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Ambition is a man's GPS

乘飞机
July 29
It's time to make a determination, but from the perspective of natural process, it's best to make a determination when boys are 15 to 20 years old, that is, when they are adolescent. At this time, everything can be absorbed, and it is easy to establish values that determine the future. Determination is navigation, just like GPS. If you have GPS navigation, you won't get lost. Resolve this problem. If you don't stand well and lack a GPS in the back, how can you have a direction when you walk in the desert? Of course, with this thing in your life, you won't lose it all your life, but it may not arrive smoothly. These are two concepts. So after the age of 20, we should choose friends and choose to toss in reality. After determination, you will not lose your life, but when you collide with reality, you must have the courage to face this problem. From the perspective of ambition, there are opportunities at the age of 30 and 40, most of which are during adolescence from 15 to 20. In the future, there will be many collisions with society, such as the molecules of Brownian movement, bumping here and there, not necessarily bumping anywhere, but you can't lose the direction in your heart. I once drove with Wang Shi from Xi'an to Xinjiang and suddenly lost my way on the Gobi desert. At that time, the mobile phone had no signal and GPS, so we really didn't know where to go. You can't turn on the air conditioner at this time. It costs fuel when it is turned on. Turn off the air conditioner, it's hot. You can't open the window. The dry and hot Gobi outside the window will suck out the water inside. If we smoke it out, we'll do it. It's hot and can't open the window. I don't know where to go. Just this oil. If I go wrong, it's over. At this time, I am more and more afraid, and I am most afraid to find that there is no direction. If there is a direction at this time, I will try my best to go out. The car in front left by itself. Our only hope is the driver. He finds the rut by experience, finds the deepest and latest mark of the car, and then he crosses the car there, waiting to see if there is a car. Fortunately, after waiting for more than an hour, a car passed by, but the direction of that person is not the direction we want to go. Finally, we cleverly wrote a note, telling him to go out and go to a place where we can make a phone call to help us make this phone call, telling those people our location to save us. If this person throws this note away, we are finished. Fortunately, this person made this call when he went out, and those people drove us out. Life is the same. The most terrifying thing is that there is no direction. We often forget our ambition in our life. A man without ambition has no GPS, just like losing his way in the desert and dying at any time. When you have a direction, no matter how far you go, you have hope to live.

