Arnold Schwarzenegger is a legend in Hollywood. He has no special performance training, but he ranks among the mainstream stars in Hollywood. After rising in the bodybuilding industry, his strong body and hard muscles like steel were recognized as the only candidate for making thrilling action movies. Austrian born American fitness athlete, actor and politician is a Catholic who was educated at the University of Wisconsin Superior. He was appointed governor of California in November 2003 and resigned on January 3, 2011 for a term of seven years. I want to talk to you about my own success rules and how to realize your dreams. Imagine that you are a 15-year-old boy living in Austria, and then one day you tell people around you, "I want to be a world bodybuilder champion." Of course, they will answer you like this: "wait, this sport has no Austrian spirit at all." But I can't care how others pour cold water on me. My heart knows very clearly what I want. This goal can't be clearer. Know what you want I began to train for an hour every day, then for two or three hours. When I was 18 years old, I practiced for five hours a day. At the age of 20, I became the youngest global bodybuilder in history. After that, I won championships again and again. When I decided to end my fitness career, I had won 13 fitness competition Championships, more than anyone else. Next, I moved forward more hungrily, because I knew that I could not live on fitness all my life. Finally, I found that I wanted to develop in the entertainment industry. However, once again, I encountered many obstacles. I found many agents, and they all told me the same answer: "you can't be an actor." I told them, "I don't just want to be an actor, I want to be the protagonist." They laughed in front of me and said, "stop it. Listen to your own accent. As long as you have that strange accent, you can't be the protagonist." Fear of failure is the biggest obstacle But you know what? I didn't listen to them. I began to practice hard, just like when I was working out. Day after day, I spend five hours a day on actor courses, pronunciation courses, accent removal courses, etc. I did everything you could imagine. Slowly, things began to go smoothly, and the shortcomings they said before gradually became my selling point. I acted in one film after another. Finally, my film salary in Terminator III was $30 million, the highest in history. My experience tells you again that nothing is impossible to achieve. The same is true of my political career as governor. Many people think I'm crazy. They say that no one can parachute to run for governor at once. "You should climb up from mayor and Senator." But I said I don't want to be mayor. I want to change California. I want to be governor. What happened? I won the 2003 gubernatorial election, and I was re elected in 2006. What I want to tell you is that on the road of life, I will always meet many people, hear many voices, and constantly tell you: "you can't do this!" If you hear this, then, "don't listen to them!" Remember my words, you must understand 100% what you really want, firmly believe in yourself, and then let go. Of course, you will encounter some failures and setbacks next, which is a necessary part of life, but if I am afraid of failure, I may not even be able to lift weights once. For example, when I first tried to lift 500 pounds, I didn't succeed, but I continued to practice, and by the eleventh time, I succeeded. Keep hungry, believe in yourself, don't stick to the rules, don't be afraid of failure, don't listen to those who doubt you. These principles have brought me countless success and wealth, because I abide by my rules, and my life so far is both wonderful and interesting.

On the road of life, there are three kinds of mindsets that are the most dangerous. No matter how powerful this person is, once there is one of these three mindsets, it will leave too many hidden dangers on the road of pursuit, which will greatly affect success and happiness. There are three disadvantageous attitudes that hinder a person's success in life: complaining, doing your best, and self pity. The first mentality that hinders life: complaining First, let's talk about complaining. No matter in life or work, complaining is always a poison. Complaints in life will turn the wife into a resentful wife, turn the husband into a coward, and make people dare not face a little twists and turns in life, thus affecting the whole family relationship. Now most divorces are also caused by complaints; Complaints at work will make people careless about work, make people unable to see opportunities and success, thus affecting interpersonal relationships. Although they work hard, they have no work performance and do nothing. From the perspective of psychology, complainers are a kind of self-confidence, because they don't believe that their abilities can change the environment and the people around them. Therefore, when they encounter things, their first thought is how to eliminate the responsibility from themselves, so they will always blame others, everyone around them, everything, and they will feel that everything is unfair to themselves, and their purpose is to excuse themselves, Is to find a good reason for yourself when you can't solve the problem. Moreover, people who complain for a long time cannot have a strong mentality of success, and are unwilling to face things and solve problems with all their heart. They always hope that everything can be very ideal, can be as they imagine, and can have results beyond their expectations without any effort. What is more serious is that if you complain for a long time, your psychology will change, you will have many unreasonable ideas, you will feel that everything is unfair, you will feel that all people and things are aimed at yourself, and you will be hostile to everything around you; Then they will become haggard about