Most of the idle are apt to worry. Sorrow to sorrow, life is still so a life, the world is still so a world. Friend: From my many letters, it seems that you are not at peace these days. Trouble is a kind of old age, is a kind of morbid, you are still a eighteen or eighteen years old youth, so depressed, I really worry for you. General people like to talk about the metaphysics, you say trouble, he will be from the "philosophical dictionary" in drag out "world-weariness" "pessimistic philosophy" such as Tang Zai emperor zai words to describe your illness. I don't know how you feel. It seems to me that I myself have tasted trouble before, and I only feel that there is no way to worry. Not only others know, but also myself. There is no such thing as philosophy and outlook on life. I have also learned some lessons from philosophers. When I was in peace of mind, I admired the corridor philosophers of ancient Greece and believed that one should turn to nature instead of hating, liking and coveting. I admire Tolstoy and believe that the beauty of life lies in forgiveness and love. I admired Browning and believed that beauty was only possible when ugliness was present, but not entirely true; However, when the external sensation comes, the heart surges, and even the greatest philosophy cannot resist it. This is due to lack of self-cultivation, but how many young people have self-cultivation to the point of "unmoved"? In the past, my elders used to say to me "should not". They said that a young man like me should be vigorous, should not grow old, should strive for learning, should not put his worries and pleasures in his mind. Thank you, please keep this "should" prescription, the future trouble people are more! Friends, we are but the slaves of nature, to conquer nature, had to obey nature. Against nature, trouble is filled, to get rid of boredom, also must give your natural impulse a chance to vent. Life is active, good development, good creation. To be active, to be able to develop, to be able to create, is to obey nature and to enjoy happiness; Do not move, do not develop, do not create, is to destroy vitality, can not help feeling vexed. This fact can be seen in buzzwords such as "comfortable" when we feel happy and "depressed" when we feel unhappy. These two words can be used as adjectives or verbs. When used as adjectives, they describe the state of being fast or unhappy; When used as verbs, we can say that they give a reason for being fast or not. You feel troubled because your life is depressed; If you want to be happy, you must make your life can be comfortable, can vent. In popular words, there is the word "idle sorrow". Idle people are mostly easy to worry, because the vitality is still and uncomfortable in leisure time. Young people are easier to worry about than old people, because young people are more energetic. Children's vitality is also strong, but do not know sorrow, because they play all the time, so their vitality is not depressed. The children occasionally did not like it, so they burst into tears, and then the anger disappeared. How can you cry when adults feel upset? Coptis bitter in the heart, so the more bitter. Goethe wanted to commit suicide when he was a teenager because of his love affair. Fortunately, his writing changed and he buried himself in writing The Sorrows of Young Werther for two weeks. When the book was finished, his anger was relieved and his suicidal thoughts were eliminated. You don't have to write a book when you're worried. You can read a few Lamentations, listen to a tragedy, and drink your sorrows. I used to wonder why the more sad the story is, the more pleasant it is to read, until recently I realized this truth. In a word, sorrow is born in depression, the method of relieving sorrow is leaking; Stagnation because of static, the method of relief in motion. From the perspective of modern psychology, all the Confucian words on the mind nature are very crude. Only Mencius' idea of "complete nature" has a very profound and broad meaning. All moral doctrines are superficial if they do not start from the basis of "full nature". If you understand the word "do" thoroughly, I think the purpose of life is here, the way of life is also here. Human nature is complex, but human beings are animals, basic nature is nothing more than moving. We can find infinite pleasure in the middle of follower. I can prove this truth with two small things: Once I lived at home, I always liked to clean my study by myself. Every see books messy, dust all over the ground, you personally go and sweep, suddenly the cloudy world into a window bright clean, leisurely sitting, swim and let loose, but have indescribable comfort; For example, you are happy to play tennis, when you play hard, you still remember the so-called trouble between heaven and earth? You probably remember the story of Tao Kan of the Jin Dynasty. He had always been dismissed from office and had nothing to do, so he moved bricks. One hundred bricks moved from the house to the house in the morning, and one hundred bricks moved from the house to the house in the evening. People asked why, he said: "I am committed to the central Plains, too you Yi, afraid of unbearable." He also said to others, "Yu the Great, the sage, cherishes the Yin. As for everyone, you should cherish the Yin." In fact, why should we move bricks, but his old gentleman is still very strong, borrow this thing more activities, so as not to be depressed and bored. Friends, the most bitter sorrow of leisure! Sorrow to sorrow, life is still so a life, the world is still so a world. If you see yourself as great, you for trouble, when there is "disdain" to look at; If you look small, you should have a "not worth it" for trouble. I advise you to play more tennis, play more piano, plant more flowers, and carry more bricks. If you don't like these things, you can talk and laugh, run and jump, is fine. Here I wish you: talk smile, run jump!

