and final. At the preliminary round, everyone just entered the society, and most of them were people with average strength. At this time, if they work hard and seriously, they will soon be able to make people stand out. So some people became managers in their twenties, some people finally won the preliminary round later, and became managers in their thirties. Then comes the semi-finals. Those who can participate in the semi-finals will win the preliminary round. Everyone has some abilities, and there is no problem in intelligence. It is not easy to win at this time. It is not enough to rely on a little effort and seriousness. We should have a strong spirit of perseverance, know how to rely on the strength of the team, know how to win the hearts of the people, and have a long-term vision It seems that it is not easy to win the semi-finals, but it is not so difficult. Because the law of the world is to give people a little success while making them proud and complacent. People who have just won the preliminaries often don't know that they have won only the preliminaries. With a little success, most people will become complacent and think that they have understood everything and don't need to study hard. They will think that the reason why they can't go further is no longer their own reason. Although they are still difficult to deal with, they have no patience, no tolerant measurement, and no clear long-term vision. It is like an angry bullfight. Although it is fierce, it will eventually lose. Like a matador, the person who wins the semi-finals is not impatient and follows his own beat, slowly exhausting his opponent's patience and physical strength. After winning the semi-finals, he has become a great professional manager. He has become the general manager of small and medium-sized companies and the deputy general manager of large companies, and is in charge of tens of millions or even hundreds of millions of businesses every year. The final is coming. To be honest, I haven't won the final yet, so I can only guess the decisive factors of the final. At this time, the winning or losing may be just like what is written in the martial arts novel. Everyone is an expert and can only wait for the other party to make mistakes. It is impossible to defeat the opponent easily. In addition to doing everything, it also requires a little luck and time. The laws of the world still play a role. The people who win the semi-finals are not just complacent. They are often headstrong and do not listen to what others say. Some people become grumpy, moody and physically worse. Their biggest enemy is themselves. What they have to do in the finals is not to be defeated by themselves, waiting for others to be defeated by themselves. This is the same as the sports competition. In the final competition between experts, it depends on who makes fewer mistakes and wins the final. 2、 Root causes Are you happy at work? How is your job? Do you feel unhappy after working for a period of time? Do you feel like you're in the wrong business? Do you feel that you haven't received the treatment you deserve? Do you feel that work is like a mess? It is a pain to go to work every day? Do you really want to change your job? Do you think that the current company is not as good as originally thought? Do you feel that this job is not suitable for you because of the pressure of survival? Do you get what you want from your job? Are you happy every day? Have you ever wondered why you are not happy? Why are you angry? In fact, the root of your unhappiness is that you don't know what you want! You don't know what you want, so you don't know what to pursue. You don't know what to pursue, so you can't get anything. I always feel that the first thing to focus on in my career is myself. What do you want? Most people probably haven't thought about this problem. Their only idea is - I want a job, I want a good salary, I know everyone's desire for salary, but do you want to repeat the process of looking for a job every few years? Do you want to spend every year in this anxiety about work and salary? If you don't want to, think it over. Drink poison to quench thirst. You can't drink poison because you are thirsty. The more anxious you are, the more you feel you need a job, the more hungry you are, the more confused you are, and the more likely you are to fail. Your experience is getting worse and worse. People in the next job will frown at your resume. So the more you drink, the more thirsty you drink, and you fall into a vicious circle. Finally, I can only lament the injustice of the world or the untimely timing of life. I can only vent on the horizon and seek a little psychological balance in the resonance of the losers. Most people have survival pressure, and so do I. if there is survival pressure, there will be a lot of anxiety. Positive people will get motivation from anxiety, while negative people will lose their way because of anxiety. Everyone must make choices under pressure. This is the way of the world. Whether you like it or not. Generally, we deal with important things and urgent things. If we don't do important things, we will often do urgent things. For example, it is important to exercise and keep healthy, while it is urgent to see a doctor. If you do not exercise to keep healthy, you will often worry about illness. Another example is that fire