any small thing, but they are unwilling to spend their time to solve the problem. Generally, people who complain lose their sense of responsibility, because in the long-term complaint, such people will not introspect, can not see their own problems clearly, and will not understand the dominant position of a person in all things, will completely ignore the power of the ID factor, and will think that everything is because of the environment, and will feel that the role of people is too small. People need to clearly find themselves. People who don't know themselves will become ignorant, will have no bottom in their hearts, will be unsure of themselves, will dare not take responsibility, and will think of how to shirk responsibility before doing anything. Therefore, there are often couples who complain about each other because of various problems and eventually divorce. These people have never thought that no matter what kind of problems they encounter, as a person, they should find ways to solve them, instead of complaining about the unfairness of society or the incomprehension of the other party, they should find more reasons from themselves. To give some simple examples, now the society often complains that the house price is high and can't afford to get married, blaming this society for being unfair, and blaming some girls and families for being jealous of money. In fact, this is also a kind of abnormal thinking. For such a problem, what we should want is not to complain, but to work hard to make money on the one hand, and on the other hand, find ways to make the girl and her family change the idea that they must get married only after a house. Both of them are difficult, but they are not impossible. If you really work hard, you can really let the other party see your efforts. Even if you are not a blue chip stock now, most people are still willing to invest in potential stocks. But if you don't work hard and fight for it, it can only be a junk stock, and you don't have to blame others for not daring to invest. The same is true at work. We often hear some voices, including those complaining about customers, companies, leaders, colleagues and the market. There are all kinds of voices; However, these voices never think about why there is time to complain, instead of trying to solve these problems? Complainers often have no sunshine in their hearts, nor can they see the beauty of the world, let alone pursue success and happiness. The second mentality that hinders life: do your best The so-called best effort is to do something or not, and in many cases, it is to do nothing. The essence is very simple. All people who say they try their best, even if they don't do anything, will feel that they try their best. Friends and colleagues often chat with me for life and work reasons, and I always like to ask, "did you really try your best?" Not many people dare to give me a positive answer, because from their replies, we can see that they didn't try their best at all, and most people didn't even try their best. Doing your best is also an excuse to avoid responsibility, and it is also an expression of lack of confidence in yourself. You don't believe that you will succeed at all, so give yourself an excuse in advance. In case you don't succeed, tell yourself that you have tried your best, and the failure is due to other reasons. For life, no matter what things are solved, you should tell yourself to be like a soldier. If you don't succeed, you will die on the battlefield. Although you are defeated, you are still proud; And we can't be like a coward who doesn't dare to fight with all his strength and dare not fight at all. Things are spelled out. If you don't spell them, no one can help, and no one can solve the problem. Doing your best is doing something or not, or doing nothing; Try your best, it's better to be benevolent if you don't succeed. This is the way to achieve success. The third mentality that hinders life: self pity Finally, there is self pity. Because of different life experiences, many people will always feel that they are different, and they will always feel that they should have some advantages in psychology, so as to become overly self-centered, guard constantly, and have an excessive sense of self-protection. For such people, in fact, it is very contradictory. On the one hand, they will emphasize their own personal abilities and refuse others thousands of miles; On the other hand, he likes to rely on others, hopes others to help him succeed, thinks that others should help him, and thinks that others owe him. Such a state of mind will lead to being too sensitive when judging things and getting along with people, so that you can't see yourself and the surrounding things clearly. Living completely in a closed space built by yourself will make communication difficult, and will also show some ideas that are too selfish or incomprehensible to most people on many issues. From the perspective of psychology, the emergence of this mentality lies in that this person can't face the reality, can only live in the past experience and shadow, dare not really face the problems encountered in real life, and have no courage to think about ways to solve problems with innovative thinking. In a deep sense, it is a kind of self-protection consciousness formed outside and inside by internal inferiority complex afraid of being discovered, Most people with this mentality will show conceit or pride, but this kind of performance is false, just to hide their inferiority. No matter which kind of mentality above, it will greatly affect the exertion of personal ability, hinder people's success, and make you unable to see yourself and your environment clearly. If there are two or three of them, it will be more serious, and even in the end, it will not only accomplish nothing, the family will not be happy, but also there is likely to be psychological problems.