Mother Jane Reed We were hiking in the pouring rain in the Swiss Alps when my 74-year-old mother called out, "I want to tell you that I love you, just in case I get struck by lightning." It can happen. We're well above the tree line. Now the roles are reversed. I'm protecting her. The thunder rumbled and we took cover under a boulder. Later, on the way back, mother slipped and hurt her hand. As I pulled out my first aid kit, I remembered how my mother always nursed my wounds, both physical and emotional, and I said from the bottom of my heart, "I love you." I was diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder when I was in third grade, and my two older sisters lived with me. We share a bedroom in our home near Milan. Every night, they waited for me to turn the lights on and off 38 times. When I drive out, I have to count every street light. After counting street lights for a few hours during the 12-hour drive, I was so exhausted that I broke down and cried. The sisters said, "Sleep, and we will count for you." Knowing that my sister will share my work -- even when I fall asleep, life goes on. It meant the beginning of my recovery. Meet Mark Sams At the 96th Street subway entrance, there was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She was obviously waiting for someone. Maybe waiting for her husband? Anyway, I'm not the type to talk to strangers. I sighed, went down the stairs, and got on the subway. Just as the bell rang and the car doors closed, a friend of mine rushed in with the beautiful lady. My friend introduced me to a pretty lady -- her sister. That's how I met my wife 30 years ago. In my freshman class at Fu Jen University in Taiwan, I was the only student from a slum, and I didn't think I deserved to be among the rich students who spent the summer abroad. Eventually, I dropped out. Thirty years later, the school asked me to speak to its students as a successful immigrant. After the speech, a freshman sent me an email: "I feel exactly the same way you did. Can we be friends?" It was like my 19-year-old self coming back to me and seeking understanding and encouragement from others. I told her: "You are important, please keep talking."

In addition to the heart, not in addition to things. Something you can't refuse, can't except it; But what the heart wants to remove, the heart does not go up. Our era is a fast-paced era, we are very busy every day, and often feel regretful, busy at the end of the year, the Chinese New Year dinner, think about this year is very busy, and then think, what is busy? And found out that nothing happened. I wasted a year. Two feelings came out at the same time: really busy, but busy for a year and don't know what to do. Buddhism teaches us not to do in addition to the heart, the heart does not go up. The body can be busy, the heart is not busy, that is busy heart is not busy. Now a lot of the situation is reversed: he doesn't have much to do; he is not busy in body, but busy in mind. For example, today's white-collar workers, he is always very busy, overtime work, boring ah...... Heart does not go up, you are not busy. Anyway, think good, today is to go, nine to five, eliminate good back. There are many things one must do in this world. Buddhism is said to be a pastime, so do things. Taoism says that when we do things, we should try to remove the subjective, ego factor. Confucianism says that this should have been done, because we do not live alone in this world, we are in a certain relationship with others, and the realization of our individual ideal of life cannot be separated from the relationship with others. Therefore, we want to establish ourselves as human beings, and we want to achieve ourselves as masters. This matter, as long as it is a matter of establishing people and talents, I will also be in it, and do it well. It is not a means, but its own purpose, which is Confucianism. By combining Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism, Chinese philosophy solved a basic problem: how to achieve the unification of the world and the world, or to use our most common words today: how to achieve the unification of romanticism and realism. It is a basic understanding that one should first have the spirit of transcending reality and then come back to do things in real life. We have just given the principles of the three schools of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism in general. Now let's look at the first step: how to be born? Let me give you a passage from Book 45 of the Tripitaka, which contains a text called The Theory of Treasure. "For example, there is a man in the gold closet. Always look at the body of gold, do not see the public. The sight of others is gold. Neither