Why is EQ more decisive than IQ in a person's life

乘飞机
July 16
Since the word "EQ" appeared, people have begun to compare EQ with IQ, which is more important. In terms of function, IQ reflects people's intelligence level, while EQ reflects people's ability to know themselves, control emotions, motivate themselves and deal with interpersonal relationships. However, there are many cases that show that EQ is more important than IQ and can determine the fate of life. There are two cases: Zhang Chi has been slow and dull since he went to kindergarten. Other children can count to 100 skillfully, and Zhang Chi has difficulty even counting to 20. After being promoted to high school, the best score only ranked more than 60 in the whole school. But Zhang Chi's parents cooperated closely with his teachers and did a lot of work to cultivate Zhang Chi. For example, cultivate interest and thirst for knowledge first; Establish children's self-confidence; Communicate with teachers; Cultivate good habits; Learn to do things by yourself; Necessary spirit of hardship; Experience parents' painstaking efforts; Being a person is more important than learning. Zhang Chi, who just finished his sophomore year in Beijing No. 4 middle school in 1997, received an undergraduate admission notice from the University of Essex in the United Kingdom. At the age of 22, he received a full scholarship from Cambridge University, becoming the youngest Chinese doctoral student in history, and was responsible for the thesis guidance of 4 masters and 8 undergraduates. Li Wenzhe, from primary school to junior high school, has been the former five students in his class, although he has changed several schools because of his parents' job transfer. His parents' education of their children is similar to Zhang Chi's, and they attach great importance to the education of their quality behavior. Li Wenzhe's academic performance in high school jumped to 1-2 in the whole school, and he was admitted to Tsinghua University this year. From the above two examples, we can see that a gifted and intelligent child is a gift from heaven, but the cultivation of EQ after tomorrow can create miracles. In real life, some people have high IQ but low Eq. they may be excellent in learning and working ability, but their interpersonal relationship is not very good and their career is not very smooth. However, those people with average IQ but high EQ have a positive life, good interpersonal relationships and a fighting spirit. Therefore, such people are particularly easy to succeed. Some people have vividly described "getting a job by IQ and getting promoted by EQ", which is reasonable. Daniel Goleman pointed out in his book emotional intelligence that emotional intelligence is closely related to all aspects of human life and is the key to affect people's happiness and success in life. Emotional intelligence is more important than IQ. Some people say that a person with high IQ can become an excellent accountant, but only those with good IQ and EQ can become senior executives of the company. Zeng Guofan was a very influential figure in ancient Chinese history. He was not smart when he was a child. He was not that kind of prodigy who never forgets and sees ten lines at a glance. He was similar to ordinary children and even called stupid. One night, he was reading at home. He repeated an article many times, but he still didn't memorize it. At this time, a thief came to the house, lurking under the eaves, hoping to make some profit after the scholar went to bed. But wait, wait, just don't see him sleeping, or read the article over and over. The thief was impatient under the wall and got angry. "What book do you read at this level?" Then recite the article and walk away. Zeng Guofan was stunned by what happened suddenly. When the thief finished reciting the article and ran away, he reacted, smiled and thought: this man is so powerful. After listening to it for several times, he can recite it. It seems that I still don't study hard enough, and I still need to continue to study hard! It is with this tenacity and perseverance that Zeng Guofan created his successful life and became an important historical figure in modern Chinese history, known as the "first famous minister" of the late Qing Dynasty. Research has confirmed that emotional intelligence plays a decisive role in the success of life. Only when it is combined with emotional intelligence can IQ be brought into full play. Among those who have made great achievements in many fields, a considerable number of people are considered not to have high IQ in school, but they give full play to their EQ and finally succeed. People with high EQ have an advantage in all fields of life. They have a greater chance of success in love, interpersonal relationships, and dominating their personal destiny. In addition, people with high EQ live more efficiently, are easier to be satisfied, and can use their intelligence to achieve fruitful results. On the contrary, people with low EQ can't control their emotions, and fierce conflicts often occur in their hearts, weakening their practical ability and thinking ability that should have focused on work. In other words, the level of emotional intelligence can determine whether a person can give full play to other abilities (including intelligence), thus determining how much he has achieved. Specific content of EQ We have a preliminary understanding of the basic concept of Eq. in order to better understand what EQ is, relevant experts have divided EQ into five specific aspects:

How to plan the time and never be late again

乘飞机
July 09
Why do we always seem to run around like headless chickens? We fill our calendar with task lists, events, meetings, and other arrangements between them. With such a busy schedule and limited time in a day, it is easy to be late. Why does it seem that we don't have enough time in the day? If you want to know how not to be late again, you need to follow the following steps!