A friend in an institution and I complained that life was boring and work was boring. As soon as we arrived at the unit every day, we would boil water, sweep the floor and read newspapers. The actual working time every day was only an hour or so. Taobao was picky every day, and then we entered the retirement period before the age of 50. I asked her why she didn't spend her spare time reading? If reading extra-curricular books is too eye-catching in the unit, it's better to learn programming with computers, be familiar with software, or even read more relevant government documents, and figure out the writing ideas, which can also prepare for future improvement. She replied that the whole unit was idling away, and she had full time in her hands, but she could not raise any interest in learning. I just realized that people need encouragement. No matter how loud the saying that learning changes fate is, we can't see the use of knowledge in the short term. It's still very difficult to stick to learning just by love. I can't help thinking of many friends who work overtime at ordinary times. Even in the interval of returning home from the subway, they all want to set aside time to learn some knowledge outside the business. Just because, in the real business, there is no shadow of public institutions, upstream, not advance or retreat. This is the difference between a group of catfish and a group of captive goldfish. However, sometimes the aquarium where these goldfish are located is too big, too heavy, and the water is too warm. They can't see the crisis, so that Ning Ke sinks to the bottom day by day, believing in the illusion in the aquarium. In the Internet era, the rapid flow of information and the muddling of life have formed a huge contradiction. People are aware of the desire for change, but they often have a corner in the illusion of life. Many units in the system belong to such a fish tank, which is huge, heavy and attractive. But this is also the place where young people are most likely to hallucinate. Just because most young people at the grass-roots level are facing a desk, an office director and a leadership report. On the contrary, the leaders at the top have the longest vision and the strongest sense of crisis. This is not only because they have been struggling for many years, but also because they can see the balance sheet of the enterprise, hear the competition pattern and smell the high-level wind direction. Their information sources are diverse and their horizons are broader. Interestingly, they have far more retreats and ways out than young people. Therefore, under the huge information asymmetry, the screws at the grass-roots level are the least clear about the prospects and are prone to depression. The leaders at the top can be exquisite, and driven by the sense of crisis, they constantly embed themselves into a broader network, making themselves irreplaceable. At that time, if the boat sinks, it goes without saying who can escape faster. Depression is often fatal. When people have nothing to do, they often fidget, feel anxious, and seek innovation and change. But in inefficient units, they will always hand over all kinds of piecemeal work from time to time, which is lauded as the exercise of small things and the cultivation of meticulous ability, and tied you with praise, affirmation and respect. This is like a set of strange play upgrade system, which allows you to get the pleasure of completing tasks in a short time and gradually indulge. So that you will begin to be eager to complete those little things, to pursue perfection and praise every word. At this time, not everyone can look up, re-examine their work and life, and recognize the difference between big and small things. If one day, if you start to question the meaning of what you have done, maybe this really declares the gloom of your job prospects. What value do you provide to society? Is your service to customers worthy of your return and resources? Compared with the most struggling peers, what you do is really competent? After returning home, in order to help the company apply for qualification, I went to a government department for six times. Until I finally gave a box of gifts, the female director of the office began to make the process smoothly. If a person's value is reflected in the use of power in this way, and the realization depends on this, it is difficult to say that this system is healthy, and it is difficult to say that human value has not been misplaced. If your return is much higher than or equal to the marginal value you generate, it may be because of monopoly, price stickiness or slow adjustment of social organizations. If it is the former, it is often the role of authority that brings monopoly, the benefits brought by huge assets, rather than based on personal values. Please be prepared to be discarded as a screw at any time. If it is the latter, social changes have been accelerating, and collapse and reorganization occur at any time. More importantly, you should remember who you are competing with - an ambitious person, an envious person, and an actor who wants to take a share of the profit premium. No matter how big the monopoly is, whether it is the Empire of China Resources, the hegemony of hydropower or the basic industry of oil, countless people will stare at it, and the high-rise buildings can collapse at any time from an instant. Those who are willing to dance with it should always ask, have they made contributions to the indestructibility of this system? In the past decades, it has brought indestructible power to your ship. Can it still play a role today? The former is about the individual and the latter is about the whole. If the two do not account for one, it is dangerous.

When I was studying in Paris, I published many articles, which were praised by many people. There are some articles that I think are good, but I always think they can be written better. I just suffer from no guidance. I was secretly looking for the secret to my career. Until I was 25 years old, I finally found this secret. It came from a great man and changed my life from then on. It was a weekend. I went to Maidong to visit Rodin. "Maybe you'd like to see my studio?" He said affably, "I'm afraid there's nothing interesting. Don't be bored." I followed the master to his studio, a simple room with huge windows. The table is full of sketches, and some finished statues are placed on the ground. The rest are clay sculpture parts: an arm, a hand, a finger, and some even tiny details such as finger joints... I was absorbed in the sight, and turned around to find that Rodin had put on his work clothes and was standing in front of a wooden shelf. "This is a new work." He carefully lifted the wet cloth, and a bust of a girl appeared in front of him. It was a small sample made of clay, with soft lines and lifelike details. I couldn't help but exclaim: "it's perfect!" Rodin looked sideways at the statue, stepped back and stared at the girl in a trance. The tall, broad shouldered old man with white hair seemed to have become a young man in love. He said softly, "the lines on his shoulders are still too thick. It's almost here..." the master picked up the scraper and gently slid the wooden blade through the moist and soft clay, leaving a soft luster on his skin wherever he went. Rodin walked up and down in front of the shelf, turning the sculpture table from time to time. His powerful hands kept shining in his eyes, "and here... Well, here..." he said to himself as he revised, nodding excitedly at times, and then his eyebrows locked. (www.lz13.cn) he pinched a small lump of clay, stuck it to the statue, and then scraped it open with a wooden knife. A strange and vague sound came from his throat. So half an hour passed, an hour passed... Rodin didn't say a word to me. He forgot me and the whole world. Apart from the works in his hand, he has no second thing in his eyes. His focus was as if God were creating the world. I don't know how long it took. Luo Dan took a sigh of relief, threw down his scraper and smiled with satisfaction. He picked up the cloth again and carefully covered the girl, as if he had put his shawl over his lover. His face was warm and caring. Then he walked briskly to the door. Suddenly he saw me and was surprised. He stared at me for a long time before he remembered me. Rodin became a simple and hospitable old man again. He felt embarrassed and flustered for his faux pas: "I'm sorry, sir, I completely forgot you. I mean..." but I didn't mind. I held the master's hand with gratitude and worship in my heart. It was this afternoon in Maidong that the master gave me more enlightenment than all the things I learned in school combined. I have learned the necessary ability to achieve all arts and great undertakings - concentration, which is the ability to concentrate my will on the work in front of me, big or small. Only then did I know what I lacked. There is no secret to a successful career other than concentration.