confused by the phase, that is, separated. Always look at the gold body, there is no false. And so it is with the real person." There is a warehouse, which is full of all kinds of gold objects, gold bowls, gold chopsticks, gold necklaces, gold rings, gold bars, and so on, a whole warehouse. A man went in. What did he see? If we go in, what we see is a variety of faces: this is a ring, this is a bowl, that is chopsticks...... That man is different. He sees the gold itself, the body of gold. The difference of all kinds of gold is the appearance. He does not look at faces, that is, he does not look at people. Of course he saw the difference, but it was all gold in his eyes, and he could not be deceived by the appearance. Such people could be called real people. What does this paragraph mean? If you walk up to me with a Louis Vuitton bag, I look at it, oh, the world's top brand bag, and then I look at my own bag, and it's not a bag -- it's still a bag. Why is it so hard for us to get ahead of reality? What is blocking the way to transcendence? We are affected by the difference of phases. The difference is so real: you do minister, I am still a small clerk, the difference is really quite big. It's real, it's objective, but we're stuck on this objective distinction. This objective difference, we ordinary people know to be true. But real people? He is blind to the masses, always looking at gold. Here's the difference. We want to go beyond the reality of the road, called birth, the first step is: to sublate the difference. The difference, indeed, is what our senses see. We see the necklace differently from the ring, but we also have another ability to see gold itself. Kim himself, how did he see it? King is not what the eye sees. When you see the gold body, it is your heart that sees it. Your eyes can see the organ, the heart can understand the body. A real person can see the real thing in the midst of all the differences in reality, just as he can see the gold itself in the midst of all the gold objects. But where is the body of gold without the vessel of gold? There is no gold but gold, is there? Gold is either a gold bar, or a gold bowl, or a gold ring, take out the gold alone, can you get it out? Can't get it out. It can't get out of the device. This shows that it is our heart that sees the body of gold, but what the eye sees is not false. It is called an organ. The body can't exist without the organ. There are several meanings here, a little philosophical speculation in it. First, the body is perceived by the mind. Second, the body cannot leave the organ. Third, the mind can see the body, so the body that is seen is the same thing as the mind. Huineng was right. Huineng said, "Buddha's dharma is in the world, and leaving the world to seek bodhi is just like seeking rabbit horns."

In 2019, I finished my postgraduate study in Ireland. In order to catch up with the college enrollment in China, I gave up attending the graduation ceremony and went back to China to find a job directly. During my graduation season, I sent my resume to dozens of companies. The longest offline interview lasted nearly a day and a half, and the shortest was 15 minutes.

We all feel the turbulence and stranglehold of life as we inhabit it. We can be overwhelmed or resilient, and the storms we've been through form a mask. We want to be seen, heard and cared for so much that everything they say and do leaves a deep imprint on us. At the same time, as our limbs stretch out in all directions, our sense of self-worth continues to take root, inch by inch. When pain strikes, we want everyone to bleed like us. When we are drunk in despair, also wish everyone as vulnerable as themselves. Jealousy and despair can make us so narrow, but we can also become something else entirely. When we are in a vortex of fear and must take risks on our own, we may puff up others to keep ourselves out of the spotlight. It is inescapable human nature to flatter others as a lazy escape from our own insecurities. We are always so adrift, one moment we may be completely here, the next moment we may be completely away. Only with honesty can we return to our true inner self. I was once struck by a bout of jealousy. An old acquaintance went to a lot of trouble to find me and appeared in front of me like Zorro, insisting on "talking" about my work. After that, I was in a deep state of exhaustion, feeling vilified. Then I realized that jealousy can be like a wave back, outwardly giving, but secretly pulling away with the other hand. The denigration of the heart is more destructive than the deprivation of the hand. When I got home, I found myself in a deep state of guard, as if I could be attacked by something from behind.

