Do you know that 90% of people have the loss of general communication information? Listening effectively in conversation may be more important than speaking. The article provides you with several principles to help you become a successful listener. A survey of listening games There is such a listening game: in a group of two, one person speaks for 3 minutes continuously, and the other person is only allowed to listen, no voice, no interruptions, and can have body language. Then switch over. After that, everyone takes turns to talk first. What did they hear each other say? Then let the other party talk about whether the information described by the listener is what he wants to express? The results shown at last are similar to those in other training courses. 90% of the people have the loss of general communication information, 75% of the people have the loss of important communication information, and 35% of the listeners and speakers have serious differences on the communication information. For example, one of them wants to express that "marriage needs to be managed", while the other party listens to "don't force yourself too much in marriage", This is a complete distortion of communication information. How to learn to listen more effectively Effective listening is a skill that can be acquired through learning. Knowing your listening behavior will help you become an efficient listener. Thomas, a famous American psychologist. Gordon's research found that listening can be divided into three levels according to the behavioral characteristics that affect the efficiency of listening. The process of a person from level one to level three listener is the process of improving his communication ability and efficiency. Three levels of "listening" Level 1: at this level, the listener does not pay attention to what the speaker is saying at all, pretending to listen but actually considering other unrelated things, or thinking of Refutation in his heart. He is more interested in speaking than listening. Listening at this level leads to the rupture of relationships, the emergence of conflicts and poor decision-making. Level 2: the key to interpersonal communication is to understand the meaning of words. At the second level, the listener mainly listens to the words and contents, but often misses the meaning expressed by the speaker through intonation, body posture, gestures, facial expressions and eyes. This will lead to misunderstanding, wrong behavior, waste of time and neglect of negative emotions. In addition, because the listener nods and agrees to show that he is listening without asking for clarification, the speaker may mistakenly think that what he said is completely understood. Level 3: people at this level show the characteristics of an excellent listener. This kind of listener looks for the interested part in the speaker's information, and they think it is an opportunity to obtain new and useful information. Efficient listeners know their personal preferences and attitudes, and can better avoid making arbitrary comments on the speaker or being influenced by stimulated words. Good listeners are not in a hurry to make judgments, but empathize with each other's feelings. They can put themselves in a position to look at things, more asking than defending. Learn to listen at a high level According to statistics, about 80% of people can only listen at level one and level two, and only 20% of people can listen at level three. How to achieve high-level listening? Here are some ways to learn high-level listening: concentration: through nonverbal behaviors, such as eye contact, a relaxed posture, a friendly facial expression, and a pleasant tone of voice, you will establish a positive atmosphere. If you show attention, concentration and relaxation, the other person will feel valued and safer. Show interest in each other's needs: you can show interest in each other's needs by listening with understanding and mutual respect. Listen with a caring attitude: it is like a soundboard, so that the speaker can test your opinions and emotions, and feel that you appear in a non judgmental and non judgmental attitude. Don't ask many questions at once. Constant questioning often gives the impression that the listener is being "roasted" Act like a mirror: give feedback on what you think the other person was thinking. Summarize the speaker's content to make sure you fully understand what he said. Avoid preconceptions: this happens when you are personally engaged. Investing in a problem with a personal attitude often leads to anger and hurt feelings, or makes you jump to conclusions too early, which is arbitrary. Use spoken language: use simple sentences such as "Er", "Oh", "I understand", "yes" or "interesting" to agree with the other party's statement. Encourage the speaker to talk more by saying "talk and listen", "let's discuss", "I want to hear your thoughts" or "I'm very interested in what you said". Following these principles will help you become a successful listener. Cultivate the habit of applying these principles every day and internalize them into your listening ability. You will be surprised at the results.