prevention is an important thing, and fire fighting is an urgent thing. If you don't pay attention to fire prevention, you should always put out the fire. The same is true of looking for a job. It is important to think about what you really want. Looking for a job is an urgent thing. If you don't think about it well, you will often have to look for a job. Often, urgent things put a lot of pressure on people, forcing them to do it quickly. Relatively speaking, important things don't have that much pressure. Most people do things based on pressure. Under pressure, they always feel that they have to do urgent things first. As a result, they always go to the place to fight the fire and never stop. (many people's work is as busy and painful as a fire brigade, because they don't do important things well in their work.) For those friends who say that they live in dire straits and do not care about so many things in order to survive, the difficulty in finding a job today is that you didn't do important things at the beginning. It's the result, not the reason. If you are still anxious to find a job today and don't think about it, you may continue to suffer the painful result of looking for a job in the future. I always feel that the topic I want to talk about is a little heavy and needs a lot of thinking. It is far more boring than Tang Xiao's topic of fighting the armed police. However, there is no easy success in the world. Success has to pay a price. Please forget all the pressure of survival and think about what you want most in your life? So, the most important thing is to think about what you want first. 3、 What is a good job All people want face, and they also like to compare themselves. Even at work, they also like to compare themselves, whether it is what they want or not. People think that foreign companies are very good, but what is the good? Well, they are in a better office building. Is this what you want? They live in a better hotel on business. Is that what you want? Others will envy a job in a foreign company. Is this what you want? All that is for others. Why do you have to live so hard to show others? On the other hand, their salaries and benefits are average, and they are not particularly impressive. They have few opportunities for promotion, and it is difficult for them to be high-level managers. Although they hate working overtime often, they dare not not not to work overtime, because "if you don't do it, you have to do it by others". In most cases, they will find a Taiwanese, Hong Kong or Singaporean to take care of you, and these people often have some inexplicable sense of superiority. Have you figured it out? Must the top 500 be good? Do you think about what you want or what others want to see when looking for a job? Most of my college classmates have gone to the United States. Even after graduation for so many years, some have recently gone abroad. Is it really so good to go abroad? Most of my college classmates are still struggling with their doctorates, postdoctors and visiting scholars. So far, only one of them is getting a formal teaching post in an American University. Is it difficult to be a professor in China? Several of my cousins have also gone abroad. Their parents are alone in China and no one takes care of them. Several times, people have fainted at home and no one knows. Is it really so glorious to go abroad? As someone said, "a lot of things are like watching porn. People who watch porn feel very happy, but people who do it may not." People always want to find the best, but what is the best? Do you think it is the best one because you really know it, or because others say it is the best? Even if he is the best for others, must he be the best for you? For what you want, you should know best. The opinions of others are not so important. Many people are always influenced by other people's opinions, such as those of relatives, friends and colleagues... The question is, whose life are you going to live? A person's life is not a sequel to a parent's life, nor is it a prequel to a child's life, nor is it an outside story of a friend's life. Only you are responsible for your life, and others cannot and cannot bear this responsibility. The decision I made, at least in the end, I have nothing to regret. For most people with normal intelligence, there is no big right or wrong in their decisions. No matter what choice they make, they can try. For example, if you don't go to the school you went to and enter the current industry, you won't be able to live your life? Will fail? Not necessarily. I think a good job should be a job suitable for you. Specifically, it should be a job that can bring you what you want. Perhaps you should use this to measure whether your job is good or not, rather than the size and scale of the company, whether it is a foreign or state-owned enterprise, whether it is famous, or whether it is a listed company. A small company may not be a good company, and a job that makes more money may not be a good job. You still have to figure out what you want first. If you don't know what you want, you will never find a good job, because you will always only see what you can't get, and what you get is what you don't want. Maybe the best is already by your side, but you haven't learned to cherish it. People always focus on what they can't get, and ignore what they have already got.