Plato says we are born whole, but we need each other to be complete. It's a natural law. A flower has every inch of its petals and color, but it needs to be pollinated to become complete; Seeds have all their inner potential, but they need sunlight and rain to grow into corn, wheat or potatoes. Every poem, every painting, every piece of music -- every act of love is already inside us, like a seed, and only after being nourished by the sun and the rain can it fully blossom into the world. This is especially true of our inner light. Some call this inner light spirituality or soul, others call it divine grace. But we can also simply call it an "eternal life force" that is constantly looking for an opportunity to release itself. In fact, every creature is like a match head, wherever it goes, it carries an inner flame. This creature came to earth, like a match, only in this world to find something to rub against it, to set itself on fire. How we strike our matches determines how we live our lives. It is an undeniable fact that we need to interact with the world in order to express our innate wholeness. Sometimes we strike the match ourselves, and sometimes our match heads are lit. Sometimes the frictions of life can be painful or even embarrassing, and sometimes they can bring us freedom. Too often, we try to avoid friction in our lives because of our own internal fears, as if by doing so, we would be free from the wear and tear that life creates for us. But while this would leave the head of the match intact, it would also lose the chance of being lit. Unlike a match, our inner light is not only lit once and then gone. In fact, the more we embrace life and interact with the real world, the brighter our flame will be. No one knows exactly why this happens, but it's true. Different spiritual sects have alluded to this theory. Every time we sincerely embrace our life experience, it is the key to finding the light within us. The essence of addiction is that people are addicted to the act of striking a match -- on themselves or on the world -- rather than waking up to their own inner light. If we don't come to terms with what we have within ourselves, if we don't tap into our gifts and talents within ourselves, we become obsessed with the stimulation of external friction, thinking that the stimulation or chemical reaction itself is our life force. This stimulation may come from alcohol, drugs, sex, crisis, gambling, or various high-risk activities.

In ancient times, in order to survive better, our ancestors learned to remember dangerous situations so that they could react quickly when needed. Otherwise, they had to think every time they encountered a wild animal, they would have been eaten. This is how our brains work: think once, remember, and the next time you encounter the same situation, just call up the old memory. You don't have to rethink it, because thinking about it is very slow and energy-intensive for the brain. Our brains are brilliant at reducing complexity to simplicity, but the legacy is that we increasingly rely on the use of memory, or habits, to make decisions. People, born in the pursuit of simple and comfortable, in the case of ignorance can be lazy will not be laborious, which makes the vast majority of people innately resistant to thinking. However, we have evolved from ancient civilization to scientific and information civilization. In modern society, the fundamental difference between people is the difference in cognitive ability, and cognitive ability is extremely dependent on thinking ability. It can be said that thinking ability is the fundamental competitiveness of our foothold in modern society. Therefore, people with long-term vision will actively and deliberately hone themselves, trying to improve the density of thinking every day. People make decisions at two levels. The first is an "emotional decision". For example, when you see someone working out, taking photos, or painting, your adrenaline starts to rush and you immediately say you want to do the same. The second is "rational decision". Rational decision also means to want something, but it means that one must have already thought about why, how to do it and the possible difficulties. People who make "emotional decisions" tend to do things by halves, while people who make "intellectual decisions" are more likely to let their thoughts become reality. The same is true of reading. When people start to hate the status quo and want to be better, the first thing they want to do is usually to read a book. Many wise people love books, books give them different things, so anyway, reading more books must be good. Such decisions are emotional decisions based solely on a strong desire. The promise of life seems right in front of us when we think about how reading can make us better, so we can't stop asking for a list of books and then immediately go on a shopping spree online or in bookstores. There is nothing like the pleasure we get when we take a book off the shelf or click the pay button online -- it seems that the knowledge becomes our own as long as we possess the book, but when we open it, we lose interest. Abstruse theories, abstract logic, boring cases, black and white tones... The experience of reading is far from what you imagined. It's not as fun as scrolling through your phone. After a few days, the books will not be able to turn. They used to look ecstatic, but now they look hideous. I guess you still have a lot of unopened or dusty books in your bookcase? The other group of people are a little better, they can keep reading, and read a lot, very fast, hundreds of books a year, really "love books", but the only thing that does not make them satisfied is that reading so many books without any change, even more confused. Reading this thing although good, but a lot of traps, not want to read can read.