I have a different concept of house from most people. I grew up living on the campus of Tsinghua University. My home is a small building with two floors. It looks ordinary in appearance, and the area is not very large, but it is very quiet. This place hasn't been moved or decorated. It's red since I was born. It's very old. But I really feel good there. There is a home, not only a place to sleep, but also I don't know how many years it has been in this house. We are also sighing: how nice the yard behind is. When we go out, there are playgrounds, swimming pools, beautiful girls and white haired gentlemen. The neighbors living around are all top intellectuals in China. They kick open the door of one family casually and go in to chat for a while. How can they grow knowledge? Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin live in the yard in front of me. When I was a child, the old man in my family wrote a note saying who you asked this question. I found someone else's home, opened the note and looked, oh, whose child are you? Tell me, they are all the top in China. This is the real meaning of residence. It allows you to breathe, rather than luxurious landscape, house type and decoration. In 2007, we moved out. Because my family were abroad and I didn't teach in Tsinghua, the school took back the house. Later, I went to Los Angeles. When I went to the United States, I was also a homeowner and a firm homeowner. When I first went to the United States, I worked as a screenwriter and developer, and only sold two movie songs. American pop music is a grass-roots culture. Black guitarists in the United States have a surplus when I am a teacher. It's not that he plays better than me. We don't play the same piano at the same level, and our voices are different. Many great bands in foreign countries are classmates in the same class, and there is no cattle band selected in the whole colleges and universities in China. Why? Many young people in China are more enthusiastic about making money than music itself, such as buying a house. Zheng Jun told me one day that some artists were arrested in mental hospitals and became psychotic; Some mental patients escaped from mental hospitals and became artists. You are the latter. Your life is like performance art. However, I am definitely not a fashionable person, because I never pay attention to other people's fashion trends, and I am not a middle class. If I only have enough money to travel or buy a house, then I will travel. In addition to listening to songs and watching movies, my biggest hobby is running around the world. I've probably been to more than 30 countries. I buy a car in one place, then sell it after playing for a while, and then go to the next place. I often meet a group of people on the journey, and then quickly become friends, then drink, and then get off the train and leave separately. I met an Eastern European band in Europe before. I helped people play the piano, and then I went to show with people. I followed people everywhere, playing and singing, to Holland, Spain, Denmark My mother, too, backpacked all over the world. My mother is still wandering and investigating American Catholic sites. My sister, too, didn't buy a house. She earned much more money than I did. Before, she rode her motorcycle across Africa. The motorcycle broke down in a small desert village. She simply lived there for two months waiting for the parts to arrive. Then in a small village in the Sahara desert, she wrote me a postcard called "above the rainbow". In the postcard, she told me, brother, I'm so happy to ride a BMW motorcycle. I saw the bloody setting sun in the depths of the desert, drinking with the Sheikh people, and their smiles shook their eyes... Because my sister and I don't buy a house. As long as you don't buy a house, you can drive whatever car you want. You think you can't wait to buy a Mercedes Benz with a toilet area. Then she drove a BMW motorcycle. It broke down and said that the whole Africa didn't have this part. She said, do you know what I'm doing now? I work as a tour guide in a small village in Sahara. My mother taught us from childhood not to be trapped by some so-called property. So my sister and I traveled all over the world, and then neither of us bought a house, and we also felt very happy. My mother said that life is not in front of you. Life has poetry and distance. My sister and I were deeply educated. If anyone thinks that this point in front of you is your life, then your life is over. Life is suitable for the distance, go as far as you can; If you can't go far, you don't have any money. Then read poetry, and poetry is where you sit here, and it is far away. The older you are, the more you can understand my mother's words. Americans buy houses for the first time at the age of 31 on average, Germans are 42 and Belgians are 37. 50% of the population in Europe has independent houses, and the rest are renting houses. Why do young people in China get married as soon as they graduate? Buy a house as soon as you get married? How can I buy a house? A house will limit all your actions and decisions. Because you know, when it comes to naked marriage, no one wants to marry you. Even if the wife wants to, what about their family? What will others think? What will the child do in the future? At today's house prices, there are only two situations for ordinary people to buy a house. One is that both parents pay for subsidies. Basically, the future and development of such people are controlled by their parents. The second kind of people sacrifice too many development opportunities and pawn their dreams to achieve a house. What they buy is actually their deep "sense of security". They feel that having a house will make them feel safer. But can security really come from a house? In the final analysis, it is a question of values. No matter how the world changes, we must persist, even if it is backward. It doesn't matter that I'm not in the stream. I'm happy every day. That's what matters.