The person who complains is always the life of a migrant worker

乘飞机
July 04
Xiao Chen is an engineer. His company is a little famous in the industry. He also likes this job, but some things make Xiao Chen very unhappy. For example, because the company is still in the early stage of development and management is a little chaotic, the boss often makes decisions and changes plans temporarily. The most unbearable thing for Xiao Chen is that the boss only considers "taking down" the customer first and receiving the money first. As for whether he has the ability to solve the customer's problems, he can think of ways later. In this environment, complaining has become a habit of Xiao Chen. A colleague tried to persuade him, but he just couldn't control it. Until one day when he was complaining, he heard the boss say to him, "if you think the company is bad, don't come tomorrow." In fact, the boss was also angry, but Xiao Chen couldn't stand this injustice, so he resolutely resigned. After resigning, Xiao Chen came to the career consulting company and asked the experts, "working is too annoying. I don't know whether I'm suitable for starting my own business?" Unexpectedly, the expert smiled and said to him, "if you can't change the habit of complaining, you may never be suitable for starting your own business!" Those who like to complain in the workplace may focus on how bad the boss and the company are. They dream that one day when they become the boss, they will no longer have these annoying problems. However, if such people really start their own businesses and face more pressure, who should they complain to? Not only that, in fact, the staff of the career counseling center found that job hopping caused by complaints accounted for almost 40% of job hopping. Complaint actually comes from a feeling of disappointment and urgency. At the same time, complaining makes people have a negative attitude and lose their motivation to work. They always deal with work at ordinary times, and as a result, their performance cannot come out. Because of complaints, many employees can't bear the temporary difficulties of the enterprise, so they passively confront the tasks assigned by their superiors, and change their jobs when they encounter some dissatisfaction. If you ask the bosses of various enterprises what they don't like to hear most in their team, they may readily answer that the last thing they want to hear is "complaint". In fact, for the bosses and managers of enterprises, it is they who bear greater market pressure. Perhaps they are the ones who should complain most. But in reality, they are the least complaining people. On the contrary, many of them were exhausted by the complaints of his colleagues and his subordinates. Therefore, once they have the opportunity, they will dismiss such employees first. Employees who like to complain are either dismissed by the enterprise or take the initiative to change jobs because they feel that they can't stand it in the enterprise. They feel that with their youth, strength and intelligence, they can always find a better job. Every time they change a new job, they look at everything in their work with a "critical" eye, and don't know to cherish the opportunities at hand. Finally, they "wasted time", while they are still jumping around, and they can't find career goals and opportunities at all. For people who are used to complaining, life is a wall after wall. They are embarrassed and depressed everywhere. The path and pattern of life are always awkward and hit a wall everywhere. Maybe you will say, "do I want to be bullied and silent? Will being a 'hard-working' fool really be promising? I don't believe it." In fact, many successful entrepreneurs did not complain in their early years of "relying on others" or difficult entrepreneurial periods. It's not that they are insensitive or a "hard-working" fool. In fact, they don't have time to complain. They know that complaining not only consumes energy, but also doesn't help. What they have to do is to do the thing at hand as well as possible. If a person is not satisfied with his current environment, the only way is to let himself overcome and surpass the environment. People who like to complain have no place in this world that follows the law of the strong. Complaining is a common problem in the workplace, and complaining is the enemy of career success. People who often complain will become negative and do not want to make progress. Complaining is not only unnecessary, but also stupid. The more you complain, the worse it gets. Resolve complaints, change the "complaining character", and regain confidence and happiness in work

I believe you have made the right choice in the past

乘飞机
June 23
At the end of each year, many people will say, "another year has been wasted." In fact, people who say such words do not understand the most essential meaning of life. They only care about the money they should earn, the love they should fall in, or the travel plan they should go to... Life is a kind of spending. Where they come from and where they go are unknown fields, and all they can feel is the process of crossing. If life is a kind of passing, then there is no word "wasting", unless you are in a state of brain death, with no feeling, no experience, and no gain. Then, it is a difficult problem to define whether spending can be divided into what kind of spending is really valuable spending. We always look at other people living, with more money, more beautiful partners and more proud careers, but forget that we are not others, we are ourselves, we are living our own life, and we have a wonderful life. However, the flavor is not sweet. It may be bitterness, loss, disappointment, loneliness, loneliness, busyness, emptiness... These are also the tastes that life should have tasted. In the whole process of life, the richer the experience, the fuller the life. Suppose there is such a person, who has been to any place in the world, even had the experience of going to heaven in a spaceship, tasted all the food in the world (delicious and difficult to swallow), contacted all the people living in different cultures, fell in love for countless times, engaged in many occupations (including soldiers in war and displaced refugees), and had many identities (poor people, rich people, senior officials, dignitaries and elites), Having been married many times, being a father or mother, having experienced a lot of physical pain and death, he must have been the most valuable, full and interesting person in his era. However, we can not do it all, so the passage of life is a process of choice. When it comes to choice, you need to be very clear about your ability and social position, always do what you can do, and do not do what you can't do. You cherish life very much. Some things you can't do are not giving up, but waiting for what you can do. Then you will live efficiently. It is a pity that we often give ourselves an impossible expectation that we can do it with our own efforts. As a result, we are as disappointed as we are. But this is not a waste of time. After all, every day you feel and breathe. Every cell in your life is actively metabolizing and self renewing. We really need to change our attitude towards life, cherish every moment, but do not easily evaluate the time we have spent, because it is not objective to evaluate yesterday today. Believe that you have made the right choice in all the past, that you cherish all today, and that you will make every effort to work hard for all tomorrow, then your life will always be full and happy.