In 2017, at the age of 36, an age many would consider too old, I set out to explore. I find that having something to do every day does not mean awakening, and working hard every day does not mean awakening. Real awakening is a desire from the heart, to stay in the long term, to stay patient, to use the power of cognition to make friends with time. I find that the fundamental difference between people is the difference in cognitive ability, because cognition affects the choice, and the choice changes the fate, so the essence of growth is to let the brain cognition become clearer; From brain science, cognitive science, psychology, behavioral science, sociology and other disciplines, I began to learn the possibility of my own growth, understand what I want, understand part of the rules and truth, and know the method and path to realize my dream... From chaos to vigilance, from confusion to clarity, I gradually unlocked the secrets of "desire awakening" and "method awakening". I knew how to stimulate and maintain the internal motivation of self-improvement, and how to turn bitter perseverance into scientific cognitive drive. When I shared these thoughts and methodologies online, they struck a chord with many readers: they were amazed at how far I had come in such a short period of time, and they sent me unsolicited feedback, saying that the depth of my article was so profound that it gave them strength and hope. At the same time, they kept asking me to help them with their growing confusion. From these questions, I saw countless people who wanted to grow and decided to help others while growing themselves.

We are the lucky generation that has caught up with the biggest period of development of human society so far, with technological progress, abundant materials and the interconnection of everything. We are living longer, we are more intelligent, we are more wealthy, and we can pass this on to the next generation through genes or funds. But no matter how advanced the technology, there is one thing that can't be transferred directly: the mind. The so-called mind, generally speaking, is our attitude towards people and things, and the judgment and choices we make from it. Everyone comes into the world with a view of life, a view of the world, a view of the values, all from scratch. All habits, habits, patterns have to be developed from the initial state of human nature. This is true of you, me, our parents and our children. However, the initial state of many people is chaotic. They naturally pursue simplicity, ease, comfort and certainty. This nature dominates them and becomes the physiological starting point of their happiness and sorrow. Our ignorance of ourselves makes us look like an "awake sleeper." I know that it is impossible to be awake and asleep at the same time. The two are obviously contradictory, but before pointing out this logical error, you might want to follow me through the trajectory of our lives and you might agree with me. If nothing happens, most people will grow up along the route of "study, work, marriage and love", moving forward with the inertia of life. When we are young, few of us think how bad our future will be and assume that better things will come naturally. We don't know the world, we think: even if we don't know exactly what to do, but have a full confidence is enough, after all, young invincible! But the reality doesn't always turn out the way we think. After many years of this confidence, most people find that they do not become special, but constantly obey the rules of society and deal with the troubles of life. They start to go with the flow: should play mobile phone, should play video games; Not much pressure, not much motivation; I feel that I can get by anyway, that I still have hope in my heart, and occasionally I struggle and cry, and then I continue to make myopic choices and indulge in the comfort of the present. They have no idea of the rules of the world: they do not know the composition and framework of things, they do not know the path and method of efforts, and they do not know what they really want, what they can do, and what kind of person they will become. These people drift along to a certain age when they suddenly realize that there is nothing more they can do for the world: the gap between their dreams and reality is huge, life and work pressures are overwhelming, and the best of their peers are gone. For a moment, they are anxious and awake: "Why didn't you know the truth about the world sooner? Why didn't you wake up at the best age?"