If you have money, you have to live an ordinary life. Maybe the so-called success is to live in the way you want. One holiday internship to Shanghai, a developer asked us to do activities and arrange to stay in a super five-star hotel. The lobby of the hotel was described in eight words as "magnificent, like a palace". I live alone in a luxurious big bed room. On the bedside table is a delicate vase with a fresh Calla Lily in the middle. The toilet ring in the bathroom keeps the body temperature at all times, and there are several buttons to adjust the amount of water to be washed, as well as the drying function. Fortunately, I saw a more luxurious toilet in the book "the elegance of hedgehogs" before: when the button is washed, there is a surround sound on the top of the head that will play music for you; Otherwise, a loser like me may be constipated by those functions. Standing in the middle of the room, I couldn't help but perform an exaggerated and awkward line of the international chapter (Zhang Ziyi) in the film Jasmine bloom: "ah, such a good room, such a high-end toilet room, and such a soft bed, ah..." On this day, I was so excited that I not only experienced a handful of luxury, but also vaguely found my life goal: "if I could live in such a place in my life, I would be happy to die. Well, I want to fight for this goal, this is the life I want!" I fell asleep with the excitement of finding the direction and goal of life. When I woke up the next morning and opened the quilt, I found that I slept only a small part of such a large bed, only one fifth of the sheets were wrinkled, and the other four fifths of the white sheets were flat and brand-new. I touched them with my hand, and then decided to lie down where I hadn't slept for a while. The loser temperament suddenly poured out like the surging Yangtze River. The price of the buffet breakfast that day was 288 yuan. There were a wide range of things. I ate the same as myself at home: a bowl of porridge, two small meat bags, a few small fried dough sticks, a dish of pickles, and a cup of yogurt. All day long, I was thinking about a question: even if one day, I really become rich, will I really be happier than now? I still only sleep in such a big place and eat those simple breakfasts. My needs don't seem to change much. In fact, I need very little. What else do I need? You see, in only one day, I fell into confusion again, from a life with clear goals to not knowing what I really want. I knew a female boss last year. First of all, she is very beautiful. She is 35 years old and has a beautiful appearance. The skin on her face is smooth and tight, and can be broken by blowing bullets. Her chest is not sagging at all. Her waist circumference has been maintained at 24 for many years. She is dressed in gorgeous clothes and has outstanding temperament; Secondly, her family is very happy. Her husband, who has opened several companies, loves her very much, treats her gently and generously, and gives her gifts every holiday. There is also a very cute daughter who goes to kindergarten; Finally, she was successful in her own business, running a 100 person company with an annual profit of more than 10 million. In the eyes of outsiders, she is really happy, and everyone will envy her life. She is the object of envy and hatred, but one day she actually said to me on the Internet: "I often feel that life is very desperate, really desperate." Mr. Zhang, a friend of my friend, is a big boss in Taiwan. His father founded a large company. He is the second generation of rich people who inherited his father's business and has a fortune of more than 100 million. At the age of 50, he flies around factories in Taiwan, Chinese Mainland, Vietnam, Singapore and other places every month. While traveling on business, he also travels, eats, drinks and plays. He looks very natural and unrestrained. Once, when a friend invited him to dinner and chatted during the dinner, he said that he felt very confused and tired and did not know what he would do next. The passion of doing business has faded a lot, and I can no longer find the passion of working hard when I was young. Then he talked about his experience of a trip. Once when he was traveling in Yangshuo, he met a tramp artist with African drums. He watched each other perform for a long time, and then two people chatted. He knew that this tramp was very free and had been to many places. He admired each other very much, and especially wanted to put down his work and wander with him. He felt that this was the life he wanted. When he came to Yangshuo for the second time, he went to the street to find the wandering artist. He never met him again, and he was disappointed. Here I think of the story of fishermen and merchants: An American businessman was sitting on the dock of a small fishing village on the coast of Mexico, watching a Mexican fisherman pull up a small boat with several big yellowfin tuna on it. The American businessman complimented the Mexican fishermen on catching such high-end fish, and asked how long it would take to catch so many? The Mexican fisherman said he caught it in a short time. Americans ask again, why don't you stay longer and catch more fish? Mexican fishermen don't think so: these fish are enough for my