The first steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that the farmer had nothing. He was moved to tears and couldn't get up on his knees. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescuer went to the farmer's house and found that there were many delicious food in the farmer's house. Gratitude was quickly replaced by anger. He raised his sword and killed the farmer, because he found that the farmer had so much left to him. Thinking 1: the same behavior will get the opposite result - you will be grateful for what you get; When you see what you don't get, you will hate. Thinking 2: what saves people's lives is the steamed bread and water provided by farmers, which has nothing to do with what farmers own. But realistic education pays more attention to the generosity of farmers when they have nothing, which means more noble. This has not naturally changed the standards and expectations in people's minds. In fact, love exists at every point of life. It is so common that everyone can offer love instead of expecting a person like farmer a to appear. Everyone is his own savior. Everyone can help the people around him as much as he can. Thinking 3: gratitude or hatred are often determined by some details rather than essence. In essence, in both cases a and B, the results should be grateful. But only normal and rational people can maintain the same gratitude mentality in both cases. Thinking 4: can there be another mentality besides gratitude and hatred? The second steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a wanted corrupt official. As a result, many people hated the farmer and thought that he helped the tyranny. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. But later, it was discovered that the rescued man was a kind man who had helped others many times. Therefore, many people praised the farmer for doing a great merit. Thinking 1: when rescuing people in difficulty depends on their identity, everyone will decide who should be saved and who should not be saved according to their own standards. As a result, many people would rather do one thing more than one thing less, and they would not save anyone. Thinking 2: if people can respect farmers in both cases, their love may thrive. On the contrary, under the influence of snobbery and wariness, love will be lost. The third steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer pointed to another farmer's home and said, "look, that's the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him." The hungry man walked hard to the farmer's door. The farmer opened the door and said sorry, "I have nothing to eat." Therefore, the whole village hated the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer pointed to another farmer's home and said, "look, that's the man who gave bread and water to save people. Go and ask him." The hungry man walked hard to the farmer's door. The farmer opened the door and said, "I only have half a steamed bun." Therefore, the whole village despised the farmer, and no one accused the farmer who never helped others. Thinking 1: for those who are caring, people's standards will be raised involuntarily. Thinking 2: for selfish people, people keep their expectations to a minimum, so they won't be disappointed. Thinking 3: Super morality is a powerful force to expel love until all people close their doors when facing the hungry. The fourth steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that there was nothing in the farmer's house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. At the same time, he did not ask good or evil for any behavior of the farmer, and fully supported him. The farmer lost his mirror and thought he was right. Later, he went bankrupt because of a big mistake. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. The rescued man went to the farmer's house and found that there was nothing in the farmer's house. Moved to tears, unable to kneel. After that, he was grateful and brought love to the people he met who needed help. However, as for the behavior of farmers, they support their good and speak frankly about their mistakes. Farmers work hard and make continuous improvement, gradually prosper and show love. Thinking 1: different ways of gratitude will lead to different results. Thinking 2: normal thinking should be maintained at all times. Speaking frankly and criticizing is often a better way. Thinking 3: actually, after eating steamed bread and drinking a bowl of water, turning around and leaving is also a kind of gratitude. Most of the time, people who help others are just doing it with a peaceful and grateful heart, and do not deliberately hope to be praised or rewarded. The fifth steamed bun A. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Every time the villagers saw the farmer, they praised him and did a good deed. Later, even in the event of something beyond his ability, the farmer took the initiative to help. B. A starving man stumbled to a farmer's house. The farmer gave him a steamed bun and a bowl of water, and the hungry were saved. Some people suspect the farmer to show off, and even suspect that the hungry man is played by the farmer himself. As a result, the farmer would hide away from those who asked for help, fearing that he would be vilified again. Thinking 1: praise or slander will often affect the behavior of some people, and the behavior of some people who are not mature enough. Thinking 2: if you pray for a consistent evaluation of a certain behavior, you will only get possessed. Thinking 3: people who run away from slander can only be cowards forever. Thinking 4: a farmer should quickly forget the steamed bread and the bowl of water, and forget what people say. He should calmly do his own things and be a happy farmer.