If successful people are bad people, why should we be good people?

乘飞机
June 16
If successful people are bad people, why should we be good people? This sentence is not a rhetorical question, but a sincere question. We all hope that good people will be rewarded, but there is no scientific basis for this. Not only that, now psychologists have carried out a series of latest studies that show that most people who get "good news" are not "good people". We sometimes face two directions in decision-making: the direction that is beneficial to us and the direction that is worthy of our conscience. If you are a rational person, how should you choose? A habit of highly effective people I recently read an article "one to think about problems" circulating on the Internet, which talks about a very interesting dilemma: suppose you find that your boss is corrupt, what should you do. The author Cao Lili said that if you are an ordinary employee who has no chance to contact corruption, the only thing you can do is to protect yourself and pretend not to know, because you have no evidence even if you want to report it. If you are a secretary or assistant, you must not be greedy, or you will be the first one to take the blame in the future; Secondly, don't report it immediately, or other leaders won't dare to use you again. You should "try every means to dissuade the leader in private and let him rein in from the precipice. If he insists, he will resign." This answer is not only worthy of their own work, but also preserves their own morality. It is perfect. However, if you want to continue to be an ordinary person, you should do so. But what if you are not satisfied with being an ordinary person and want to be a leader? Let's take a look at these high-ranking people. They will inevitably encounter corrupt bosses in the process of growing up. First, since they can get high positions, it is impossible that they will never have access to the core evidence. Second, their original boss could not have been so stupid that he would have wanted to embezzle and quit on the precipice after listening to their advice. Third, since they are still working today, it is obvious that they did not resign at the beginning! So the most reasonable inference is that these people think that when the water is clean, there is no fish. They choose not to report if they have evidence in their hands. They may even be greedy together. Of course, there are risks in collusion, but there are risks before there are opportunities. It's safe to stay out, but it also means that others don't take you to play. We have to worry about gains and losses in the calculation of various risks and interests, which is not smart at all. How many righteous people, seeing the social situation, simply don't bother to calculate and quit the Jianghu. When I was in college, I often rented Gu Long's novels. On one occasion, I saw a sentence in a book full moon machete. I don't know which young man's blood was aroused. It was heavily underlined: "he must stand out from the right path.". What should we do to stand out from the right path? It's no use reading Cologne for such a problem... You have to read a better selling book, Stephen Covey's seven habits of highly effective people. One of the key ideas in the book, and the second habit of "highly effective people", is to do things with principle as the focus. Covey said that you should have a sense of mission and find a vision and direction for your life. This kind of vision is not to find an island to retire after success, but rather higher-level things such as personal final expectations and values, such as changing the world - or, in other words, what evaluation do you want to get when you build a coffin in the future. You should set yourself a set of constitutional principles according to this sense of mission, always keep them in mind, and every move is for this vision. Focusing on money, pleasure, fame and wealth, or work and family is not as good as focusing on "principles". Covey gives an example. For example, when you make an appointment to go to a show with your wife in the evening, the boss suddenly calls you back to work overtime. People who focus on work will choose to work overtime, and people who focus on family will choose to continue to accompany their wife. However, people who focus on principles will make overall consideration without being affected by any impulse. No matter what choice they make, they will make an active decision based on their sense of mission or obligation. A person who focuses on work may decide to go back to work overtime for his own promotion or to compare with his colleagues' competitors, while a person who focuses on principle decides to go back to work overtime for the sake of the company. What should a person who focuses on principles do when he encounters corruption from his boss? His starting point must be completely different from our previous calculations: he may think of the company and even the country, rather than simply studying what to do to his own advantage. In this way, high-performance people do things completely different from ordinary small people. They are aboveboard and full of moral responsibility, which is really admirable. The only problem is that although the book "seven habits of highly effective people" published in 1989 is clear and correct, it lacks the support of academic research. It is absolutely unreasonable for people today to write any similar book without some scientific research evidence. Now that more than 20 years have passed, is there any scientific evidence that according to the habit of high-performance people, if they do things in the right way, they can become outstanding? No, Who is more selfish? Feng