family! The American asked again: what are you doing with so much time left in the day? The Mexican fisherman explained: me? I wake up naturally after sleeping every day, catch a few fish at sea, and come back to play with the children; Take another nap with your wife, go to the village to have a drink at dusk, and play guitar with your friends. My life is full and busy! The American didn't think so and gave him advice. He said: I'm a master of business administration from Harvard University, and I can help you! You should spend more time catching fish every day, and then you will have money to buy a bigger boat. Naturally, you can catch more fish and buy more fishing boats. Then you can have a fishing fleet. At that time, you don't have to sell fish to fishmongers, but directly to processing plants. Then you can open a cannery by yourself. In this way, you can control the whole production, processing and marketing. Then you can leave this small fishing village, move to Mexico City, then move to Los Angeles, and finally to New York, where you can run your expanding business. The Mexican fisherman asked: how long does it take? Americans answer: fifteen to twenty years. The Mexican fisherman asked: and then? The American laughed and said: then you can be the emperor at home! As soon as the time comes, you can announce the listing of your shares and sell your shares to the investing public. Then you will send them! You can earn hundreds of millions! so what? Americans say: then you can retire! You can move to a small fishing village by the sea. Wake up naturally after sleeping every day, catch a few fish at sea, play with the children, and then take a nap with your wife. At dusk, go to the village to drink some wine and play guitar with your friends. The Mexican fisherman said in doubt: isn't that what I am now? In this story, I don't think anyone's choice is right or wrong. It's just different choices and different lives. If you feel content with the status quo is what you want, then choosing a life that is content with the status quo will make you happy and satisfied; If you are not willing to be mediocre and choose a path of change, progress and struggle, you will also feel happy in the process of this pursuit. The so-called success may be living according to the lifestyle you want. The worst state is when you want to choose a path that is not mediocre, change, progress and struggle, but live in a way that is content with the status quo, and finally complain that you have not got the life you want!

There is a kind of success, called dare not succeed When the boss told Xiaojing that he appreciated her contribution and work performance to the team this year, he would remove the word "associate" from her title of "Deputy Sales Director". This is good news, but it makes Xiaojing extremely afraid. "I don't know why, this news is like the end of the world to me. At that time, I felt my mouth dry, and my throat began to smoke. I sank into the deep sea and was about to drown!". Her decision was stunning: resign. Zeng Qifeng, a famous psychologist, once said such an example: a 26 year old girl who graduated from finance wanted to develop in the financial sector. She won the first place in the written examination in the first bank. She had an interview the next day. She set an alarm clock, but the alarm clock rang the next morning. She didn't hear it and missed it. She went to another bank to apply for a job, and the written examination was still the first. Before the interview, she made two alarm clocks. This time, she didn't miss the bell, but on the way to the interview, she had a small car accident and was sent to the hospital. The interview was missed again. Another case is more representative and intriguing. It is a typical representative of those "second life": a man has been an official since he graduated from University, from an associate to an associate to a deputy general manager. Finally, the leader of the unit retired, and the organization informed him that he could be righted, but he screwed up through a series of symptoms; Blushing, sweating, shaking hands, rapid heartbeat, unable to urinate when there is someone nearby, stuttering, blank brain Avoiding promotions, missing interviews, screwing up speeches, and inexplicably falling off the chain at critical moments, all of which are often attributed to nervousness, not playing well, and so on. In the view of psychologists, there may be a deeper reason, that is, "not succeeding psychologically", or "the guilt of successful people". A kind of self limitation: I don't deserve it Why do we feel so guilty and afraid when we succeed or may succeed, and even give up opportunities and even create failure? "When a person becomes an adult, when some dreams come true or exceed the goals he or she wants to achieve, he or she may feel morally guilty, because he or she feels that he or she is unworthy, and everyone feels that he or she is unworthy of anything." Zeng Qifeng explained. The 26 year old girl, realizing that she repeatedly missed the interview, may be due to what internal procedures are working. After doing psychological counseling, she found that her mother has been the most ordinary employee in the bank from work to retirement. With her educational background, if