What do the most successful people have in common? They all get up very early and make full use of the morning time. Say why: Getting up early gives you plenty of time to think before a busy day begins. Simply put, the morning time belongs to you. Before others take up your time and attention, prioritize the things you need to deal with that day and make progress. This will give you unprecedented control over each day. Of course, it is extremely difficult to get up early, which is precisely why early birds have a competitive advantage over others. When others press the snooze button, they are ready for the new day. Give a few examples of the super successful early bird. Richard Branson, founder of virgin airlines, woke up at 5:45 a.m., even on his own private island. Before starting the day's work, he made full use of his morning time to exercise and eat breakfast. Michelle Obama, the first lady of the United States, gets up at 4:30 a.m. every day to start exercising, while her children are still asleep. Tim Cook, CEO of apple, gets up at 3:45 a.m. every day, handles email, goes to the gym for exercise, and trots to Starbucks before going to the office. Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks, gets up at 4:30 to exercise. He usually rides with his wife. Of course, in order to face the new day, coffee is indispensable. Disney CEO Bob Iger also gets up at 4:30 a.m., reads newspapers, does sports, listens to music, answers emails, and even watches TV. Anna Wintour, the editor in chief of vogue, gets up at 5:45 in the morning to play tennis for an hour, and then starts the day's work. Jeff Immelt, CEO of Ge, gets up at 5:30 and reads newspapers while doing heart exercises. Can you find commonalities among these super successful people? Everyone's morning activities include the very important element of morning exercise. In addition to helping the overall health and shaping, some studies have shown that 20 minutes of moderate exercise can produce positive psychological and emotional factors, and can last for 12 hours! This means that these business leaders will be clearer and more efficient, and these are the direct benefits of morning exercise. The time for exercise also allows them to focus on Problems and think about countermeasures without being disturbed. Therefore, when they enter the office, they can quickly enter the state. Morning exercise is good for efficient use of time. In addition to getting up early and exercising, several other good morning habits are recommended to help you spend your day more efficiently:

In the half year of exchange study in Taiwan, I often went to a red bean cake stall next to my dormitory to buy snacks. The one I love to go to is run by three men: Grandpa, dad and son. Grandpa was responsible for turning the outer ring to maintain its crisp but not burnt taste. Dad stirred and made different fillings: cream, taro and red beans. His son was in his prime, and spread the fillings evenly with a heavy wooden spoon. I bought a lot. When I lined up, I began to observe their movement coordination, language communication and even eye contact. Without a word of nonsense, they can finish the whole manufacturing process smoothly. This seemingly natural tacit understanding is actually difficult. The store has existed for 50 years since Grandpa set up a stall to sell red bean cakes. My father took over grandpa's craft and passed it on to his son imperceptibly. After I became friends with them from customers, I asked, would I feel bored? Will you feel that your ambition has not been paid if you melt your whole life into this sweet food? Nah. The young man who did things neatly answered simply. You see, so many people like my red bean cake. The young man looked at me, Answer in a slightly funny tone: "At first, I did. I felt that what my father and father taught me was very unfashionable. Why should everyone else be playing skateboarding and rock, and I was making red bean cakes. But later, I found that such a simple craft actually had a lot of know-how and key points, and it also took a lot of effort. At that time, I realized that it was not easy to climb the peak of every industry. Making the best red bean cakes, like being the best engineer, required great expertise Note to be successful. You smell it. It smells so sweet. How can I give up? " After returning from the exchange study, I saw a course on western modern literary trends. I saw the course introduction to cultivate students' superficial understanding of Western art history, so that students can perceive, appreciate and even create beauty. How to listen and how to relax, I chose it. The teacher is an old man over half a hundred years old. He teaches all the obscure courses. But his class completely surprised me. Most of the teachers with white hair bowed as soon as they came to the stage to thank us for our presence, then turned around and drew a coordinate line on the blackboard without saying a word, marking several important time nodes and representatives of modern literature and art. He combed the context of literature and art all the way, from Gauguin to Picasso, from Germany to Cezanne, lifelike and detailed, and calmed the bottom batch of teenagers who were holding their mobile phones to brush their microblogs. When he spoke quietly about Monet's lifelong attachment to flowers and water, I suddenly realized that it was spring outside the window. I am always grateful to meet these patient people. When I first went to college, I often skipped classes, read novels in professional classes, watched movies in elective classes, and had an all night before the final exam, which is the highest respect for this course. But unlike the female students in my dorm, she takes scientific research as her goal, which makes us ashamed. On weekdays, she is very quiet. When we discuss current affairs and exchange "Sanlian Life Weekly", she buried herself in reading most of her professional works and was completely indifferent to a series of fashionable words. In the literary history class, I sang and talked with my teacher. Turning around, I saw her reciting the memorabilia of the Republic of China silently. Six months ago, she won a national scholarship and went to the United States to exchange studies. Even the ending left for me was speechless: four people clinked glasses in the dormitory, we drank beer, and she fooled around with tea. At an age when everyone is trying to be special, I can easily judge that she is bored. But at the moment, I somehow think she is very cool. In an environment where the whole class was anxious about graduation and their future, but had to pretend to be careless, she chose to live honestly. At an age when we were actively performing, she chose self denial. This kind of abstemious and placid living method seems to be cooler than the indifference encouraged by hormones. She made it clear that she only wanted to be a top student, and she did become a top student. I admit that I have been counselled. I no longer use the idle tone to prove my cool. Some people are born to be able to stand on one foot, but I can't. I need two feet firmly on the ground to stand firm. Although I counselled, my father was very cool. On the afternoon of new year's Eve, we were downstairs preparing to cook vegetables and chatting with our relatives. He was upstairs alone, translating a classic example of the competition. There was a table with three missing ones. My mother asked me to urge him to come down and make up the count. I ran to find him. Dad hid in a stack of materials and behind a heavy dictionary. Dad is getting old and his hairline is getting higher and higher. But the attentive dad is so cool. I ran to him, bent down and asked him: can you make room for me and I'll read the book with you?