Lun, a "Confucian businessman", once went to Hong Kong to have a meal with Li Ka Shing. He was impressed by the approachable attitude of the other party. He wrote an article specially when he came back. Fenglun said that Li Ka Shing was waiting at the elevator entrance to greet the crowd. He used lots to order his meals and photos. In this way, he "respected everyone present". Even the topic of his speech in the middle was "building self and pursuing selflessness", which fully reflected his "soft power beyond money". The story is not shocking. It is widely believed that the real elites are so amiable and even immortal. Their success does not depend on speculation at all, but on fair and bright soft power. People even think that the thinking mode of the elite is fundamentally different from that of ordinary people. For example, we often see positive energy stories such as "the poor tolerate themselves and the rich tolerate others". But we can't just listen to stories. We have to look at research. In a paper published in 2012, psychologist Paul K. PIFF and his collaborators conducted a total of seven studies. These studies have shown that the moral standards of the rich and the so-called upper class society are not only not higher than ordinary people, but also lower than ordinary people. In the first two studies, researchers observed hundreds of cars passing by at a sidewalk and an intersection in the San Francisco Bay area. In these two places where there are no traffic lights but only traffic signs, California law stipulates that vehicles must let pedestrians pass, and the late arriving vehicles at the intersection must let the first arriving vehicles pass. So which cars will honestly stop and give way, and which cars will grab it? The researchers divided the cars into five grades according to the degree of luxury. The result was that the lowest car was the most rule-abiding in both studies, while the highest car was the least rule-abiding in both studies. Excluding the age and gender of drivers, the conclusion is still very obvious: people who drive a good car perform worse. The third study recruited more than 100 undergraduate students from the University of California, Berkeley as subjects. First, they investigated their socio-economic background, told them about eight kinds of immoral behaviors in daily life, and then asked them if it was possible for you to do the same thing. These eight things are not specifically designed for the rich. In my opinion, the poor are more likely to encounter them: for example, working in a restaurant to steal food, taking the school's printing paper home, and not paying back the extra money for coffee. As a result, people with high socio-economic status are more likely to do these immoral things. The remaining studies found that the more "upper class" subjects believed that greed and selfishness were good, that lying in job interviews was acceptable, and that they really cheated in the experiment in order to win prizes. Moreover, even if the subjects "feel they belong to the upper class" because of the psychological influence of the researchers, the subjects become more likely to steal. How to understand these studies? One interpretation is that the rich have low moral standards because they don't care what others think of them. Ordinary people have limited resources and must rely on each other to survive better, so they pay special attention to their own image and dare not do immoral things. The rich have sufficient resources to maintain their independence. They don't need others to care about them. For example, some studies have found that in the interaction experiment with strangers, the richer the rich, the less attention and interaction they show to each other. This is tantamount to saying that wealth leads to immorality. A recent study in 2015 found similar findings. The experiment showed that people with higher socio-economic status cheated mainly for themselves, while ordinary people cheated mostly for others. Furthermore, just by giving subjects some power in the experiment, they will immediately become selfish people and start cheating for themselves. Another possibility is that because they are immoral, they become rich. As mentioned earlier, the research of PIFF et al. Found that the rich have an essentially different attitude towards greed from ordinary people. They do things more driven by selfishness. In his paper, PIFF even thinks that the mechanism that the more immoral people are, the easier they are to obtain more wealth is self-sustaining, and may lead to a further widening of the gap between the rich and the poor. However interpreted, researchers acknowledge the fact that people with high socioeconomic status are more selfish than ordinary people. Panshiyi donated money to Harvard and Zhang Lei donated money to Yale, which has aroused fierce criticism among Chinese people. Why don't you donate money to Chinese universities? Why not donate it to project hope? Because only the poor will donate to the hope project. Atlantic Monthly reported that in 2011, the 20% of people with the lowest income in the United States donated a total of 3.2% of their property; The top 20% of the people donated only 1.3%. Among the top 50 largest donations in 2012, none was for social services and poverty. Where are all the rich people's donations? The biggest winners are elite universities and museums. The rich are more selfish. A deeper interpretation is that ordinary people donate because they have compassion, while rich people donate with a strong self-interest purpose. Ordinary people are more likely to act from the perspective of empathy, while the upper class is more accustomed to the naked calculation of interests.