she succeeds in applying, she will be much higher than her mother, so subconsciously she won't let herself get this position. "So Oedipus period is also a matter of insight. Here we can see that insight is more important than knowledge, because insight is the foundation of personality and knowledge is just a hard disk. The limitation of how far a person can go comes from whether his father suppressed or respected him as a child, and from whether his mother dared to let go or held on to him." The man who will always be a deputy, whose father was also an official, was shot before he was born, "His father was shot by a bigger father. Think about it, what kind of imagination will such a posthumous son have of his father? He needs to imagine his father extremely strong, so that he can grow up well. But in fact, his father is not strong, because he is too weak to even protect his own life. In such a conflict, he will be careful not to be a person like his father, because once he is like his father, he will occupy the position of his father In fact, the best thing is to be the No. 2 person, and it's better to leave the No. 1 person to my father... To let him be the main job is to let him be my father, which activates his inner conflict. For him, being a father is the greatest success in the world and the greatest anxiety. " The guilt of successful people is the conflict between the desire for success at the conscious level and the fear of punishment after success at the subconscious level. "Many people pursue success, but success will stop to a certain extent." Lu Yue, a consultant, said, "People have two systems, the system of exploration and the system of stability. For a person, whether he lives in a survival oriented living environment or a development oriented living environment determines how far his life can go. If his life is survival oriented, then he cannot enjoy life, and he must make himself miserable. Many people have one inside Very fragile self-image. For example, if I enjoy life, it means that to some extent, I will be disconnected from my parents' world. If my parents' world is very tragic, how can I live up to my parents? Am I too heartless to be so happy? Mom is so sad and I'm still so happy, isn't it right? At this time, the child will feel guilty and will be insulated from all pleasure and entertainment. And this sense of guilt and guilt may eventually become a deep subconscious, which may be suppressed to the point that we don't know why, but we just feel "I can't" and "I don't deserve". To some extent, a person doesn't complete the psychological differentiation with his parents. What kind of living state his parents are, he should let himself be. " If parents have low values, what they have to do is to compare with their children, so they need to win in the comparison. The deeper reason, which is more common in this era, is narcissistic parents. "Narcissistic parents' blow to their children is very hidden. They verbally say, I hope you have a better life. But when we have a good life, they will have a feeling of being defeated. They don't allow their children to be bad, so bad that they lose face, but they don't allow them to be better than them, so good that they feel inferior to their children. Children will realize that they can't surpass their parents, and surpassing their parents is a wrong thing. As children Is to please parents - in this era, it is quite common and serious for parents to exploit children at this level. " As a result, children have a preset in their hearts about how far they can go and where they can reach, which is the feeling of "reaching the top" we often say. "In the heart, children have a top. Once the opportunity comes, close to this top, or may exceed this top, they are afraid, overwhelmed, and can't bear it." And this fear, like the deputy of the forever "second life", is often accompanied by somatic symptoms. In this sense, good enough parents allow their children to have their own happiness and success, and can surpass their parents. In China, the image of good parents is missing, but in martial arts, many good masters replace good fathers. What is this good master? It's "I'm willing to pass on my unique knowledge of my life to you, and then let you become greater than me. I'd rather decay, shrink, and decay like an old tree root in your growth, and then watch you grow and surpass my achievements. This is an idealized father image." When we understand the deep reasons why we dare not succeed psychologically, we must be able to know that those efforts that dare to succeed psychologically must be an extremely arduous mental journey. Ann, a female journalist "cursed by her father", has always buried a secret in her heart. When she interviews some successful men, she may fall into a state of near death at the scene. "In my career of more than ten years, there were about four such interviewees. When I faced them, I suddenly encountered a cobra or a wolf in the jungle and was nailed there. Later, I realized that there were some of them, like my father who was extremely strict with me and extremely controlled." Ann's father once tried many second occupations, raising earthworms, Clivia and rabbits, all of which lost money. Finally, he was taken all the money to