What is executive power? A job search record of an American wounded veteran. This is executive power, that is, never make excuses. There was a veteran in the United States who was wounded on the battlefield. When he returned to the place, he was also older. In addition, he was wounded and became a disabled veteran. So it became very difficult to find a job. Many units rejected him, and every time he took a firm step and continued to look for possible opportunities. This time, he came to the largest timber company in the United States to apply for a job. He was blocked by the recruiters and refused to hire him. At this time, he finally found the vice president of the company through several checkpoints. He said firmly to the vice president: "vice president, as a veteran, I solemnly promise you that I will complete any task you give me. Please give me an opportunity." When the vice president looked at his age and his appearance, he really gave him a job like a joke. What kind of job is that? It was a mess in the middle of the United States. Before that, the company sent many excellent managers, but they did not do the job well. Because there were bad customer relations here, the company's arrears could not be recovered for a long time, and the company's image there was damaged. The vice president thought: a manager better than you can't complete this task. I might as well sell a favor and let you prove yourself that you are not that material. The veteran said, "I promise to finish the task." The next day, he went to that market. A few months later, he recovered the company's image there from the central United States, smoothed out the customer relationship, and cleared almost all the arrears. On a weekend afternoon, the president called the veteran to his office. Say to him, "I'm going out to do something this weekend. My sister is getting married in Utah. I'm going to attend her wedding. Please help me buy a gift. This gift is in a gift shop. There is a blue vase in the very beautiful window." After describing it, he handed the addressed card to the veteran. After receiving the task, the veteran solemnly promised his boss, "I promise to finish the task!" The veteran saw the train carriage and seat of his boss behind the card, because the boss told him that after buying the vase, it would be OK to send it to his carriage. So the veteran took immediate action. He took a long time to find the address. When he found the address, his brain went blank. Because there is no store described by the boss, no beautiful window, and no blue vase on this address. Ladies and gentlemen, if it were you, what would you do? I would say to my boss, "sorry, the address you gave me is wrong, so I can't get the blue vase. However, the veteran did not think so, because he promised his boss that he would complete the task. So I thought of calling the boss for confirmation at the first time, but the boss's phone has been blocked. Because on weekends in North America, the boss doesn't allow others to disturb him. Usually, the boss's mobile phone doesn't answer the phone. What should I do? As time went by, the veteran combined with the map and swept the street. Five blocks away from the address, he finally saw the shop described by the boss. Looking from a distance, he saw the beautiful window. He had seen the blue vase. He was very happy, but he rushed to the store. As soon as the door was locked, the store had closed early. If it were you, what would you do? You will say: I'm sorry, boss, because the address you gave me was wrong. I finally found it, but it was closed. However, the veteran did not think so, because he promised his boss that he would complete the task. The soldier finally found the phone number of the store manager by combining the yellow pages and the address. When he called, he said he would buy the blue vase. The other party said, "I'm on vacation and I'm not open." Then he put the phone down. If it were you, you would say I'm sorry, boss. I can't buy it because it's closed. You will find a lot of reasons why you did not complete the task. However, the veteran did not think so, because he promised his boss that he would complete the task. He was thinking that even if I paid a heavy price, I would get the blue vase. He wanted to break the window to get the blue vase, so the veteran turned to look for tools. When he finally found the tools and came back, a policeman came from a distance, fully armed. The policeman came to the window and stood there motionless. Then the veteran waited quietly for a long time. The policeman didn't mean to leave at all. At this time, the veteran realized something. He dialed the manager of the store again. His first sentence was, "I guarantee with my own life and the reputation of a soldier. I must get the blue vase because I promised that it is related to the honor and life of a soldier. Please help me.". The man stopped hanging up and listened to him. He told the story of how he was wounded on the battlefield, because he promised his comrades in arms that he would save their lives and carry them out of the battlefield. For this reason, he was seriously injured and left disabled. The manager was moved by him and finally decided to send someone to open the door of the store for him and sell the blue vase to him. The veteran got the blue vase. He was very happy. But at this time, the boss' train has already left. What would you do if it were you? You will find out a lot of reasons to explain to the boss: the address you gave me was wrong. I finally found it. The house has been closed. I finally got this blue vase after setbacks and tribulations, but your train has already left. However, the veteran did not think so, because he promised his boss that he would complete the task. So the veteran called his former comrades in arms. He wanted to rent a private plane. Because many people in North America owned private planes, he finally found a person who was willing to rent the private plane to him. Then he took the plane to catch up with the next station of the boss' train. When he panted and ran into the platform, the boss' train just slowly pulled into the platform. According to the car number the boss told him, he went to the boss' car and saw that the