Why can't you do it when you know it?

乘飞机
June 06
Have you ever had such an experience: I made up my mind that I would not stay up late from tonight, but after a few days, my old illness repeated itself. He said with great enthusiasm that he would start to work out from tomorrow. As a result, he insisted on working out for less than two weeks and announced that his plan had run aground. After reading a book, listening to a class or getting a shot of chicken blood, my brain opened wide and I decided to change. I also sent a circle of friends: I tried to meet a better self, but in the end, I only saw a more bloody self. …… Obviously know and want, but willful can not do it. Why?

The distance between you and success is 2%

乘飞机
June 01
In any place, to do anything, to be successful, efforts are inevitable! However, some people pay a lot but do not return. Some people just pay a little more and succeed. The distance between them and success is 2%. 2% more initiative "The superior forces me to think more" and "I want to take the initiative to think", both behave the same, but their motivations are different, and their feelings of doing things are also different. The proportion of "pursuing" is high. If you take the initiative in everything, you will be happier; The proportion of "being asked" is high, so it is not so energetic. Please remember: one wait, two depend, three fail, one think, two do, three succeed. 2% more effort Have you heard of Kobe? A basketball player in the United States, who is very good, recently announced that he is going to retire next year. A reporter once asked Bryant why he was so successful. Bryant asked the reporter if he had seen Los Angeles at 4 a.m. Kobe Bryant said seriously: "I know that Los Angeles looks like four o'clock in the morning every day. The sky is full of stars, few lights and few pedestrians." The implication is that he gets up for training at 4 a.m. every day. We don't have to go after the truth of the story. Because Kobe's life has long been included in the history of basketball, he is one of the greatest stars in NBA history. We don't have to insist on becoming a big man like Kobe. As long as we pay 2% more attention, the river can also converge into a vast ocean. 2% more humility When you meet a difficult colleague or a bad tempered boss, you should remember eight words: "look at his bad, learn from his good". Why is he proud? Because his skill is better than everyone else. Why does he command people? Because he has the ability to find team problems. It is better to learn from others' merits than to sulk. 2% more thinking If a colleague is popular, just think about why he is so comfortable talking; Laugh when watching entertainment programs. You might as well think about the originality of this program; Go shopping and see the lovely tea cup. Think about what special elements it has. A little more observation, thinking and feeling will stimulate creativity. 2% more confidence Have your own personality and expertise. Don't be the same as others in order to cater to and please others. Like your own uniqueness, bravely go your own way and establish your own brand, others will naturally cherish you for your uniqueness. Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared, and success is always the crown of those who are attentive. It doesn't need too much. It only needs 2% effort. Just do things with more heart. This will not cause people's jealousy, and will not leave their own regrets. Why not try it?