open a ceramic factory and failed. "My father always failed, but he was quite strict with me. He only allowed me to be the first in the exam. He once slapped me in the face because I was the fifth in the exam..." Ann realized that she may unconsciously pursue failure and the shame brought by failure, but she did not dare to succeed. It may be difficult to crack, but Ann is willing to work hard. At the risk of dying, she asked "fathers" questions. When she succeeded in one, she tried the second and third... Now, she has contacted at least a dozen people like her father, "my efforts are about seven times successful." Ann said cautiously that she might have cured herself. "Ann's efforts are commendable". The consultant Gong Xueping encouraged more professionals like an to "deeply imprint the successful experiences and pictures that have been created, including your body posture, the way you breathe, the angle of thinking, etc., on the bottom of your heart, to review and experience it, activate it when necessary, and let this feeling flow again in your body." Zeng Qifeng once told a self breakthrough story: a nanny from the countryside, encouraged by the male host, grew up to be a boss who could run a restaurant. First, let the baby sitter cook for the subordinates of the unit. At first, the baby sitter was very afraid, and the male host supported her to try. (www.lz13.cn) later, she supported her to cook for more people. The baby sitter had no problem with her ability and succeeded again, so the male host said, I want to be a restaurant, and you can be the boss. The baby sitter thinks that she is a working life. How can she be a boss? Facts have proved that she is also a good boss. "This is a story of a person who constantly breaks through his own story, and this breakthrough requires someone to let him / her break the limits of childhood." Zeng Qifeng said that the limitation of this childhood is the Oedipus conflict, that is, what kind of parents I have, they decide what kind of ambition I have, which has nothing to do with their positions and achievements. "If I thought my parents were emperors when I was a child, if they treated me equally, I would not be afraid of becoming an emperor in the future, but if they always pressed me, my inner mechanism would be activated. Therefore, the conflict in Oedipus period is a question of dare to win." Dare to succeed with "psychological mind" Blackman, an American psychoanalyst, summarized 101 psychological defense mechanisms in his book the mask of the mind. Although people are flexible in applying these defense mechanisms at birth, and no one forces us to understand these defense mechanisms, relatively speaking, a person who knows what psychological defense mechanisms he is using will live a happier and freer life. "A conscious psychological mind may help us break through self-restraint and the psychological curse of not succeeding." First you have to start doubting, and then you will look at yourself in a retrospective way. Look at yourself from a perspective that transcends time and space, that is, he / she is not so absolute. He / she has the ability to perceive himself, can see certain things happen to him, and will look for some connections between today and yesterday, this year and ten years ago, and even childhood, and find the direction to break through the restrictions. "The truth revealed by the object relationship is enough to leave a thousand tears." Zeng Qifeng said. Psychological failure often dates back to childhood attachment relationships and native families. For the vast majority of people, it is usually difficult to recognize and break through this self limitation by self-awareness, and psychological counseling is an available resource. "It is to give him / her big shoes and a holding environment in the treatment, so that he / she can be punished after the detection touches the boundary. Psychotherapy is a kind of interpersonal adventure that provides no punishment." If we go to a psychologist and end the treatment, will we really become the person who dares to succeed psychologically? Gong Xueping said: "At the beginning, we understood that you didn't dare to succeed. At that time, it was a very important, good and protective thing for you. It must have nourished us. But today, we suddenly think that after using it for more than ten or twenty years, it has become not so easy to use. In the process of consulting, a person will grow up slowly. A standard of growing up slowly is that many things that you thought were important in the past, in your world The importance and proportion of become smaller, and you may develop a fuller personality motivation to work and live more adaptively, dare to succeed psychologically, and dare to win your own victory. "

Do you know the feeling of "calling"? It may happen when you are looking for a job, making friends, or looking for someone you love. Many times we try to define things in our minds. We imagine things as we want them to be and do things in the direction we want them to be. Sometimes our emotions are lost because they are touched from the heart. Once in a while, you like a thing - so much - that you try to find the rules of how it happens, and repeatedly question: How did it happen? Will it still be so?

