Why do you always give up halfway
May 27th, 2022

Today is the first day of 2017. I believe many people will set their own goals for this year on this day. They hope that they can get better and better in the new year, and say goodbye to the difficulties and setbacks in 2016.
You excitedly took out a big white paper and wrote a big 2017 plan with a black marker. You listed 123456 New year's resolutions vary in number and size.
Yes, I'm just not the same this year.
Whether you make a plan to lose weight successfully in the new year, or hope that you will be lucky enough to marry Bai Fumi and Gao Fushui this year, and go to the peak of your life. You can't do it.
Yes, you can't do it.
What? Seeing this, you may want to swear at me. What's the matter with you? You're crazy. The new year is a new year. Can I realize it without pouring cold water? Don't believe it.
In fact, it's not that I don't believe you, but that this is a scientific theory. We always hope to have a new start in the new year, hope to become better, and secretly make up our minds that I must persist, I must work hard, I must strive. What about the happiness at the end of the year? It's all broken.
At the beginning of the year, there were so many people signing up for fitness, but at the end of the year, there was no one in the gym. How ironic
What? In fact, if you feel that you need to work hard to accomplish something at the beginning, you can't do it, let alone try.
I have a girlfriend who weighs more than 160kg in 2015, but she doesn't eat much. She really eats one third of mine. But I only weigh 88kg. Sometimes when I'm full, I weigh 90kg. Both of us are about 163. Every time she sees me, she says, I must be as thin as you next month, blinding your eyes.
Every time she finished, I smiled at her faint honey, because I knew she would not be thin at all. Let alone whether she could lose 90 kilograms at once, I admired her for losing one pound.
But the fact is that I was right again.
Why?
Why didn't we realize any of the vows we secretly made at the beginning that we would die anyway?
Is it true that we have poor self-control and weak willpower?
People's psychological activities have their internal driving power, which is people's need. Need to be expressed in the form of desire and requirement. When people are aware of this need, this need will transform the internal motivation to promote people to engage in certain activities and move towards certain goals, that is, the motivation of people's psychological activities.
What does this sentence mean?
Take a simple example. For example, if you are hungry and you need to eat, then eating is your demand. In order to meet this demand, you will choose to cook or buy food to order takeout. When the food is bought back, you will have to eat it. This series is a driving force for you to act.
On the other hand, do you think you need to persist in a series of behaviors from eating when you are hungry to cooking or buying food and then eating the meal? Or do you have to work hard to start chewing? You don't need it. You don't need it. You also think it's a very simple and easy natural event.
So, why did you make a plan at the beginning of the year to slim down into a lightning bolt, save 100000 yuan a year, go to the gym to exercise, read 50 books a year, and take off the bill this year? All these plans failed one by one?
Yes, because these so-called plans are not your real needs at all. They are not your just needs.
Alas, I didn't finish reading 50 books last year. It seems that apart from a little guilt, there are no bad changes in my life. I am still the cute me.
Oh, I didn't go to the gym last year. That's all.

Yes, what you didn't do last year doesn't have much impact on you. This virus like thinking has grown in your body. When 2017 passes, you will still comfort yourself.
What do you think is more like you?
You may say, yes, it seems that I am like this. I often plan to do this and that, but I just can't stick to it. After all, how can I turn these goals I want to achieve into my just needs?
The answer is simple: you need to find the motivation to achieve this goal.
What is motivation? In the NLP theory of psychology, everyone develops two kinds of motivation: to stay away from pain, discomfort and stress; Tend to be happy, comfortable and entertaining.
Generally speaking, we all want to pursue success, happiness and harvest. And we hope that failure and painful loss can be as far away from us as possible, and it is best to disappear in this world.
For example, some companies will set up a bonus called "full attendance award", which you can get as long as you are not late for work every day. However, it was later found that some people are not late for work every day, and there is a full attendance award every year. However, some people do not have it at all. It seems that it doesn't matter whether they take the money or not. Anyway, I just love being late.
Later, the company thought that this would not work. Originally, it planned to encourage employees to stay late and leave early with full attendance awards, but this could only restrict some employees, and the other people could not let them go on like this all the time?
Therefore, the company has formulated a system, that is, those who are late for one time will not only have no full attendance award, but also deduct your performance salary. Those who are late for more than three times will be directly dismissed. Once this regulation is issued, the company's employees will basically never be late or leave early again.
This is a feasible plan formulated by successfully applying the two power principles.
How do we operate when it comes to ourselves?
First of all, let's think about the above scene with me. You lie in a warm quilt and fall asleep safely. At this time, the alarm suddenly starts to ring. You are in great pain. You don't want to get up at all, but you can't get up. That's because____
Why did you fill in the space I left?
The first is that I must get up, because if I don't get up again, I won't be able to get the excellent employees of this month. How can I judge them as advanced? No, I have to get up quickly.
In the second category, if I don't get up again, I will be late. It's a small matter to deduct money when I'm late. I have to be scolded by my boss. I have to pull my face all day and ask my boss for anything he says.
If you are the first type, then you belong to a trend driven person. In the process of implementing your goal, you should give the goal as much positive and optimistic meaning as possible.
For example, if you want to become a lightning bolt this year, in addition to formulating feasible plans, such as taking reasonable exercise, eating less carbohydrates every day on the premise of ensuring rich nutrition, and drinking only water after 5 o'clock, you need to list more benefits when you do this every day?
For example, you will become thin and slim. You can not only wear beautiful dresses, but also take the initiative to pursue me. Everyone will envy me and so on about the benefits of success. (take girls as an example here, and boys as well. Learn to draw inferences from one instance)
If you are the second type, then you belong to the type far away from motivation. Similarly, taking weight loss as an example, in addition to formulating the same feasible plan as above, you also need to list as many disadvantages as possible if weight loss is not successful.
For example, you are still so fat. When you see the goddess you love, the goddess looks at you up and down, and tells you to stay away from me, dead fat, a pile of fat meat is disgusting, and so on.
So if you say, I think both of them occupy a point, then you can use both types of power at the same time to formulate your planned power direction.
It should be mentioned here that these two types of motivation are normal motivation tendencies generated by human psychological activities. There is no difference between good and bad. They are both normal phenomena.
My personal suggestion is that everyone should list the advantages and disadvantages at the same time as much as possible. What kind of motivation you belong to, you can have more in that area and less in others, but the effect of implementation together is more remarkable.

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