To counter attack in the second half of life, you only need to do five things well

乘飞机
May 27
This small holiday, I asked my childhood friend candy, whom I hadn't seen for many years, to meet in a small cafe nearby. She planned to have a chat. Candy agreed. What I didn't expect is that candy's clothes are still as rustic as before, and there is no fashionable atmosphere that young people should have. I remember when candy was a child, her family was not very well off. The whole family were serious people. His father often praises him in front of others, saying that he is a good child of genhong miaozheng and that he should be trained into a useful person in the future. So since she was a child, candy has spent her time in the sea of books. Up to now, candy is still a gentle nerd in my mind. I remember candy was younger than me. He went to primary school with me. When I was in primary school, candy impressed me most that he recited the Analects of Confucius under the pressure of his father before he started school, so that I felt very hard to communicate with him every time. In fact, candy's father's career was also very good. He never skipped the slot. He worked as a security guard in a famous university for a lifetime. But we didn't call security at that time. We used to call the doorman uncle. Only in recent years, we changed our clothes to be called security. Condy's father was influenced by the students and formed a good habit of feeling uncomfortable without reading. It is said that his father brought two boxes of books when he retired. What's more, he can memorize the ancient Chinese Guanzhi, which is said to be the full text. At the coffee shop, candy gave me a detailed account of his difficult entrepreneurial experience. It's unexpected that it took only three years for candy to go from an errand salesman to a sales supervisor, then own her own company, and then hold nearly ten million assets. This is a counter attack. At this time, I looked at his clothes. His appearance was unbelievable. It really surprised me. Candy said that it is really difficult for people like us who are almost middle-aged to make a career. Entrepreneurship is actually a toss, but people need to dare to venture and do if they want to have a dream. So don't complain about the ups and downs of your fate and the lack of opportunities. We usually listen to too many complaints from others. The hearts of successful entrepreneurs should be a filter, which can filter out all unhappiness. Only joy, emotion and beauty remain in their hearts. In the subsequent conversation, I asked candy to share with me her experience of successful counter attack. Candy is as modest as he is wearing. Candy smiled and said that I think too highly of him. He said that he is not a successful person because he has to face difficulties and failures every day, not success. I gave him a few more polite words. Finally, candy thought for a while and said, "if you want me to say something, I'll tell you five personal insights!" 1、 Be good at collecting your time and energy The resources of our ordinary people in terms of contacts, educational background, family background, etc. are all stretched, or even worthless. The only resources that can be called resources are time and energy. We ordinary people should regard time and energy resources as the greatest wealth of life and treat them as one of the few most worthy breakthroughs. But the reality is that most of our time is wasted and most of our energy is scattered. We are extraordinary to test how much time we spend on the mobile phone every day. This time does not include the time of using resources to learn things, but simply the time of skipping from one page to another and constantly browsing. Make sure you lose twoorthree hours of your day before you know it. Think back, what have you gained in these twoorthree hours? How much information about fast food can you remember the next day? Some people say that I am relaxing through entertainment, but you are deceiving yourself. In fact, brushing your mobile phone needs to constantly mobilize your attention. If a person really wants to have fun, twenty or thirty minutes is enough, and the rest of the time to go to sleep or be in a daze. The relaxation effect is many times stronger than brushing the mobile phone. If you can collect these fragmented time and use it to polish your skills in oneortwo areas, and take two hours a day as the input budget, it will be enough to make you pass the novice period in this field after one year. 2、 Invest in the right bank and enter the right door If you can put your time together and do something, then your first priority is to find an industry you like and are interested in. Of course, this can not be determined by your own temperament. You should see whether you are interested in the industry, whether there is market value, and whether you can create income. Some people say that I love playing mahjong. Sorry, there are few consumers willing to spend money to watch you play mahjong in the society. You can only think about becoming the king of gambling. I tell you, whether an enterprise or a person, it must be the times that make heroes. It is impossible for heroes to make the times. Therefore, the line selection must go upstream. This is a technique. Only when the situation of your chosen industry is good, can we have the opportunity to become heroes. Only after becoming a hero, can we adapt to the current situation, transform the current situation and achieve our own business goals. Candy said that it is better to choose the industry you are interested in. After all, interest is the best teacher. It doesn't need to be strong. At least it needs to be a little. You can't rely on "perseverance" and "persistence" to get a job that you can't hook up with any interest. We must not overestimate our perseverance. 