Han Shan, a monk in the Tang Dynasty, asked Shi De: "how can people in the world slander me, bully me, humiliate me, laugh at me, despise me, base me, evil me and cheat me?"
Shide said, "just bear him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear him, respect him and ignore him. In a few years, you'll see him."
Many times we encounter accusations, abuse, difficulties and injuries from others. If we retaliate back with a tooth for a tooth, we will pay the corresponding price.
If you take revenge on yourself, you'll be hurt by your own energy.
The best revenge in the world is to live better than him.
The best revenge for a person is not to fight with the wicked or hold a grudge against the villains, stay away from negative emotions, strive to improve yourself, enrich your heart, and live a prosperous, full and beautiful life.
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Don't care about bad people
Writer rasilam dodo said:
If someone ridicules you sharply, you should immediately respond sharply to him;
If someone despises you for no reason, you immediately despise him with contempt;
If someone shows off in front of you, you will immediately double your strength
Look, those people you hate easily turn you into the kind you hate most.
If you quarrel with rotten people, you will also be contaminated with bad luck, and gradually become what you hated at the beginning.
Wise people are never influenced by negative emotions. They get out in time and don't care about bad people, because they understand that living their own life is the most important thing in this life.
Try to be quick, argue with rotten people, worry and waste time, and may even bring disaster to yourself.
A few years ago, a news shocked the world.
A northeast girl traveled to Lijiang and had a barbecue with her friends in the evening. More than a dozen men at the adjacent table have been learning from her and laughing at her northeast accent. The girl didn't care at first and continued to chat with her friends.
Who knows that a dozen men are reluctant to let go, and the girl goes to the bathroom. They deliberately block her way with beer boxes and ridicule her accent more and more.
The girl couldn't bear it, so she said, "what do you mean? Did you drink too much?"
The men were so angry that they picked up the beer bottle and smashed it on the girl's head. They pulled the girl's hair, dragged her outside the store and beat her severely. They scratched her face with broken glass. The scars were deep and bone could be seen.
The original pretty girl has been disfigured for a lifetime with several ferocious scars on her face.
It's better to compete with the superior than with the rotten.
It is not cowardice and incompetence to stay away from bad people and tolerate them magnanimously, but to avoid disasters.
Raptors do not fight with evil snakes, and lions do not compete with mad dogs for food. The best revenge is not to control evil with evil, but to ignore each other's malice and live your own life.
When the mountain flowers are in full bloom, you laugh in the bushes and watch him sink and degenerate in the muddy mud.
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Don't get entangled with bad things
There are always eight or nine unhappy things in life.
Learn to let go, let go, and don't dwell on small things, bad things, and bad things. Only then can you get out of your body, do more meaningful things, embrace a better life, and live a better life.
Life is just a few decades. Why bother and ask for trouble?
Faye Wong is a real sober person. She knows what she wants, is not afraid of gossip, is not influenced by other people's emotions, is herself and lives her true self.
Faye Wong's first husband was Dou Wei, who married her son. Later, Dou Wei cheated and claimed that Faye Wong's marriage to him was a conspiracy.
Faye Wong said nothing and left without looking back, ending her three-year marriage.
Faye Wong's second husband was Li Yapeng. Later, she found that they couldn't fit in spirit, and resolutely ended her ten-year marriage with Li Yapeng. She said, "this is the end of the husband and wife's life. I'm fine, and you take care."
When asked about Faye Wong's marriage, Faye Wong said, "all the men I like are good men."
Can afford it, put it down, no resentment, magnanimous and free and easy.
Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse, who is 10 years younger, have revived their old love, and they have different opinions.
Faye Wong responded: "how I live is my own business. Whether I deserve to be a mother or not is up to you."
No matter how many foul words hit her, she will remain the same, do what she likes, love the people she likes, and live a happy, free and beautiful life.
Don't care about other people's evaluation, don't entangle with bad things, learn to be kind to yourself, love yourself, and live your wonderful life.
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A good life is the best revenge
Experience more and more, more and more understand that we live to pursue a better life and live a better self.
Living well and joyfully is the best revenge in the world.
Zhang Youyi, a woman abandoned by Xu Zhimo, lived a beautiful life with her own struggle and became a woman beyond Xu Zhimo's reach.
Xu Zhimo has always been very indifferent to Zhang Youyi, laughing at her as a "local steamed stuffed bun". No matter how hard Zhang Youyi tried, she always got Xu Zhimo's cold response.
Later, Xu Zhimo loved Lin Huiyin warmly. Although Zhang Youyi was pregnant with his child at that time, Xu Zhimo was still determined to divorce her.
Zhang Youyi asked tearfully, "what about the children in her stomach after divorce?"
Xu Zhimo said, "kill it."
"I heard someone died from an abortion."
"Some people die by train. People still take the train." Xu Zhimo said coldly.
Zhang Youyi disagreed with the divorce. Xu Zhimo simply ran away from home and didn't come back until Zhang Youyi gave birth. Instead of taking care of Zhang Youyi during childbirth, he handed in a divorce agreement.
"Sign quickly. I'm going to pursue my soul mate. It's too late not to sign."
He didn't even look at his newborn son.
Zhang Youyi was completely desperate for Xu Zhimo. She signed the divorce agreement and left without looking back.
She cheered up, taught herself German and went to college. She was invited by Shanghai women's commercial savings bank to be the vice president of the bank. Under her management, the bank turned losses into profits and became famous in the banking industry.
Later, as the general manager of yunshang clothing company, Xu Zhimo's "earth steamed stuffed bun" turned into the leader of the fashion industry.
With her ambition and efforts, Zhang Youyi tore off the label of "Xu Zhimo's abandoned wife", lived a vivid life, won the respect of the world, and became a woman beyond Xu Zhimo's reach.
May we let go of the past, let go of ourselves, do not tangle with the wicked, and do not take revenge with the villains.
Try to manage your own life and live a beautiful and happy life. This is the best revenge for those who hurt us.