Do you have the feeling that there is not enough time! After reading so many time management articles, I still have unfinished work and unfinished business. I'm not willing to break one minute in half. Why doesn't it work? Because most time management articles are about how to use efficiency tools, how to be more executive, how to reduce procrastination, and how to improve self-control. You can really use them to solve the most pressing surface needs of the moment. However, after mastering them, you will still feel the shortcomings. It's like working overtime until you can't afford it. A cup of coffee or strong tea can quickly replenish your spirit, but what you really need is to fall into bed and sleep. It's not enough to just think about how to do 24 hours a day as quickly as possible. That's just a rudimentary way to manage your time. You also need an unusual way to manage your time. Good goods are not kept privately. They are all spread out to you. 1、 Cloning time: sell 1 time to n In the TV series journey to the west, Monkey King can pull out three life-saving hairs from the back of his head, bite his teeth, endure pain, blow his immortal breath, and shout "change". A bunch of little macaques like monkey king jump out. This may be the earliest "cloning technology" seen in literary works. In terms of time management, if we can clone multiple copies of one time, isn't it a simple way to make more time? How many copies of a time is cloned, and your unit time value is multiplied by how many times. In the Internet age, time cloning technology has been realized, which is not the patent of the ox man. Because Internet products are easy to copy and the marginal cost is almost zero, ordinary people can also easily achieve it. From another perspective, this is to create a product that can replicate and spread in different time and space. For example, in the popular "get" column, Himalayan audio course and micro class sharing on various platforms, speakers only need to publish content in one time, and tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of subscribers will receive knowledge products respectively. If the speakers give one-on-one lectures to the readers, they can circle the earth several times. Some people say that I can't do such a thing as recording lessons. I won't give lectures. So, words are always OK? Writing articles is just a way to turn one time into many. Wan Weigang, a famous popular science writer, knows this well. In his book "never thought of it", he said that he was surprised to find: I spent an hour writing this essay Since nearly 400 people subscribed to this blog through Google reading, as long as you read this article for more than 10 seconds, I dare say you won. He compared the writing time of the article with the total time of others reading the article, and more obviously felt the pleasure of selling a piece of writing time into n pieces. 2、 Integrated value: make one thing n values On huama street in Lijiang, Yunnan, almost every restaurant sells salmon. Many tourists to Lijiang will stop by. The highlight of these restaurants is "eat more than one fish": fry the fish skin, boil the fish bones into soup, and make salmon sashimi from the fish meat - create a variety of tricks. The same is true of time management. Try to make the completion of one thing drive multiple outputs. With the total length of time unchanged, the quality of life is still higher. Stay at home moms often ask, "how do we achieve economic independence?" Ask this question. This is because full-time mothers devote themselves to taking care of their children, "so busy that they almost don't have time to go to the bathroom", but they still hope to earn income on their own. Its subtext is: "how can I make money while taking a baby?" For these mothers, since bringing up children is a must and takes up a lot of time, wouldn't it solve the problem by adding economic value to it? For example, while taking care of the baby, I also studied: How to take good-looking photos of your baby with your mobile phone, how to insist on making complementary food your baby likes, how to read picture books vividly for your child, how to cultivate your child with positive discipline tools, etc. Then teach your expertise to parents in need in the form of paid courses. Some new employees in the workplace are facing the tasks assigned by the company and frown: "give me so much money and want me to do so many worthless jobs. Bah!" On the other hand, he was also distressed that he could not spare time to enroll in classes to learn new abilities. As everyone knows, the thorny task at present is not only to fulfill the requirements of the boss, but also to exercise their own abilities. In this way, a task has the dual value of "working for the boss" and "working for yourself", and it is pleasant and broad to work. The value of a thing is like a piece of music. Only if the main melody is too boring, the multi play will not be monotonous. According to my observation, many "great gods" are good at the results of anything, not sticking to a single dimension, but expanding to multiple values. This is why I especially advocate thinking about "why" before doing something. If you can