boss was sitting there quietly. He carefully put the blue vase on the table. Then he said to the boss, "president, this is the blue vase you want. Take it to your sister. I wish you a pleasant trip." Then he turned and got off. At the beginning of the new week, on the first day of work, the boss called the veteran to his office. Say to him, "thank you for the gift you bought for me. My sister likes it very much. I thank you for completing the task. In fact, in recent years, the company has been selecting a manager to be the president of the Far East region, which is the most important department of the company. However, in the process of selecting managers, we have been unable to achieve our wishes. Later, the consulting company gave us a blue vase to test the method of selecting managers. In the process of selecting a manager, most people didn't complete the task because the address we gave was false. We asked the store manager to close the door in advance. We asked him to answer the phone only twice. In the past test, only one person completed the task because he smashed the glass in the window and got the blue vase. We felt that it was inconsistent with our company's ethics and was not hired. " So in the later tests, we specially hired a heavily armed policeman to guard there. But none of this has hindered your determination to complete the task. You have accomplished your task excellently. Now, on behalf of the board of directors, I formally appoint you as the president of the company's Far East region What is executive power? This is executive power, that is, never make excuses.

From small to large, we were taught, "how we want to do, how we can't do, if we don't follow the right path, we are doomed to failure." This is the so-called success theory summarized by our predecessors. Our predecessors use this theory to spur our growth. Once upon a time, I came out in such an environment. The school teachers told us to study hard, attend classes on time, have ideals, and listen to the teachers and parents, so that we can be happy and succeed. Looking back at the moment, I still remember the painstaking efforts of high school teachers on the podium more than ten years ago. I also remember that junior high school teachers punished me for clearing the snow and making me stop because I was naughty. They all wanted to make us successful and happy years later. But do we feel happiness deeply? It seems not. Instead, more and more people feel that I am not happy enough. CCTV once did a boring roadside talk show and asked an old man if he was happy. The uncle said, "my name is Zeng, not Fu." This is actually an irony. I have forgotten what the word "happiness" is. In fact, in my opinion, success and happiness do not depend on how many things you have done right in life, but on how many times you have stood up from your failures in life. In 2004, I graduated from college. Under the persuasion of my parents, I still didn't want to take the postgraduate exam. I think the society is so big, and I want to work hard. I have a cavity of blood, I have a cavity of passion, and the society can do anything for me! After looking for a job and asking about the salary, I found that I was wrong. So much blood and passion is worth 1800 yuan a month. You can't even pay taxes. My parents were worried, and I was also angry, but the depressed mood did not last long. I told my parents that I would resign and take the postgraduate examination next year. My parents were very nervous and told me to make a careful decision. If you don't pass the exam, it will be very difficult for you to find a job again. I understand my parents' worries and know my desperate decision, but I don't recognize my current failure, don't come out resolutely, and don't break through those so-called worries. Why can I laugh more happily after three years. In the past 10 years, I encountered my first failure in my career. Because I didn't pay attention to self-management and asked for instructions from leaders in advance, I was punished by the company at the second level. At that time, I was so unruly that I finally ate the bitter fruit. Behind the bitter fruit was the darkness you could never understand under the sun. Because of this second level punishment, I experienced hardships in my career development in the next five years. Because of the second level punishment record, I missed several opportunities for promotion, and I almost missed the job transfer opportunities that were very important for my career transition; I also missed the opportunity to appear in the company's glorious history of 20 years, 20 people and 20 events. Dad told me to keep a low profile and lick the wound in the corner. Don't let others laugh at it. But I feel that I have come out of this failure. I can say to yesterday's me bravely: failure is not terrible, and it is terrible not to stand up. I was positive. Because of this failure in my career path, I thought about my social skills for the first time. It made me think for a long time and continue to improve; I have also found the voice from the bottom of my heart, leading myself to the career direction suitable for me, and thus I have known a broader world; Therefore, I have a habit of thinking and summarizing constantly. I have a very tacit understanding with the company's publicity department. Although I regret that I have not had the opportunity to select 20 people and 20 events in 20 years, I am honored to be invited by the organizing group to give comments and comments, and leave my name on the precious album. Life is not made up of success over and over again. That is too false, and you will not realize the deep joy of success after failure. The understanding of life, the desire for success, the light understanding, the longing for life and the definition of happiness will become common and profound because of your perspective after stepping out of the shadow. The reason for this passage is that I have seen many stronger friends than I have. They rolled through the rugged road with determination. Now their understanding of happiness is so profound and their smiles are so gratifying that I have the impulse to write this passage. Be brave and walk out of failure is the success above success.