3、 Distinctive, learn to be different If you choose a good door, you must make it clear that some skills can be learned quickly in a short period of time, such as hardware, while some skills need an incubation period of slow growth and no immediate feedback, that is to say, it takes a long process to build your soft power. This period is the most critical. Your state must be adjusted to the best. You should be observant and attentive, and take the initiative to find gaps in the same industry. If you can't find the gap, you don't know what your problem is. If you don't know the problem, you don't know what skills you lack. If you find the skills you lack, that's your characteristic. For example, if you want to open a store selling rougamo, is it only to make rougamo taste good? Obviously not. You must learn from those successful rougamo shops to see why others can become bigger, and then find the gap from yourself. This period is long. You need to constantly adjust your strategies. Don't copy them. Find your own characteristics. Ultimately you have to be unique. I don't know if you have found that sometimes the same store sells the same things, and the final performance is also different. Some make big profits, some always drink others' northwest wind, and even lose money. Because what this era needs is not sameness, but innovation. Even if you buy steamed buns, you have to be different. In fact, many people are left behind in this difficult incubation period. They get boxed lunch and continue to make a mediocre one. As long as you can be patient and find out your own characteristics, your skills will be in place. Then you can be a persistent person and taste the sweetness at the last moment. 4、 The plan should be close to reality and a completion list should be prepared In short, the plan needs to be persistent, never stay in the comfort zone, nor aim too high, but close to reality. For example, you can easily read 10 pages of books in a certain professional field every day. If you only care about the quantity, you can brush up to 30 pages. The more reliable way is to read about 20 pages, deeply understand them and integrate them with practice. You must not make a general plan, which is full of principled content but without practical operational provisions. Such a plan has no binding force on you. Don't forget it. It will be inconvenient to ask for it. It is better to make a list of your plans. If you have a good idea of what to do, you have to break down the things you want to do into small tasks in advance and make a list. For example, I want to open a store at the end of the year, so I will arrange a weekly plan for myself every week to specify what I should do every day and what course materials I should look for on the Internet every weekend to improve myself. When we sort out these lists and strictly implement them, I believe that you will slowly transform and become very executive. You feel good when you cross off your to-do list. 5、 Read more, this is the best and cheapest way to counter attack Reading is the cheapest way to change yourself. Through reading, you can see all kinds of people, all kinds of destiny, all kinds of life. In reading, you can find out your own shadow and outline your own life path. Candy said that she had been familiar with a dream of Red Mansions since she was a child. Although she didn't know what those characters were doing at the beginning, in the face of such a thick book, she was more disgusted and sometimes rebelled. Fortunately, my father always liked to test me from time to time and often asked me to tell him the plot inside. Later, with the experience of life, I realized why that was the classic. There are many good books around us. For example, when I met you this time, I thought of the kite runner. This novel is about the story between the master and the servant's children. It is unfair. Meeting again after a lot of things will make you understand a lot. Another example is les miserables, which tells that people who steal a loaf of bread because of hunger are imprisoned, suffer hardships, and finally escape. They punish those bad people through the wealth support of their cellmates. This story tells you that good is rewarded for good and evil is rewarded for evil. It is always good to focus on good. Although the novels are all fictional stories, most of them reflect the reality and the way of dealing with the world. You will find that those who show their sharpness will never live long, those who are timid will always be bullied, and those who do not know how to adapt will generally achieve little, so it is best for people to learn to be mellow. However, there is one more point. You should not read fast food articles. For example, there is nothing you can learn from books that can only make you stupid. Finally, candy said that if you have to do your best, then listen to God!