say a lot of "why do it" for a task that is about to start, you have given this thing multiple values, which is equivalent to earning a lot of time. 3、 Attaching importance to essence: tracing the source and cornerstone Many years ago, I hired a master to teach me how to learn bamboo flute. I spent a long time learning long notes, vibrato, flower tongue, etc. it was so boring that I couldn't be any more boring. At that time, I didn't understand why I didn't directly play the music by the teaching staff as soon as I came up, even the popular music of a dream of Red Mansions, which was not very difficult. Later, I finally knew that this was a slow as fast process. When doing things or learning new things, if we can grasp the source and cornerstone, understand first, get through the blocking, and speed up later, we will greatly save time in the future. The basic skills taught by the teacher are equivalent to the foundation before building the house. If the foundation is unstable, the house may fall down in the future. After learning these contents well, the songs to be contacted in the future are just combinations and deformations, and they will be started soon. We can't see any significant effect in a short time. When we reach a certain stage, we have a solid foundation. The "one" learned earlier can be used as "ten". Progress is amazing. It's like a compound interest curve. The front section is flat, and then it rushes up to the sky. If you don't catch the bottom routine, you will only be tired to death. The source and cornerstone are more important and basic parts. What content belongs to this category? In doing things, it is the common skills to achieve tasks and the core part of a task. The common skills to achieve tasks are the foundation on which to rely, such as project management, objective management, action management, etc. The core part of the task is the "most difficult bone" of the task, such as the idea of writing an article. In cognition, it is "meta law" and "mode of thinking". "Meta law" is the law that governs the laws in various fields of daily life, such as the "28 principles" and "compound interest". "Thinking mode" is a general classical routine that can be used in thinking, such as "golden thinking circle". In learning, it is "meta knowledge" and a specific concept. "Meta knowledge" is knowledge about knowledge. For example, to master learning methods, "brain neuroscience and cognitive science" are meta knowledge. A specific concept is a clear guide to action. Only when it is clear can we start without being blinded. For example, if the word "deliberate practice" can clearly explain its meaning, it is easy to make an effect. 4、 One call to all: the effect of "one call to all" Not long ago, a big guy released a course. In a short time, online friends rushed around to tell each other, brushed the screen in the circle of friends, and created the first phenomenal product this year. At that moment, the big guy didn't need much effort to make many people willing to spend their time and money to help him promote. This is equivalent to using other people's resources to help you earn time. It has infinite power. This "one call, one hundred responses" is brought about by influence. Creating influence is a very advanced way of time management. In some units, the leadership position is not only under great pressure, but also difficult for families to take care of, and there is not a big gap with ordinary employees in terms of salary, but many people are still willing to fight for this position. In addition to pursuing a sense of value, another reason is influence. When a leader has hidden resources, he can spend his subordinates' resources to do things, such as their time, expertise and contacts. All at once, his life has expanded a lot of possibilities. You would say that it is impossible for all ordinary people to be leaders. It is useless for me to create influence. And so on. Influence does not have to be used in the workplace, but also in the family. For example, parenting, if you have influence on children, and children are willing to cooperate with their parents to implement good habits when they are ignorant, as parents, you must spend less time in the future. Of course, you save your own time to do what you love. How to get the effect of one call for all? The book "influence" provides six weapons: reciprocity, love, consistent commitment, social identity, authority and scarcity, which can be selected and used arbitrarily. 