The most common offence is oral practice. Whether a person's fate is good or not can be seen from his virtue. Therefore, oral industry is very important. People will not do immoral things every day all their life, but immoral words, ugly words and immoral words may be said every day. Over time, all the blessings have gone from this mouth. Therefore, people who don't talk morally have ups and downs in their lives. There is an example around me. A young man in my town is in his thirties. He is handsome, but so far he has achieved nothing. He has no job, no career, and the children of his age are in primary school. As for him, he has no wife and no children. He is an old bachelor. He wears sloppy clothes and sometimes doesn't wash his face for several days. He is dirty like a tramp. He can't listen to any good words. He will stare at you and quarrel with you. Do some small business. You don't want to make progress and have no ambition. You know how to eat and drink. He loses money when others make money. He hasn't made a profit since he took over the business. The money he loses plus interest over the years has overwhelmed the whole family, and the family's wealth is declining day by day. Even when he had to borrow a relative's house certificate to borrow money at a high interest rate, his 60 year old mother had no choice but to come back and help him with his business. The little friends who played with him looked down on him who was far away from him. On the surface, this young man is not bad. Why is he not good enough. After careful observation, you will find that this young man is not very good at speaking. Perhaps because he was early in society, he was contaminated with a lot of bad habits. He has been talking since he was a child. He doesn't have a stable look. He doesn't respect his elders, respect God and Buddha, and he talks nonsense when drinking wine. How cheap your mouth is, how cheap your life is So I understand that for such a person, the blessings have already run away from his mouth. How cheap your mouth is, how cheap your life is. Why have you been single since your marriage went wrong? On the surface, there are various reasons. From the perspective of cause and effect, it is that he has no blessing and can't support marriage at all. Because only people with the same blessings will live together. People without blessings will not meet good marriages. A little lucky woman will not live with him. Why did the young man lose so much money in business? Or is it because there is no blessing that can make money. His blessings have already been reduced. How can he make money in this way. If he could not learn from the bitter experience and repent, the situation in his later years would be even more desolate. The blessings have long gone from his mouth Oral virtue is the same for everyone. Many blessings are lost through the mouth. Some people say that I haven't done anything bad. You know, this bad business will do great harm to the welfare. As the ancients said, words come from the heart. If your mouth keeps saying bad things, saying the right and wrong of others, and saying some curses, you will lose your blessings quickly. It's not just about right and wrong, but even the bad words of our elders. It's also a bad reward. Some women like to complain about their husbands. They say that their husbands are bad. Even their parents and grandparents dare to scold each other when they quarrel. What is hard to hear is what to say. Such stoma is very serious. In this way, the family will only be poorer and poorer, because you scold all the blessings. Therefore, we must pay attention to this matter. Be virtuous and don't be mean. In this way, you can keep the blessings. Be virtuous and don't be mean. In this way, you can keep the blessings. Why can a mouth spoil a blessing. You should know that blessing is the law of origin, the combination of karma and harmony, and also the embodiment of an energy field. For example, when you go to a temple to do volunteer work, do you sweep the floor or wipe the table to bring you blessings. None of them. It is the mind that brings you blessings. We send out the heart of benefiting all living beings, to sweep the floor, to clean up, and to make love with all living beings. This mind is sent out, sensing the compassionate positive energy of the universe. At this time, it is blessed by the positive energy, creating the origin of blessing. This is how blessings come into being. If you complain, you will lose your happiness soon Those who lose their blessings also lose them with heart. The heart tends to be selfish, complaining, jealous, greedy and wasteful. At this time, we will lose our blessings. Good news is also a result of heart, and then cooperation with action. People complain, do not cherish what they have now, complain all the time, and chatter through their mouths. At this time, the bad luck will soon be rewarded. This is also a miscreant. For example, Lindaiyu is smart and articulate. If this is not good, the reward will be very small. Say good things with your mouth and be kind with your heart According to the Sutra, the Buddha speaks softly and pleases the hearts of the people. All living beings in the ten Dharma realms were very happy after listening to the Buddha's speech and were absorbed by the Buddha's language. This is also the reason why Buddha has practiced for many years and said love words with his mouth. If you have a good mouth and a good heart, the universe will emit a good magnetic field. What you get is also a good return. What is called kindness, we must first be content and grateful. Contentment is a form of achievement. The more a person practices, the more self-sufficient he must be. Only when he is satisfied and grateful in any external environment can he represent progress.