Don't complain about this society, "why do 99% of people work hard and only 1% enjoy happiness?" Don't complain about the "fickleness" of the world. Just look at yourself and ask yourself: have you fallen down yet. If you don't bend down and do any work on the "surface" and can't go further, even if you complain and scream, you can't solve any practical problems. Because "gold" is picked up by others. Shi Yong, who fought with the national youth basketball team for many years, is certainly familiar to many people. However, he has become the chairman of a hotpot chain company and has done a good job. In a small courtyard in Wenjiang District, Chengdu, the reporter met Shi Yong. There are warehouses and hot pot seasoning production workshops here. A somewhat narrow office is the workplace of Shi Yong and Zhang Chi, another shareholder of the company. On the wall, the signboard of "Gaoren Shiyong Catering Management Co., Ltd." glitters with gold. A young man who once played in the August 1st Youth Team and the national youth men's basketball team had to leave his beloved basketball career because of his irreparable ankle injury. After that, he gave up the work arranged for him by the team and resolutely made a living with a demobilization fee. At the end of 2012, a businessman named lijianhong sent people to Langfang, Hebei Province to lobby Shi Yong to come to Chengdu for development. Shi Yong left his spicy hot pot stall and opened this hot pot restaurant company with lijianhong and three other shareholders. Shi Yong accounted for 60% of the shares and became the legal representative of the company. In fact, he didn't care much about his title. He said: "the shareholders of our company are young people. They don't just want to make money. For me, it's more important to do something in this life than to make money." Shi Yong said that the reason why these friends found him was because of their strength. After I couldn't play, I didn't cry and cry to ensure that I could jump out of the system and fight on my own. It may be this spirit that makes my friends feel worthy of cooperation. From the end of 2012 to Chengdu to the first half of 2013, he has been studying the production management knowledge of hotpot in the front line. As long as there are posts related to hot pot, such as waiter, warehouse keeper, raw material purchasing, etc., he will not leave any of them, but will go to them in person. "Do you want to start from the front line after becoming the chairman?" In response to the reporter's question, Shi Yong said: "because in the past, the spicy hot pot restaurant was very different from the current hot pot restaurant. It doesn't matter if it's different. I really want to learn. As long as I get in touch with this industry, you can know what the operation and cost of all aspects of this industry are." On Shi Yong's desk, there are indeed a lot of management books, such as learning management and leadership every day, details determine success or failure, a eloquence class every day, and even the famous popular science book gokri's universe. He said: "what can you do with your own dim sum eye? It's a shortcut to success mainly by learning from the experience of others." When it comes to the reason why the name "expert" comes into being, Zhang Chi, a partner, said vividly: "first of all, people in Sichuan are generally not tall. If they see a big man 2 meters high on the road, they will subconsciously say, 'Hey, you see an expert.' also, we hope that what we think, do and pursue can be different and superior. It depends on people's understanding." Today, Shi Yong has opened six hotpot stores in Chengdu, Wenjiang, Qionglai, Pixian, Shifang and other places, four of which are franchised stores, one for each. It seems that the success or not, the long-term success or not, has a lot to do with whether to bend down. It is true that wealth is everywhere. It depends on whether you can see it. If you bend down, you can't run away any gold you see; Looking up at the sky with a cigarette all day, "dog head gold" is under your feet. Even if you stumble, you may not know it is "gold". No matter what you do, as long as you bend down and do it honestly, there is nothing you can't do and nothing you can't do well.

There are many lonely and difficult moments. I rely on this sentence to support myself. I hope it can also comfort you, "don't be sad, what you have lost will return in another form"—— Yixin Recently, I am too busy at work. I have to review my exams after work. When I am so sleepy, I feel that life is loveless. In the wechat group of test friends, everyone is the same. Before going to bed, someone always tells a few stories, and a group of people reply with a mess of symbols and expressions to relieve pressure. My high school deskmate Xiaoyou is also in the group. She never tells jokes and doesn't reply "ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha No one else knows her, but I am too familiar with that feeling. It is the same as in the classroom ten years ago. In high school, Xiao you was poor at math. There are 60 people in the class. Her total score is in the top ten, but she can rank in the bottom ten in mathematics. After the math teacher repeatedly called Xiaoyou to the office and explained the problems over and over again, Xiaoyou still looked confused. Even the math teacher gave up. At the end of another final exam, Xiao you looked at the failing number on the score list and silently pulled me to the playground for a run. On the red plastic track, the wind was strong, so I didn't see whether the tears on her cheeks were dried by the wind. I just remember the two people gasping in the warm and cold dry air in the early spring of the north. We all hated youth at that time. Youth is too difficult. It is even more difficult for those who are poor in mathematics. It is even more difficult for those who are poor in mathematics but make progress like Xiaoyou. I know that the most sad thing for her is not the number of the