5、 Proper authorization: let professional people do professional things Before the lunar new year, every household needs to clean the inside and outside, such as the range hood and the glass with the windows facing outward. Sometimes they linger for a long time, and only have back pain and leg cramps. If the housekeeper comes to the door and sends out professional tools, it will be cleaner and shinier than if you sweat for 2 hours. And the two hours you spend on it may enable you to read a book that changes your life. Which do you think is more cost-effective? Some businessmen turn like a top every day, but you can still see perfect articles, interesting interactions and beautiful typesetting from their personal official account. It is not difficult for you to reason that he must have some time management tricks. Yes, the article can be original, but you don't have to do it yourself—— They are people who know how to delegate. In life and work, you don't have to do everything yourself. Letting go is a new start. Now that the Internet is so developed, the efficiency of connecting to resources is hundreds of times higher than before. It's easy to find professionals in a certain field (such as housekeeping, errands, taxi software, etc.), so won't it save you time? Put the time you squeeze into more important things, and the value of the harvest will shine. Some tasks seem impossible to outsource, but in fact there are ways. Because a task can certainly cut out the core part and some non core mechanical operation parts. The core part must be completed by you. You can choose to complete the rest of the non core part by yourself. You can trust people and let professional people do professional things. 6、 Paid learning: paid learning takes fewer detours Now, taking part in a classic large-scale training can cost thousands of yuan every twoorthree days, which may cost a new employee a month's salary. I can't afford to think about it. However, if you urgently need some high-quality courses, you can save several years after learning them. Do you think it is worth thousands of yuan? This is the so-called "spending money to buy time" - time is not renewable, and money is OK. When I was just married, I was promoted to the "Minister of finance" of my family. I began to study investment anxiously and painstakingly, and even began to learn financial statements from 0. In the end, I found that the best investment for young people is to invest in themselves first - to pay for learning knowledge. More worthy of investment than any financial product is the young you. If you are not a full-time investor, the rate of return of investing in yourself is definitely better than facing the K line all day. Because the skills learned are irreversible, but the money earned from investment may be devalued. If the so-called investment is just speculation, every minute will leave you with nothing, and the time invested before will come to naught. For paid learning, learners attach great importance to it because of the payment of tuition fees. The teachers who teach are generally more attentive, and the knowledge transmitted is relatively complete and systematic. When encountering difficulties, teachers often gently click, and you will suddenly realize that with less time investment, you can also reap rich fruits. Of course, it does not mean that free resources are worthless, but because in the era of information explosion, it takes a lot of time to filter and sort out the knowledge of the system. What if you can't afford the training? There is still a way! Some trainings are often practical courses extracted from one book or several books. In China, a non fiction paper book costs as little as twenty or thirty yuan, and as much as fifty or sixty yuan. Such a little effort can reap the author's research achievements for several years or even decades. What a bargain! If you read e-books, you will save more. In the Internet age, there are other forms of paid learning, such as the rise of various knowledge payment platforms. It is easy for you to find professionals who need to consult. Under their guidance, you should avoid detours and avoid falling into the pit. Isn't that spending money to buy time? 7、 Keep an eye on the goal: throw time at the long-term goal When I first learned to ride a bicycle when I was a child, I always liked to look down and see how I stepped on it. The adult said, "how can I learn this? You should look forward and look away to grasp the balance!" The same is true of time management. Urgent matters of work and life are like gourds that are pushed into the water and then float up. There are always gourds that can not be pressed. Except for industries that are very agile in responding to changes, these "gourds" are often caused by our failure to make a plan in advance. For example, you didn't speculate in advance what kind of ability and quality you need in a certain period of time, didn't speculate that there might be risks at a certain point, and made plans to deal with emergencies, etc. Until time approached, it was a mess. You can play as much chess as you can see. If every once in a while, we can set goals for things that may need attention in the future, make good plans, and lay out in advance, when the future comes, everything will be stable and orderly, without anxiety or worry. To allocate today's time to things that can create more time for tomorrow is the so-called "living in the future". What is more unparalleled is that the pattern of seeing has crossed the length of individual life and is viewed from the time dimension of human groups. For example, to create a new cause of great value to the society, and write a masterpiece that has never been done before and will never come again. This time management is so powerful that the time obtained by oneself transcends the limitations of individuals and has been handed down through the long river of history.