01 When I was in college, I participated in the English speech contest. After I entered the contest, the judges came up and said: the competition system has changed this year. Before that, the logic of the competition was very simple. When you finished your speech, the judges and guests began to score according to the score. Everyone did not know their ranking before scoring. But that time, all the rules of the game changed. In front of the judges, there are only two lights, one is called pass, the other is called leave. No middle option, no pending, either outstanding or out. After that competition, I carefully observed many TV programs, and almost all of them were like this, either selected or eliminated. The audience's view was simple and the judges' selection was difficult. Although the forms were different, the overall trend became the same: Yes or no, I want you or I don't want you. I once asked a TV man why he was so cruel. Can't it be more comfortable to make a decision? If you have to be so cruel, you just have to Yes No, which makes people so embarrassed? He said a word to me that I will never forget: isn't life so cruel? 02 The world is really cruel. People are like this. They are either outstanding or out. There is no middle option. In China, there are always more golden mean fragments, which make people feel more comfortable. However, these golden mean fragments increase the gentleness and complexity of our lives, but it is always cruel to uncover the logic behind these golden mean. When a friend of mine came to Beijing to look for a job, he submitted several resumes. His favorite company was a venture capital company. After the interview, he heard the other party say: you go home and wait for the news. When he returned home, he waited anxiously until several other companies sent him offers and hoped that he would join the company as soon as possible. He still didn't wait for the email from that company. He sent an email to that company and didn't give an accurate reply. Until he gave up the offer, he learned through his internal friends that he had already lost the election. He complained angrily: why didn't you send me an email to tell me that I was rejected? Just tell me clearly? Why do you have to drag me? I almost turned down other companies. I think this is the logic of most companies. If there is no news, you will be rejected. But is it so difficult to send a rejection message? I'm sorry you're out so hard? Later, I found that it was really difficult. In this society, rejection means hostility, and hostility means making enemies. Therefore, in the field of job hunting, in addition to being outstanding and out, I had a third choice: to be determined. The logic to be determined is basically dead. This option does not exist in itself, but it gives people such a glimmer of hope because they are afraid of offending others. But behind this hope, there will probably be greater disappointment. The same logic is still in love. Over the years, I have seen many boys and girls with good conditions have spare tires. I have been very puzzled by the logic of spare tires. Shouldn't a pursued boy or girl agree when he likes it and refuse when he doesn't? No. We also have a third logic, which is to be determined. I have seen a girl say to a boy: I don't hate you, but you are willing to come back when I have had enough fun, and we will be together. God, is there such logic in the world? What's more strange is that the man also agreed. He not only agreed, but also accepted the offer. The two got married. What I learned was that a man filed for divorce a few months after he got married, on the grounds that he had not had enough fun. The love I understand should be simple. If you like it, you should chase it bravely. If you don't like it, don't hang on to others and refuse as soon as possible. The middle option is harmful to people, making people unable to go up and down. You can obviously change your emotional orientation to like another girl, but when you think about it, my goddess gives me a chance. I want to behave well, wait honestly, and be a good spare tire. Can't we be together. Wait, wait, wait until the news of the goddess' marriage. Therefore, in the real world, there is no compromise option, either outstanding or out. The compromise option makes the world complex and even confusing. You can express this idea, but you must not believe it. You must always stand aside, or you will be even more confused. For example, I once asked a friend, what would you like to eat? The friend said, whatever. I said, do you want to eat KFC? He said, what's delicious about KFC? I asked again, is McDonald's ok? He said what was delicious in McDonald's. I continued to ask, what would you like to eat? He said whatever. Well, this is not casual. If you have an idea, you should express it. It's like someone asking me, Miss Li, do you have any taboos? I will say, sorry, I can't eat spicy food. I won't say anything, whatever. 03 You may say that I am extreme and that we are getting worse in this extreme world. Therefore, the golden mean is always the best way. Indeed, it seems that this should be the case. However, under such an environment and thinking, we have become confused and indifferent. For example, if we have to work overtime at night, and our girlfriend wants to have dinner together, what should you choose? The logic of the golden mean is that you work overtime until 10 o'clock and then have supper with your girlfriend. You don't think they offend you. In fact, the boss blames you. Why did other people work overtime until 11 o'clock? You left an hour earlier. Your girlfriend complained about you. Why did you come to accompany me so late. In fact, we can really say to our girlfriend, sorry, I will work overtime today, and I will accompany you tomorrow; You can also tell the boss that my girlfriend's birthday is more important to me. You can deduct money as you like. It seems that you have offended one party. In fact, you have reduced a lot of pain. You can coordinate better. Note that I do not deny the golden mean, but when the world itself is extreme, you choose to go in the middle, but the road is much more difficult. Sometimes, reducing a few