students who failed, but the expression that the teacher gave up completely. After that day, Xiaoyou seems to have changed. She used to be afraid to enter the math office. She stayed there every time she went to the self-study class and begged the math teacher to explain the problems to her. She used the most stupid method - reciting formulas, doing problems, reciting formulas, doing problems, reciting formulas, doing problems She brought a lunch box every day. She didn't go home for dinner before the evening self-study. All the time she saved was doing math problem sets. She had little rest after class and even trotted all the way to the bathroom. Because there are several other subjects to review, so she can only squeeze out the time after class and other people's rest time to tutor math. I almost forgot how I spent my high school life, but I still remember Xiao you crouching at the desk every time I entered the classroom. No matter how much we quarreled around, she was as calm as a cucumber, either staring at a pile of wrong numbered papers in front of her, or staring at another blank paper in front of her. In Xiaoyou's college entrance examination results, mathematics is still a lagging subject, but she got the highest score in the three years of high school and the only passing score. For many people, this achievement at their fingertips means countless sleepless mornings and the break time when Xiaoyou sits on his seat like a sculpture. Later, we went to different universities. I went to graduate school in China, and Xiao you went to the United States. Our track gradually drifted away, and the connection slowly became weak. Not until we added wechat some time ago did I know that she changed her major from business administration to international accounting when she was a graduate student. Now she works in one of the world's four largest accounting firms and has become a certified public accountant who "lives on numbers". She often worked overtime until the early morning. She was extremely busy, but full. She said to me: "Do you know? Every time I look at the bright night in the city and feel the distant sound of the waves, I know that many years ago, when I was at recess, I didn't even drink enough water to save the time to go to the toilet. The time I spent doing math problems foolishly was not in vain. Fate didn't defeat me. I finally got the harvest, although I waited so long. Everything I paid for math was even lost Everything that has gone has quietly returned. " I nearly shed tears for her words, because we all had many silly times, and we all insisted on being dull and desperate. Fate never gave a clear omen, nor promised a blue sea and blue sky after a storm. Fortunately, what we have lost and given has returned to life in another form. A girl I followed on Weibo, R\_ Xu\_， She looks like a lovely Lori, but she has the will of an iron man. From "sports Xiaobai" who could not run 400 meters when she was reading to "fitness expert" who could easily complete a marathon, from a weak little girl to a member of the International Karate Federation, she said that since she decided to change, only she knew the hardships and hardships along the way. Others asked her why she had so much time to exercise. She admitted that she was a busy stewardess, and often came home after the plane landed in the early morning. But even so, she woke up early and rushed to the gym for exercise. She never advertised and called on a group of fans to get up early. She only said: "even if I go to bed late in the morning, I will get up before 8 o'clock, because I don't want to live up to every good morning." In her microblog photos, in addition to her young and beautiful figure, she also has her own hands full of blood bubbles for practice. But she never suffered from it, but took it as a way to temper her will and decompress herself. She is not an athlete, just an ordinary person, but she said, "when I can stand up with a 40kg body carrying a 70kg barbell, what pressure can I not face?" When a fan confessed to the hard work of fitness, her words healed many people. She said: "don't worry about others drinking beer and eating fried chicken, while you can only eat tasteless healthy food. While others are shopping and watching movies, you are sweating in the gym. Don't be sad, what you have lost will return in another form." What I know is that she has a soft face like cherry blossom petals, a slim, healthy and strong body, and the sincere and warm love of countless fitness fans. In the camp of all beauties such as models, actors and singers, she is fresh and beautiful, so unique and powerful. So looking at so many strong and diligent people, I quietly opened the review reference books. Once we hated youth and thought it was too difficult to be young. But now, in retrospect, if there were no time for those who stayed up late to read, or those who wandered alone in a foreign land, how could we become who we are today? Although today's self is still imperfect, it is enough to support a leisurely life. Yes, countless dear children, even if you want to wear the stars and the moon, even if you have nothing to depend on, you still have to go bravely. Don't be sad, what you have lost will return in another form. Those pains and heartbreaks, those tiredness and despair, have been silently remembered by fate. It doesn't have time to give you equal praise, applause, admiration and glory, but don't give up. They will always return in the way you dreamed of.

Many people perform three things every day: they can't sleep at night, can't get up in the morning, and regret that they slept too late yesterday! If a person can't even get up early, what do you expect him to do this day? The ancients said: the plan of the day is in the morning. I can't catch it in the morning. How can I catch the day? Long term adherence to getting up early is good for your health, but many people can't say what amazing changes have taken place. Let's have a look at the following summaries!