options can really help you a lot. A person is an animal that keeps struggling and making choices. The older he is, the more he should subtract in his life: reduce some careless friends, reduce some unnecessary information, and reduce a lifestyle that makes him unhappy. After all, it is impossible for each of us to take into account everyone. You should learn to make choices. Choices can reduce a lot of trouble for you. We all have such moments: how to choose between the two roads in front of us. Many people are wandering on two roads, or they have opened up a middle road. They are tired, slow and painful. Why can't they choose one, walk bravely and forget the other? You know, the worst choice is not to choose. Some people will ask, what if I have to choose one of the two paths and don't let me go in the middle? What if I go wrong? In fact, this is life. If you choose to move forward, don't regret if you give up. Besides, there is no way to go in vain. Even if some roads have no ideal ending, the scenery around this road is also the best memory of your life. So before you do this, you must hint that you are either outstanding or out. Only by moving forward without hesitation can we reap better. 04 Another example. Many students once asked me whether I should take the postgraduate entrance examination or work, and they often asked me the time in October. You know, the postgraduate entrance examination will begin in December. They can't give up their work, and they can't give up the postgraduate entrance examination, which has been vaguely reviewed for two months. The time is very urgent, so they choose a compromise way: one side of the work, the other side of the postgraduate entrance examination. I was exhausted during the day and half hearted in reading at night. In the end, I was dismissed by the leader and failed in the postgraduate entrance examination. This is the thinking of many people. Before doing something, they do not have the determination to sink the boat, and refuse to give up anything. They look for the middle option, and then move forward obediently. As a result, they worry about gain and loss and do not try their best. However, do you find that when you are determined to take the postgraduate entrance examination in the last few months, or clench your teeth and work hard, the victory rate will naturally be much higher. Of course, you can say, what if I fail in doing so? But at least you have done your best, don't regret it, summarize the reasons for your failure, polish your weapons and meet the next battle. In addition, you are so young, why are you afraid of failure? It's a big deal to start all over again, or it's a big deal to succeed late. So, in fact, this is the best choice when you are young: either outstanding or out. If you choose, stick to it. If you give up, don't regret it. Choose a road you like and walk without hesitation, even if you are black and blue. The way you choose, you have to walk on your knees. Life has no middle option and no shortcut. Even if there is, it is the path you vaguely see when you come to the end. However, no matter how circuitous the road is, the scenery on the roadside will always be irreplaceable and the most beautiful experience.

one Two men fall in love with a woman at the same time. A man said: this woman is very beautiful. It should be hard to catch up with. B man didn't say anything. In winter, he took a cup of hot coffee to pick up the woman from work every day. He made pig tripe Soup for her on weekends and played with her where she wanted to go. When a woman was ill, he also bought medicine and porridge and stayed with her all the time. More than a year later, the woman became man B's girlfriend. A man knew and said, "what's so good about this guy? I actually like him.". Then he turned around and felt dejected. He couldn't understand where he was worse than B man. Whatever else, in the step of action, man a lost. two In summer, the circle of friends is basking in vest lines, mermaid lines, a good figure with protrusion and kyphosis and eight abdominal muscles. Zhang Dawei also went to get a fitness card and thought about exercising at least three times a week. However, he has not gone to the gym more than three times in more than three months. Watching others sweat, Zhang Dawei said, "how tired it is to exercise. It's better to stay at home and blow the air conditioner." A year later, when the fitness card expired, Zhang Dawei said with a sad face: "I'll never do this again. I wasted more than 2000 yuan in vain." Without execution, nothing can be done. The real executive power is not an impulsive decision, but "strong action + long-term persistence". three The US Military Academy at West Point has trained 3700 generals and two US presidents in more than 200 years of history. Many people do not know that the most important of the 22 rules of West Point is "act now". At West Point, when soldiers answer orders, they can only have four answers: "yes, sir"; "No, sir"; "I don't know, sir"; "No excuse, sir.". There is a plot in "shining sword": Li Yunlong and Zhao Gang discuss to set up a special team to select soldiers who can do martial arts. Zhao Gang said, "well, you can do it as soon as possible!" Li Yunlong said, "don't hurry. I'll do it right away." Execution does not talk about if, but only about results. A successful general should first be a person with excellent execution. four No matter how good policies and strategies an enterprise has, if it cannot implement them, it will become empty talk. Wal Mart department store, founded in 1962, ranks first among Fortune Global 500 enterprises for three consecutive years. The company has 8500 stores in 15 countries around the world. Wal Mart's success lies in constantly developing ways suitable for business development in the traditional model and implementing them to the letter. Barnevik, the former chairman of ABB in the United States, once said: "5% of the success of an enterprise lies in strategy and 95% in implementation." The way for an enterprise to survive is to act at the first time, solve problems and implement the strategy to the letter. five With regard to executive power, the book wolf executive summarizes two points: